Poor man. He got unlucky. Got snared by what looks to have been an attractive woman at peak value. He didn't know what to do in marriage as he had no experience, so he did what he was told.

Behind every smug satisfied woman who doesn't know what the secret to a good marriage is there is almost certainly a man who has sacrificed too much to giver her what she feels is a good marriage.

Marriage today offers a net loss to men. Do not marry men. Listen to me. I am not married. I own a house with no mortgage and some land. I have paid for every penny of the house and land myself. I have a small but satisfactory pension that is now not too far off my time horizon. I am contemplating the idea that maybe I would be better out of my relationship in which I have paid for everything so that someone else could be an unsatisfied home maker. The only thing that is holding me back from a sweet life of freedom is a feeling of not wanting to abandon someone who I have travelled a long way with and who has born me children. If I were married, maybe I would be suicidal in this position. Do not marry.

She's quite right. For her and many like her, there is a diminishing value in men if you have your own money and men are not as hot as they used to be, especially when you are just beginning your cougar years. You won't get much money any more but bored 20-30 year men will still rail you when they have nothing special to do.

Thing is I am afraid that I have some bad news for you lady. This little obstacle of men not being quite as good as they used to be is just the little warning ditch before the wall. You didn't look in the mirror. You aren't quite what you used to be yourself but you still have the power of fertility, so you haven't realised it. The tables have not quite yet turned, you are stood very close to the neutral tipping point. You are not what you were at 21 physically and you are much more entitled. You have less to offer too. The ground has always leaned in your favour, so why should you be aware of anything else.

Your short term value is about identical to a man your age now, just a tiny bit higher because you are still somewhat fertile. You don't realise it but your long term value is actually already a lot less than a man your age's. You could cling to hope in this your last moment in the light. You could try to secure someone to keep you warm in your dark years and if you were really, really lucky, you just might make it. Or you can have a last ride on the carousel. I know what you will choose but I still wish for your sake it was otherwise.