The main thing is to filter those who provide no value or worse, negative value. Or simply take up more time even if positive value than you are willing to expend on Not Getting Laid.

The problem is a lot of guys get stuck on "She might", and start trying to solve The Pussy Puzzle.

NO! BAD PENIS. BAD!

This is exactly one of those situations where your dick will lie to you. Scarcity and sunk cost fallacies rapidly set in.

If you aren't happy with what you are getting at this very second, that very second is when you need to fucking bail. Simple as. No, you fucking spergs, this does not mean some grand speech, or "closure" or any of a hundred of other situations where you open your fucking sperg mouth and give her a chance to assign you as Bad Guy.

No, you just find somewhere else to be and someone else to spend time on. If she wants to be a priority in your life, that's her job to figure out how to make it happen, not yours.

I've been telling a lot of other men various portions of this for years, whether at the WAATGM comments section, on the trp.red side of this site, or various TRP or askTRP comments sections. I figured it was about time I stopped repeating myself and consolidate this info into a single post I can link back to in the future.

Caveats: much of the female behavior I'll discuss here is done out of instinct; they frequently won't even realize they're doing it. If you accuse them of keeping you as a backup option like a retarded autist, of course they're going to deny it. They aren't consciously aware that's what they're doing, and they don't like being accused of being a "bad person". Besides, none of this is about morality anyway, but rather about what's beneficial or detrimental to you as a man.

Conventional RP/MGTOW/manosphere wisdom is that men and women cannot be friends.

While this is generally true, it's not without exception.

Generally, if a woman puts you in the FriendZone, it's for one or a combination of the following reasons:

• she wants to reject you without being "the bad guy" and still has some of that instinctive fear that you'll become violent if she says how she really feels ("eeew! get away from me!").

• she's not attracted to you enough to throw her pussy at you, but you're not so repulsive to her that she wants to reject you outright, and so wants to keep you around as a backup option (aka orbiter).

• she doesn't want a sexual relationship with you, but still wants to use you for attention, favors, etc.

That third thing is the worst part of being FriendZoned. You're wasting time, resources, effort, and energy on someone who isn't interested. As Rollo pointed out, women will crawl over broken glass to fuck a man they want to fuck. If you allow yourself to be used in this manner, and she's doing nothing for you at all, this is what most guys in the manosphere are talking about when they advise against having female friends.

however....

Genuine friends who are female, while rare, can exist. Here's how you filter for them:

1) try to get her to fix you up with some of her hot friends. If she sets you up with a decent one, while steering you clear of man-eaters, then she's a real friend. If she constantly makes excuses for every single one of them as to why she can't/won't introduce you, she's more than likely trying to keep you as a backup option.

2) if you start dating a woman, get a girlfriend, or even just hook up with a chick at a party, is the friend in question happy for you? If so, then she's a real friend. Does she act jealous and weird? She was most likely using you as a backup option and hates that she's losing you as one. (yes, there's a possibility that she's a real friend and knows your new woman is bad for you. while possible, this doesn't happen all that much from what I've seen.)

3) does she do things for you, even though she clearly won't sleep with you? Does she give you gifts, or cook meals for you, invite you to parties she's hosting, etc etc etc? Or are the friendship gestures strictly one-sided, with you doing all that shit, like moving her furniture, buying her shit, etc? If you have an ounce of sense and self-respect, then you know what the answers to these questions mean.

that's great, Typo, but why would I want any female friends?!

Aside from the same reason you want male friends (companionship, you do shit for each other, etc), they offer something male friends don't necessarily give very well: strong social proof.

Women tend to be cautious around men they don't know, and for good reason. But if they see that you have female friends, a lot of their trepidations vanish. You are safe! You aren't going to cut them into pieces and feed them to pigs! You aren't going to put them in a pit, starve them until their skin is loose, and then kill them to make a suit out of their skin! Yes, it's kind of silly, but it makes sense from their perspective.

If you find yourself in a woman's FriendZone, just pay attention to how she treats you. Decide what you'll tolerate, and what you're willing to do for others and what you expect in return. Don't be afraid to let users (of either sex) fall away, while still cultivating friendships with the ones who help you on your journey (or at least are fun to hang out with without draining you).

I’ll give a serious, non-judgmental reply, mostly because I used to do this around when I was 18. I did this because I felt butthurt that I wasn’t chosen back then. I hadn’t taken the red pill and didn’t understand why girls liked what they liked, and I wasn’t yet interested in the self-improvement aspect men generally need to go through.

First and foremost, whether you block them or not, you are not going to sleep with them. Not only that, since women form a hive mind with their fellow girl friends, if one of them thinks you are beta, they probably all do. For you, this means your “female friends” are unlikely to ever help you sleep around. So the conclusion is: it really doesn’t matter if you block them. You won’t get laid either way. In a way, that’s liberating for you. You have no sex to gain from them, so you also don’t need to put effort into them.

Now, be honest with yourself. Do you feel really bad about being in the friend zone? Does it suck that you weren’t chosen for booty call? I don’t mean this to mock you. Be really honest, and accept it. It’s part of the red pill journey. You can block them if it gives you closure, and keeps you from wasting time with them. In fact, just do it, just this once.

What you really need is to not take it so personally, and of course, learn game so you don’t end up in the FZ. And that might just take time and experience. Block them now, own up to your feeling of being “unselected” for sex, and eventually, move on. I suspect you have is outcome dependence, that is, you care too much about being FZed or getting laid with these girls. Outcome independence is much more likely to actually get you laid. Inside a woman’s hamster: he doesn’t care I rejected him -> he is emotionally stoic -> he isn’t or is less beta than other guys. Doesn’t guarantee success, but it’s a good start.

OP, I don’t know how old you are. Hopefully on the younger side. But even if older, snap out of it. Having outcome dependence just won’t help you plain and simple. In the future, you shouldn’t feel the need to block most girls, only the really emotionally abusive ones, like borderline girls.

-From a bozo who used to be just like you

For example, 2 of them used to buy me dinner or gifts all the time. Just, no intimacy.

Ok, so female friends.

I've been blocking them because I fear that I might get jealous and simp at some point, and ridicule myself but idk if this is an ego thing because those chicks could still be useful as wingmen. Or they might not because they might gossip about how they friendzoned me to other chicks.

I doubt they'd gossip about you in a way that's detrimental to you

And I'm also not telling them anything when I block, so it might seem weird. I could be overthinking things as well. Any insights?

Look.... female friends is good. No need to block, so long as they are genuine friends. Genuine friends benefit you and your life and it's a mutual thing. If that's what it is, great.

The ones you block are the ones who friendzone you while being shitty friends.