@Machiaspinner

Is it just a matter of time untill this plate will break

Hello everyone

I've been seeing this girl for about two months. She lives in another city (1h by car) where I have some friends, so I only go there once a month. She's 21F, around a 7.5/10, and the first dates went really well , she showed interest, escalation was smooth.

On our second date we made out, but I had to go back to my city. She later came to visit me, I invited her to dinner, we hooked up and she spent the night. I saw her again when I went to her city, we slept together again.

The issue started when I told her I had a “surprise” for her. What I meant was that I was going to give her a very good time in bed , and I did , she complimented me at bed but who cares she can say this to everyone . She later mentioned she was “waiting for the surprise,” and I got the impression she was expecting something material, which I’m not doing.

Then she reached out again, saying she wanted to come to my city, but she kept pushing to know exactly what we were going to do and if it gonna be more interesting than last times , almost like if my plan didn’t impress her, she wouldn’t come. I told her to come and discover, but she kept insisting. After that she sent me some sexy picture in the lingerie she was wearing last time , and asked me if i miss the red cold , i liked the picture and told her i like red color and looking to see what she gonna wear next time in order to not seem needy .

Looking back, the problem is that I positioned myself as a provider. She’s a student, and I paid for all the dates and now she’s pushing for more. She does show some qualities for an LTR, but since it would be long-distance, I’m questioning if it’s worth it especially that she is hypersexual.

So now I’m wondering: Should I see her one last time and close it properly, or should I just walk away and consider this plate done (She is the only plate i sleep with i have now ,but i'm seeing other girls , scarcity...) ?

Some guys come through here claiming to be banging overseas, while many don't. Whether they are or not isn't the point. What you might consider long distance for yourself, another guy might at worst see as just a mildly tedious commute, as such, 'long distance' won't apply in this situation due those variables. In time, you might be able to realize more convenient fornication opportunities, but I don't imagine you achieving them with this chick without some serious headache.

For now, you should study the book and limit how much time a month you spend on her. This female being a college student usually means that she's both sexually more experienced with guys than you are with females and earns a low-income, so whenever you take her out her empty purse shouldn't be a surprise.

That you value your professional time and energy differently than your personal time and energy is the problem, which is why so many guys position themselves as a provider. Unfortunately, the situation is that your game is inferior to this females ability to manipulate men. Your willingness to spend time communicating with her remotely, expend energy traveling by car to spend time with her, and your eagerness to host her at your place not only revealed your level of interest, but also made her aware that she's got no competition for you.

That she's been willing to travel to your place suggests that so far you haven't done anything to kill her interest, which is good, but you should definitely listen to your gut and continue engaging other females so as to create abundance through stacking plates. I'd also suggest that you seriously reconsider how you value your personal the time and energy differently than how you value the time and energy you spend at work.