What’s up brothers, hope everyone’s holding frame. Dropping the complete play-by-play of this coworker situation from start to now, no fluff, just facts. This happened in the staff lodge/school where I live (shared room with two other guys). Target is a female teacher who only shows up twice a week because she has her own apartment in another town. It started with clear IOIs from her over time: unnecessary playful touches, laughing at stuff that wasn’t funny, visible tension/nervousness whenever she was around me. Then during a group Truth or Dare game with staff, she straight-up said “If I had to date any guy here, it would be me”. She also said her relationship status RN is complicated because she's not ready for a serious relationship right now. Took that as a textbook green light for casual / plate spinning – no commitment, just smash.

Goal was simple: get to her apartment and bang. No place of my own, so logistics had to be at hers. Fast-forward to Monday Morning (yesterday).

She came to the lodge/school and ended up in my room hanging with me and my roommate (she's a casual friend to my roommate). When roommate stepped out for a minute, I hit her with “There’s something I want to tell you” then paused and said nothing. Roommate walked back in after 40–50 seconds. Later she slid into my DM privately and asked

“You said you wanted to talk to me, is it something private?” (NOTE: We have never texted before, maybe she got my number from our Whatsapp group) .

When roommate stepped out again, she asked verbally what it was. Told her “We’ll talk.” She said okay.

She also forgot her charger cord in the room by accident. Few hours later she messaged again asking if the charger was really there. I I Replied short: “Here✔️” She thumbs-upped. That night around 9 PM, decided to open the original “is it something private?” DM and run some game. To build intrigue, I decided to start by.

Me: “Why are you doing this?” Her: “How do you mean” Me: “Something about you has been bugging me.” Her: “What?” Me: “If I tell you now, u might overthink it. You know what?” Her: “Not interested” That was the last message. Didn’t reply. Haven’t opened anything else, no double-text, no viewing stories, full radio silence since then.

My plan was to tell her "I want to come and see you at your apartment." after my last message (You know what?)

I FEEL MY MISTAKE WAS:

I built strong intrigue and got her chasing multiple times in one day with a “private thing” hook, but prolonged the mystery without closing to a meet-up fast → she defensively shut it down with “Not interested” (likely thinking I was heading toward a serious/relationship talk). Or she want to preserve her ego. Or maybe she's joking/shit testing. Anyway, I didn't reply her again and don't plan to.

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