My own Red Pill Enlightenment feels incomplete without helping others along the path
These two brothers came of age during the early 80s, in an intact nuclear family complete with a stay at home Mom. However, their cohorts (thus dating pool) were the first wave of children of no-fault divorce.
Younger brother was somewhat of a natural; a bit cocky and funny, outgoing and popular. In high school it was common to open the front door and find a giggling girl or two hoping to meet him. Older brother was skinny, shy, bookish, and introverted. Never attended a dance, or even had a date till he could drive and met a girl from a distant school.
Younger brother had a couple of long term GFs in his 20s, and finally settled down and married a "decent" one and had kids and a corporate job. Older brother struggled with loneliness in his early 20s before hitting a stride in the sexual marketplace. Was a serial monogamist, till reaching a point of frustration with relationships and developing the skills to shorten the time between them. Eventually this time passed zero and he learned to spin multiple plates well before the PUAs invented the name.
Friends and family considered (with varying levels of discreetness) older brother to be unfortunate- never marrying, bringing different girls to family events over the years. Younger brother was considered the successful family man, looked up to by extended family. Their Father considered his daughter-in-law the most wonderful person for his son.
When they reached their 50s, older brother was still unmarried and childless; some considered his life less-than or an outright failure. None of these critics thought to delve into his opinion of his situation. He live the life he wanted, full of risk taking and adventure, starting a business, exploring remote places, off roading, experienced a variety of women and had his choice of several to be with when he wanted.
Younger brother... literally the afternoon his youngest child sat for their final exams for high school, his wife declared she was unhappy with him, HE needed to move out of their house while she stayed and continued hanging around with her special friend that she totally wasn't having an affair with. (Couldn't even wait a matter of days for the graduation ceremony.) The onetime "natural" younger brother was devastated, actually moved into a costly hotel room alone, had no idea what happened, what to do, or how to fix it, and doubled down on every Blue Pill remedy from appeasement to couples counseling. (To the counselor's credit, they said the wife was out of line in this situation.) Some months later, he thinks things are on the mend; they are spending time together and not fighting, but older brother knows better (affirmed when SIL dropped niece off at curb down the block and drove away sight unseen when she was picking up her car after some work.)
The brother who struggled with women in his youth learned their nature through a variety of firsthand experiences. When the Red Pill came along, he found it explained his own and family's experiences perfectly, and more importantly, offered RELIABLE PREDICTIVE POWER about how women and society would behave and perform in various circumstances.
The brother who enjoyed natural success from a young age chose the monogamy/family route. He followed the Blue Pill Tradcon script, only to be blindsided and see over 20 years of life crumpled up and tossed out at his wife's caprice.
The reason I choose now to write this basic Red Pill post is a recent influx of TRP critics and detractors. Like the Blue Pill folks that affirmed the younger brother's life, they pitch a dead Tradcon ideal, using mostly moralfagging as justification, while unironically dismissing the perspectives of seasoned men in the community from their late 20s/early 30s life experience base.
The older brother in this story doesn't engage the Red Pill community because of a cult of personalities, or brainwashing, or clinging to an untested ideology. He remains involved because its ideas and concepts have been PROVEN correct, time and time again, even when he disbelieved or wished women and society weren't the way they are.
His advice to anyone on the fence or doubting TRP's relevance and efficacy: Don't accept these (or any other ideas) uncritically; go out and TEST THEM in the real world, against competing theories and established institutions.
Something the ones using descriptors like "brainwashed" and "cult" fundamentally misunderstand about this place: Other Red Pill men have already done this work, made our own observations, learned lessons the hard way to get where we are. We don't rely on the affirmations of third parties to believe in our firsthand experiences. Anyone who follows another uncritically has completely missed the point.
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This is a question that comes up frequently on TRP, with a huge surge in the wake of Roosh V's radical change of course:
Does a lifetime of plate spinning inevitably lead to mid-life existential crisis and dissatisfaction?
Important caveats: This essay isn't intended to diagnose or explain Roosh V specifically, nor does it take a position on whether marriage/monogamy/family or single/polygyny/childfree will bring higher life satisfaction for you. I'm mainly going to share my own life experience, about which at >10 years farther along than Roosh I can say with confidence:
No! I could not be happier with my single independent life.
Of all the mid-life crises I have witnessed, Roosh is walking his chosen walk with integrity. While I technically understand his situation, path, and motivations in great detail, I find it unrelatable and cannot empathize with it whatsoever. Here are some of the reasons I believe my outcome unfolded so much differently than those who reach a crisis point.
