Been in an exclusive relationship for 2 months now, kind of took it serious by my side from a month now, dropped the plates, can’t do cheating is simply how function not here to discuss this.

She worships the ground I walk on. Cooks, cleans, pays all of which unprompted. Showers me with compliments and affection. And I’m pretty sure I can ask her to make me a sandwich at 3AM and she will more than happily oblige.

But

During the last 2 weeks my GF had the tendency of alluding or straight up making sexual innuendos during the day thru text or in person and not following thru when the times come to… well have sex. This doesn’t mean that we don’t have sex, just not everyday, and something doesn’t sit right with me, especially after effectively making me horny. On average the last two weeks we had sex 3-4 times a week.

Usually this is how it unfolds: We make sexual jokes and innuendos during the day and when we see each other (late at night because I’m grinding 16 hours a day on my own business) she tells me she’s tired and apologizes.

This is a new trend and honestly I was caught off guard. Obviously when it happens I simply take away attention and affection, becoming aloof and unfazed. I even leave if I feel like it. She noticed, tried to confront me and I of course denied everything maintaining my cool. She offered to give me a bj, after 10 minutes told her to stop as I don’t cum from them.

During the last 5 days we had sex 3 times and yesterday after it happened once again I decided to intervene as soon as possible even if this is a thing of just two weeks, sat her down and told her that I can’t be in a committed relationship where I don’t have sex nearly everyday, especially after being led on for a full day, told her that if this is the “new normal” I will simply leave and go back to spinning plates.

She apologized once again and reassured me that this is a stressful period, she’s over worked (true) and that she’s had a financial emergency that simply made her temporarily broke and that’s stressing her out (also true, seen it unfold in front of my very eyes). Told me that she’s very attracted to me, doesn’t want to lose me and that I am the best thing that happened to her and that we will be back to fucking more as soon as this period ends.

Told her that I hope to be there to see it.

Booked a trip on the spot to visit my family and left the very next day for a full week of vacation (was planning to take her, decided not to lol)

Now the question is: How did I handle it? Am I blowing things out of proportion? We still fuck 3-4 times a week on average. Was it a good idea to communicate the boundary?

My idea: No more seeing each other every day, I’ll start to feel too tired for hanging out with her. Keep a close eye on her actions during the next month, if things don’t improve, leave.

Well done. This is like a shot that landed in the black. It might be an 8 ring not the ten ring but that isn't really all that important when it comes to getting you sighted in on women. Once you are hitting the paper, you can calibrate yourself. In the past we were worried about getting you to hit the paper -i.e. getting a positive interaction with a woman who was clearly into you, from which you could work out what did well and what you could do better next time. Before we were getting a lot of refusal from women to have a positive interaction and that is a lot harder to learn from. Once you are hitting the paper you can adjust your sights quite easily. She was into you but you didn't hit the bullseye this time, well Ok try again, maybe do something different and observe what she does but well done. If you can repat this sort of shot, even with no improvement you will at some point hit the bull by sheer good luck. It will happen now.

My biggest tip echoes Typo's "never underestimate the power of shutting up". She was DTF, so whatever you did "wrong" was not a failure to add something, it was the presence of something that made her not quite at ease enough, not quite confident enough she knew you well enough -when she had earlier tidied her pussy up for you. You probably did too much of something, maybe even just hesitate and look like its a big deal kissing her. Now that is not your fault. If you have not done this much before, well it is a big deal for you. It was for us all. You have to try to hide that but it may still bleed through a bit until you get the practise in.

Watch any skilled man at work with his tools and you see that experts always make fewer moves than amateurs. Its a scientific fact. It looks like they have a very light touch but experts are not finessing and make lots of fine tuning, they just make the right moves at the right time and don't need to repeat them. So if you want to look like an expert, don't dither too much even if you are quaking in your boots. Just do it. I am not saying dive in too fast to try to avoid making fuck up moves -going too fast (too fast for her that night) is a no no but when you make a move, just make it for better or worse and see what you get.

