@Goingthedistance getting rejected reminded me of this one.

There was a farm boy in rural Appalachia who grew up in a dirt poor family. A farm accident caused him to lose an eye, and as they couldn't afford a prosthetic eye, his Father carved him an eye out of hardwood. From that point forward, cruel kids at school teased and taunted him, calling out, "Wood eye! Wood eye!" everywhere he went.

In high school, when all his classmates started dating, he felt abjectly lonely, and insecure that nobody would ever want to date a guy with a wooden eye. During his junior year, the school district put together a big dance for all the upper classes from the high schools in the region.

He felt ignored and lonely as always at social events, until he locked eyes with a girl from another school he had never seen before. She had a nice body, beautiful blond hair and blue eyes, nice skin- but... For some reason her mouth grew vertically instead of horizontally like normal. Wow, she looks like she's into me, and nobody seems interested in her either... here's my big shot!

Like in the movies where the music fades into the background when a couple's eyes meet, he slowly drifted through the crowd toward her. Face to face, he stammered a bit and asked her, "Hi, I was wondering if you would like to dance with me?"

She practically swoons, and agrees enthusiastically saying, "Would I?!?"

The young man is shocked that even such an unusual girl would respond so. Furious, he responds loudly, turning the dream sequence into a record scratch: "Hey! I didn't call you CUNT FACE, now did I???!?!?

When she says she's "never done this before" but she's a professional (tee-hee!)

@NotaBene

O I am part of the last generation to grow up without the internet being a regular part of everyday life. Because of this many of us were "sheltered" and "ignorant". I have come to realize these were gifts.

I never got into porn. When married, neither my wife nor I had ever seen anyone of the opposite gender naked, were both virgins. We had very little idea of how sex worked, and my wife didn't know women could orgasm. Laugh if you want, it's hilarious, I know. But honestly, if I could go back I wouldn't change a thing. For many reasons, ignorance is bliss. This is why I'm raising my daughter in a sheltered way. I hope she grows up just as sexually ignorant as we were, gets married, and gets busy figuring it all out.

Anyway, stuff like this isn't funny, just makes me sad. It's absolutely nuts to me that ~95% of women getting married have previous sexual experience. It's a set-up for failure. I guess this is your daily warning never to wife up a non-virgin.

If you're raising children, should they ever learn about sex and the human body, it should first come from you and their mother, ideally with simple to grasp visual aids. You'll have to revisit that lesson several times a year, because if they're in any way engaging with the wider society, be it school, day-care, church, even other relatives, they'll need to be informed before those outside your household poison their minds.

To that end, I suggest you consider getting yourself copies of "The Facts of Life" and "The Human Body" both by Johnathan Miller. They're both illustrated pop-up books intended to help parents teach their children about human reproduction and the human body, respectively. I still own editions published in the early 1980's by my mother, so while I can't speak on the differences in recent editions, we're likely close enough in age that when I say those books were both incredibly helpful to inform me as a child on the topic of sex and the human body before those outside my family home did you might be inspired to consider them as valuable investments in your family library yourself. I've no doubt that if you and your wife are able to secure copies, they will be invaluable tools in helping you to educate your children.

I'll eventually post more specific details later for everyone to the books tribe as I always do, but I hope you jump on this if you're able.

@hantira2000

Failed to overcome LMR

I went on a four dates with a girl and yesterday on the fifth took her to my place. I put on some music and sat next to her, but when I went in for the kiss she pulled away. I tried escalating 2 more times but she said she just wanted to talk. I was completely pissed and she left soon after. When I got home I sent her a text trying to keep things alive for the future saying I had a good time. She responded with a long text saying that I was rushing, didn't care about her feelings, etc. I told her that I did care about her (lie) but just couldn't help myself. We agreed to talk tomorrow, which is today. What did I do wrong? I might have escalated too quickly on the night and not built enough comfort. Do you think that this situation is salvageable? I think that it's salvageable but it will take me a lot of time to earn back her trust and get the lay.

Anything's possible, but you've not provided not enough information to suggest taking any sort of action would lead to a good outcome for you. Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

For now, you should focus on other things and other girls. Don't ever waste your time lying to people. It's a habit that tends to bleed over into other things and create problems for you as the liar, especially as you're male. The only response you should've made to her text was to say, "I'll talk to you later" and make a note to talk to her sometime the following week. Out of curiosity, did you two kiss at anytime during the previous four dates?

@louistaxi

Should Í approach everyone who is exhibiting strong IOI's?

Í can only have so many sexual partners at once and its becomeing harder to keep in touch with all of them . But í feel immense regret because of letting those girls down who give strong iois, mean like eyefucking, smiling, waving etc.. Will Í just ask for their socials/numbers? Í conclude yes í should, if theres a really good vibe.

You don't have to hookup with every single chick that shows you strong signs of interest, but you shouldn't go away without making the move to get their contact information. Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Who ever has been telling you to bang them all though, you really need to bring them here to help others as they have you. Other guys could definitely use that encouragement.