With almost every plate/gf I have had I always fucked up the sexting thing. I don't see the appeal of it and it annoys me, but I try to game these girls to no avail.

Below is an example of yesterday's sexting that I screwed up. It is a transcript made from screenshots that AI did for me. Context is I was about to meet this plate today:

Me: Yeah Me: Calm down Me: Because tomorrow we're going for drinks

Her (replying to "Calm down"): Why? Hello?

Me: Hehe

Her (replying to "Because tomorrow we're going for drinks"): Hahaha Her: And what am I getting with the drinks?

Me: You'll get it before Me: Tatar Me: But Me: We go band for band

Her: Oh, so I'm supposed to sort out the stuff for the drinks, yeah? Haha

Her (replying to "You'll get it before"): Then I'll dress up nicely

Me: Out in town Me: We'll drink Me: Complain Me: About the prices Me: And buy it at the store

Her: Hahahha good to know, so the car is staying home tomorrow Her: So you've already got everything planned out, nice

Me: Obviously

Her: Damn, then I need to get all dressed up in that case Her: I don't know whether I should steal a second beer from a friend

Me: Steal it Me: I'm on my second one Me: Tbh I've only got two though Me: Strong shit

Her: One was enough to get me because I hadn't eaten anything, but it got me nicely hah

Photo of a 9% raspberry beer.

Me: Yeah, one got me too Me: One was enough Me: XDD Me: Better than liquor

Her: Fuck, raspberry, 9%

Me: Tastes like beer Me: With juice

Her: Is it at least good?

Me: Just a little worse

Her (replying to "Tastes like beer"): Ewwww

Me: But it's alright Me: Fuck, what's going to happen to me Me: Happen Me: Now Me: I downed an energy drink two hours ago

Her: I don't know, but I can take care of you

Me: Exactly, damn Me: Now I'm in the mood

Her: I know, because me too Her: So you need to keep in mind that I can take very good care of you

Me: You really do take care of me Me: Very Me: Well

Her: That's just my charm, I know how to take care of someone I want

Me: Girll Me: What the hell Me: What got into you?

Her: What did I tell you yesterday? Her: Besides, I can stop

Me (replying to "Besides, I can stop"): What's with those claws? Me: Unnecessary

Her: Isn't that something you happen to like about me?

Me: Love-hate relationship

Her: I think you're more on the hate side Her: I guess you don't want me taking care of you

19:54

Me: What do you mean I don't? Me: I like being taken care of by you

Her: Sometimes I get a different impression

Me: Howww?

Her: I told you that last time

Me: Damn Me: Look, I'm practically starving to death Me: Otherwise I'd eat your pancakes

Photo of pancakes.

Her (replying to "Otherwise I'd eat your pancakes"): Come over, there are still some left and you'd get dessert while you're at it Her: Nice change of subject

Me: I was hoping you'd be the dessert

Her: You nailed it - me + whipped cream

Me: Someone's freaky today

Her: Maybe a little, or maybe I'd like you to lick the whipped cream off me that's just sitting there going to waste

Me: Fuck the whipped cream Me: We could do without it

Her: But with the whipped cream it would be different Her: More intense

Me: Right now Me: I wouldn't have the patience for that

Her: You have to, that's the point Her: Gradually, slowly

Me: Exactly, because you're teasing me

Her: And the tension would keep building

Her (replying to "Exactly, because you're teasing me"): I really like teasing you Her: And you like it when I tease you

Me: You know very well

Her: I know very well, and I know you really want me to be next to you right now

Me: Oh, I do Me: But that's not how we're playing Me: Girlll Me: Damn Me: This is some voodoo type shit

Her: You'd like it to be voodoo, but it isn't

Her (replying to "Oh, I do"): Exactly Her: I also know that if I were at your place right now, you'd take my clothes off faster than ever

Me: Fuck Me: I've been thinking about it all day

Her: Now you're going to spend the whole night thinking about it too

Me: Professional Me: Amazing

Her: And you know what you can do for me right now? Her: Remember how we spent that last night together Her: Remember the way I looked at you Her: What I felt when I was with you Her: And the satisfaction we felt

Me: Oh Me: A religious experience

Her: Please don't bring religion into this, because I'd say it had very little to do with religion

[selfie of her biting her nails, like in the horny memes]

Me: Fuuuck Me: What is this supposed to be? Me: That's not fair

Her: Why?

Me: Because I'm not there

Her: But you could be

Me: I could be Me: Yeah

Her: That's why I have to manage somehow for now Her: And I don't think you're doing too badly

Me: Yeah, damn Me: You know very well that I like it Me: Hmm Me: There's just something missing here

Her (replying to "There's just something missing here"): What?

[same as above but taken again from different angle, nothing sexual here]

Me: Mhmm Me: Hard to say

Her: I think I know what - your hand on my neck

Me: Oh, not only on your neck

Her: Where else?

Me: You'll find out tomorrow

Her: But I'm curious, I want to know now

Me: Nah Me: Surprises are the best Me: Wait until tomorrow

Her: Yhmmm, you're ruining my fun

Me: Mhmm Me: You'll make up for it tomorrow

Her: I'd rather it were today, and you'd rather it were today too

Me: Unfortunately Me: The stars didn't align for today

Her: Mhmm, the stars Her: Now you've completely ruined it, I don't like that

Me: So you're saying it just worked out badly

Her: You're just really mean

Me: Yeah, I know, I know (kissing emoji)

Her: In that case, I guess there's no point in me being here [this in my language sounds much much harsher - like "then fuck you, I don't want to have anything in common with you"]

I left her on seen here. I thought it would be a playfull "who blinks first" type of shit test from her, but right now it seems I went nuclear, again, somehow. And the plate broke. I was thinking about texting her "todays still on?" or something like that, but the vibes are not there anymore and I hate looking like starved bargaining beta. So I'm torn 50/50 between texting her (would propably work - but I would lose respect) or letting her break.

I already have another plate for tomorrow, this just was my favourite.

The text is long, so treat it like a texting field report.

To answer my question in the title - cut it short and don't validate her. I think it's not about sex for her, but it is about validation. That is why it always goes off the rails when I'm included in these situations.

Vasiliy said if a girl wants to fuck you, you shut up and you let it happen, but I couldn't be fucking bothered that night. It is a recurring issue with women in my life and I would like to know how to approach this in the future.

How would you guys approach this? Would you text her today for logistics? Or would you cut it? Also I just read it again and it seems that she was concern about my feelings for her (she knows she is a plate). Maybe I'm too harsh for her?