You don't have to make a big move, make a small one and see her reaction. Its like kiss her lightly on closed lips and if you feel her hands pulling you close, then smile to show you liked it and go straight back and do it firmer and longer, while holding her back or her bottom and so on. But if you grab her and stick your tongue down her throat before ramming her up against the car and grinding on her, well there is something a bit off there for her. She needs to invite you to do that by heating up till she is wanting you to get on with it. You can actually escalate very fast in small moves -as fast as she is keen for but don't try to go any faster than her or try to stimulate her into it. Women warm up by enjoying something and then want more stimulation. Stimulation does not lead straight to desire or pleasure. Desire and small pleasure leads to wanting stimulation, leads to more desire and pleasure, leads of wanting more stimulation and so on. They are put off by too much too soon. If she is DTF, you don't need a massive make out session to prove it before taking her to bang. Simply establish her enthusiasm and smoothly whisk her off somewhere, being prepared to back pout any time she looks off.

Also from things you have written earlier, it sounds like you may come over a bit like "I am only here to fuck a bitch" of course you are only there to fuck but don't make it look that way. They like to know they can pull out at any point. They like plausible deniability right till they are on your dick. You are into her, that is why you are there -because she is lovely. That's all she needs to know. She is into you. Fucking will always result if boy and girl who are into each other are left alone as long as girl needs and boy does not scare girl off. You don't have to make it all sexualised when you are with her and she is DTF. Just let her see you are enjoying her and steer her like a man leading a dance partner. Make her feel beautiful on your arm and make everything simple for her and she will be only too happy to be steered to bed with no need to spell it out even once what you are actually going to do with her.

See it from her point of view. Even tinder sluts are still going to let an unknown but much more powerful individual stick a dick inside their guts and pound on them. He may then unload in her whether or not she likes it. He will only stop if he wants. He might try to fuck her up the arse or strangle her too. In the end he will have total power over her once she gives in. She needs to feel you like her, that you get her, that you are gentle. This does not mean you are vulnerable, but that you do need to be strong, kind and gentle. I think that probably she wasn't quite sure about that and that is what she mean by "walls up". She can't feel you are kind, fun loving, and will be gentle. She may not even want you to be kind gentle with her in bed (though most actually do most of the time) but she needs to feel you will be if she wants you to be. Its not a case of her "seeing this". through explanation, its a case of her needing to feel it.

So if you are going to add anything add kindness and gentleness. Sure she wants a tough guy but that is a guy tough to the world on whose arm she is safe and beautiful, not a man hard or insensitive to her. Many guys starting out fail to see that when they see nice guys lose and deice not to be nice any more. She still has to feel safe that you will be kind to her. Make her feel that by not being pushy, by holding doors, handing her over obstacles or out of vehicles (without using it as an excuse to cop a feel), giving compliments and so on. Not simping, being a strong kind gent.

It's normal for sex frequency to taper off a bit after an initial honeymoon period settles into a steady LTR. Don't break off an otherwise good Big Picture, by hyper focusing on sex frequency in isolation, if you consider stable LTR an important goal. Adjust your time horizon, so instead of hyper focusing on the latest demurring or clear rejection of one specific advance you made at a particular moment and catastrophizing it as the obvious end of her attraction; average it over a running month, say. It's one of those things in life, that even a perfectly attracted and committed woman, won't feel sexy and DTF at a particular moment, often tied to her cycle and other things in life, but totally NOT a sign of losing attraction to you. Your own security and sense of self worth, factors in to how you feel about, and respond to, such occasions. Take it from guys who have churned through many women: ones that make a good LTR fit for you personally, make up the rare exception to the general rule. Consider an alternative case: trying to hold together a LTR with a high sex drive woman who is always DTF when you initiate, but is a pain in the ass or worse during the 98% of life when you're not in the sack banging.