I've never been religious. I'm not here to crap on people of sincere faith, however the institution of religion is one of the most strong and pervasive blue pills in existence today. The feminine imperative has nothing on religion for giving men reasons to defer their self-interests to nonreciprocal other parties. "Live to our standards or burn in hell for eternity" is one of the most dangerous covert contracts a man could enter. The good news is, Red Pill awareness can help one navigate humans willing to manipulate and exploit people's faith to fulfill other people's needs, and prevent the buildup of a house of deferred rewards cards that will never be dealt to favor you.
I've always been a skeptic seeking underlying causes, rather than stopping at pleasant BP fables. Why "should" I "want" to do things according to common patterns and narratives? Why do most people follow the herd and avoid standing out at any cost? An early example, when I was a kid the family went to a stage production of Peter Pan. When Tinkerbell drank the poison and they called upon the audience to cheer to give her strengh, my Mom tapped me and asked why I wasn't cheering. "Because I want to see if Tinkerbell ACTUALLY DIES if I don't clap." People apply surprising amounts of social pressure to help maintain group illusions; the first thing you need to deflect this is really thick skin.
I've never been tied down by marriage or children, and thus have never been beholden to a personal dream killer. Starting a business with nothing, spending time and money on fast cars, dirt bikes, adventures to remote places, all decided 100% on my terms. My Mom and Grandma thought I was the unhappy black sheep of the family by not getting married and having kids. My Sister's oldest kids were fuckups one of whom prompted them to cut contact with the rest of the family; my Brother just this month said his "perfect" wife of 20+ years has been wanting out for months and literally the DAY their oldest passed his high school finals, HE was "forced" to move to a hotel to keep peace. I've seen dead-eyed parents saddled with an unhealthy, retarded, or antisocial addict child, there's no guarantee of children bringing life fulfillment.
** I've engaged and influenced the greater world in grand ways.** I've successfully fought city hall, changed laws, founded companies, led movements, and left durable improvements on people I've known and places I've been.
I've experienced both short term physical and long term intimate relationships, stuck it in crazy, dated much older and younger, shared passionate and companionate love, even have people in their late 20s who look up to me as a stepfather figure 15+ years after breaking up with their Mom.
- I confronted my mortality at a young age; while I don't recommend everybody go through a phase of experimenting with psychedelics in their early 20s, actually feeling like you experience dying, death, and some kind of afterlife several times puts this common human fear to rest nicely. This is a big human question; choose approaches that work for you but neglect it at your own peril.
What I'm getting at in all of this detail is, whereas I've lived "the same" single life of plate spinning that Roosh has, that's not all I've done all of these years, therefore I am NOT coming up hollow and empty the same as he more than 10 years on. If I had to boil it down to one common denominator, it is this: I've largely done things that I want when I want so there's no pool of accumulated unfulfilled desires or resentment of overproviding for others lurking under high pressure within.
So, how can a young man starting out avoid hitting a midlife crisis in an uncertain world?
Although mankind has spent untold amounts of precious time searching for meaning and purpose, and built up huge bodies of ideas and belief systems around these efforts, I've come to believe that they are mostly futile and frequently part of the problem. The TRP toolbox of ideas has much of what a man needs to forge a satisfying life for himself in the modern world. * Don't live your life according to others' needs, standards, and wishes * Improve your mind and body continuously * Look through the comfortable illusions that so many humans settle for; do the hard work and see the world for what it is * Covert contracts come in many guises; recognize and reject them * Actively reject sources found to be feeding you even partial BS. Every falsehood you fail to reject is a rotten beam you're willfully building into your mental infrastructure. A worldview that is fractally wrong will eventually become unsustainable and break its holder, at a point in life when it has become too late to recover and correct. TRP does not emphasize this last point enough.
So many people reach points of uncertainty or crisis in their lives, and their go-to move is to take a big step backwards, to follow past solutions like religion, or Marx, or Freud. Worse yet are the ones who take up these expired banners and use them to lead OTHERS backwards, mainly for their own personal gain, not that of those led. The utility and greatness of these people and institutions was situational, taking humanity from where it was BEFORE to as far as they could. So few who ever take their conflicts and turn them toward becoming the new human unifying and fulfilling institution, or the new Marx or Freud to take us from where we are now to ahead.
The world we live in is changing more rapidly than ever in human history. How can a young person know what to do and which direction to go when the pace of change is so fast that the traditional way of passing knowledge from generation to generation has become simply too slow? To successfully navigate the road ahead, you'll need to know how to learn and how to reject falsehoods.