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@SeasonedRP I second this and had meant to get back to this yesterday
btw, why'd you delete your OP, @MidgetSpinner?
Been meaning for a while now to get my teeth sunk into a bit more stuff with my homelab. So over the past few weeks I've been rewiring, tidying up the network, setting up some new servers/services etc.
Also been a good learning opportunity to mess around with some low-level linux stuff, and actually do some programming.
Cracking on with gym, diet and sleep dialled in.
And just getting some time to kick back and play some games and watch TV.
Hopefully a very productive next few weeks.
Have decided to take a little break from plate spinning, possibly until the end of the year.
Most of my plate have naturally dropped off over the past few weeks, and honestly I just can't be bothered to go through the whole process of speaking to women, going on dates etc. Especially given that in 2 weeks I'll be going to Asia for a month.
So probably 2 weeks, go to Asia, come back mid Dec, few weeks, Christmas, then start afresh in the new year.
Spending the time getting on with some other bits and just relaxing.
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Seeking advice on how to save this.
Known her since childhood. Our fathers in business together. Our families were close. First love, lost virginity together, everything simple and good. Then our fathers fought. She left easily and coldly as if it had all meant nothing. Heart fucking torn to shreds.
Discover red pill in my anger phase, hate all women for a while, go back and forth between improving myself and wallowing in depression. End up fucking around 70 women over the next two years, unable to have feelings for any of them.
Reconnected with first girl after two years, regularly hate-fuck her. Offered a relationship in a vulnerable moment. She refused, scared of her family's disapproval of me. Still wanted to fuck me on the sly.
Stupidly got her pregnant on purpose with intent to abandon her for revenge. When she did get pregnant I knew I couldn't and decided I would take care of her for the rest of her life if the child was mine. Told her I wanted nothing to do with her pregnancy or baby until I could see a positive paternity test. Cut contact during the pregnancy. She claimed she hadn’t been with anyone else. Paternity tests are not common here and are associated with trashy people on tv shows. Me withdrawing my emotional and financial investment in her until she got one was a huge blow to her and her family, painting her like being a low class whore. Her family furious at both her and me, she had no real support during the pregnancy or the childbirth. Birth was hard 30 hours and she was alone except for medical staff. Claims the experience changed and traumatized her. When she called to tell me the baby was born, coldly told her I would get involved when the paternity test was done.
Paternity test positive. Moved her into my house. Being a good father. My love for her and our son runs deep. She is an excellent and loving mother. I provide her with stability and a stay at home mom life. Made her life relatively easy and comfortable. We get along. We have good sex. But she is extremely stoic like a man. Bitterness runs beneath the surface. The dread during the pregnancy and birth affected her too much. Hair falling out, way too much weight loss, hollow eyes, not eating or sleeping much, not taking care of herself. The way other women yell and cry and let their feelings out would be a thousand times better than this lingering tension and mistrust.
Fear she’ll leave again, maybe with the child. She’s afraid I’ll do it first. Her family hates me. Were very close to me when I was a kid. Might turn her against me.
How to act? How much alpha attraction, how much compassion/comfort?
Wishing to restore what’s broken, innocence and trust we used to have.
To answer my own question: Will try going 80% alpha strength and 20% beta comfort. Just a guess. Know women more likely to stay with bad man they respect than nice man they don't. Have hunch it would be good to bring on this kind of yelling and crying emotional way that most women act when they are upset. It is cathartic for women to let that out, no? It is better than her putting on a front and bottling up her stress and wasting away, no? Asking other men for more suitable advice. Would not bother posting if I could figure it out on my own. I want to love her. Are women not diabolical if men must hold back the fullness of our love in order to earn their respect?
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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MidgetSpinner - I'm suddenly seeing choosing signals everywhere, and I don't know why.
Not an important post, but it's something I've been noticing only lately and it has me confused - not complaining though. I wondered if you guys might have any insight...... [more]
You went from a dry spell to getting laid again. You're giving off confidence without realizing it.
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Reply To MidgetSpinner - I'm suddenly seeing choosing signals everywhere, and I don't know why.
Not an important post, but it's something I've been noticing only lately and it has me confused - not complaining though. I wondered if you guys might have any insight...... [more]
Hey man, i've been reading your posts for a while. I sympathise and identify with a lot of what you say.
I think the issue with you is this: you are controlling for the wrong metrics. You leave your house and you are instantly gauging how much / little women want you.
You may have heard the phrase before: a woman can only ever be a side quest. She can never be your purpose.
I would encourage you to broaden that from 'woman' to 'women'. Women can never be your goal, your purpose. They can only ever be an accessory to a life well lived.
You have put women (plural) as your main quest. It is in everything that you write. We hear nothing of any plans to make your life worth living, other than the conquest of women. You seem to be seeking validation and attention from women in general, and this is making you anxious, miserable and you have a general feeling of unease, depression and directionlessness.
The answer is that you need to focus on YOU. You need to develop your career, your network of friends, your social circles. Find out what it is about you that is worthy (it cannot be the attention and validation of women).
In many respects (I am not trying to shame you, it is basically the fault of the culture and society that we live in) the weltanshaung that you are exhbiting is essentially a female orientated world view. Women naturally base their entire self worth on the amount of attention and validation that they can get from men. This is evolutionary biology at work - without male vaidation and attention, females would die. They cannot take care of themselves, so they need the attention / validation of a man to live. Firstly from their father, and then from a male that will love and protect them.
What you have done is adopt the posture of a female and translated it into a male verision - your entire life appears to be dependent on the attention of women.
You know what to do. You know the path you need to take. Make something of yourself. And do it for you - not for the imagined future attention that you believe you migth obtain from some fictional woman / women of the future. That way lies madness.
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Reply To MidgetSpinner - I'm suddenly seeing choosing signals everywhere, and I don't know why.
Not an important post, but it's something I've been noticing only lately and it has me confused - not complaining though. I wondered if you guys might have any insight...... [more]
nothing like getting your dick wet to add some pep in your step
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polishknight - “A kind man is most important, especially if you want a family."
My father, RIP, loved fishing. Every Saturday for 30 years, 5AM to 3PM. He's say that this is like a line breaking because you used too small a...... [more]
3h ago 2025-11-03 04:30:28 WhereAreAllTheGoodMen Forum
asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR.
Piecing together some info from both articles, Alice Eve left Czernin because she wants kids and he doesn't want any more (having 2 adult kids from his prior marriage).
She's now 41.
I'm afraid I have some bad news, Ms. Eve...
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11h ago WhereAreAllTheGoodMen Forum
“A kind man is most important, especially if you want a family."
My father, RIP, loved fishing. Every Saturday for 30 years, 5AM to 3PM. He's say that this is like a line breaking because you used too small a gauge of fishing line: April 24, 2023 https://archive.ph/wuLyC July 18, 2024 https://archive.ph/CAul3
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mjames5434 - Is it okay that I want only virgins for my future wife? It bothers me so much.
I have slept with women from time to time but only for casual fun (they too and they were all non-virgins).
But when it comes to marriage, I cannot help but...... [more]
It's not healthy, it will drive you crazy (because you won't find a virgin, and you will never really know if she is a virgin).
The problem with a virgin specifically is they are either too young for that to be an important trait (an 18 year old virgin is just a slut in waiting) or something is wrong with them (a 25 year old virgin is either lying or has some reason why she didn't get married younger).
Not getting married is always a good conclusion though
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