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1h ago TheRedPill Forum
I cheated on my girlfriend while drunk. Should I tell her?
My girlfriend and I have been dating five months, exclusive for almost two. We have an otherwise good relationship.
She’s an high quality girl, no doubt. After a minor disagreement, I got drunk and had a one-night stand with a random gal I met at the bar. It meant nothing emotionally, and I regret it. Totally uncalled for.
I do really care about my girlfriend, don’t want to lose her, and would never cheating again. I’m struggling with a lot of guilt and shame tho
I don’t want to tell her because I believe it would devastate her and likely end our relationship. But I also recognize that keeping it secret denies her the choice. I ultimately see almost zero upside to telling her other than absolving myself of the guilt
Is it possible to move forward from this or is telling her the only ethical option?
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OP, haven’t you posted on here about your own cheating ruining your relationship before?
My dude, the real answer to your dilemma(s) would have been to just not cheat in the first place. If you really can’t control yourself or don’t want to be exclusive, just don’t agree to an exclusive commitment.
All these other gymnastics in your head are damage control. Figure out your own behavior first. What makes you do what you do and why.
All of this is in your head. First, you live in the house next to your parents, not literally with them. They aren’t paying for your shit and you have your own space, so there’s nothing to be embarrassed about on that front.
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If you are good looking and fun to be around, girls will like you and will be down to smash, including the good ones. Your parents living near you really doesn’t matter.
In fact, if you’re really hoping to find a girl worthy of your commitment, I’d like to imagine that she would respect your decision to be near your parents as they get older. Family values and all that. I’m assuming you consider a family-oriented attitude in a woman as a plus.
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Last thing I’d like for you to consider. Why do you feel obligated to help your parents? If they’ve ruined your life and squandered a fortune, there really isn’t much left for you. I don’t mean just money, but your relationship with them. If they have been a net negative in your life, why are you going out of your way to help?
I don’t like to get into therapy speak, but I’d like for you to consider why you feel like you owe your parents. Some kind of past trauma from your childhood? Family manipulating you with guilt? Do you have a covert contract with your parents?
A friend of mine who has a strong relationship with his parents told me something his father said to him once.
“You are always welcome to stay with us. We will always pay for your food and offer you a bed. Not because we want you to take care of us when we get old. We do it so you can give food and a bed to your kids one day, if you choose to have them.”
None of what my friend’s dad said was about guilt or covert contracts. This man chose to provide for his family out of his own generosity, not because he thought he would one day get something out of it.
Think real hard about why you feel like you have to re-work your life for them OP.
Read MoreJon Del Arroz Follows Number 1 Bestseller Churchianity With a Book Naming the Sin Modern Churches Won’t
Jon Del Arroz’s new book, The Wages of Sin, releases August 20, following up Churchianity, which hit number 1 in Amazon’s religious philosophy category last year. Where Churchianity diagnosed the consumer-driven model reshaping American parishes, the new book turns to a word Del Arroz says most pulpits quietly retired: sin.
The Wages of Sin builds its structure on the Confiteor, the confession prayer Catholics have recited at every Mass since at least the tenth century. Del Arroz splits the book into four sections, one for each phrase of the prayer: thoughts, words, deeds, and omissions. Nine chapters work through the sins Augustine confessed in his Confessions, including pride dressed as worship, envy refined into schadenfreude, the spiritual torpor the Church Fathers called acedia, and the four sins Scripture names as crying out to heaven for vengeance. Each chapter closes with an examination of conscience, and the appendix adds a full one plus a vice-virtue table for daily use.
The book leans on Augustine’s framework of sin as disordered love: not a checklist of prohibitions, but the habit of loving the wrong things, or loving right things out of order. Del Arroz traces that idea into Romans 6:23 and the Catechism’s teaching on mortal sin, arguing that a Church which stopped naming sin also stopped being able to prescribe its cure.
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2-year situationship. Where to go from here
35M. Been seeing this girl almost 2 years, nonexclusive. She’s wanted to be my girlfriend for a long time, but I’ve held off because of her inconsistency and poor follow-through. She knows I’ve seen other women. The whole time its been meet 1x a week chill at my spot, drink, fuck, stays late, then leaves. I actually do like this girl but she’s on and off with letting me just lead. When I tell her maybe this type of thing isn’t for her she claims it is and she wants to be in it and follows with “I just need care” basically saying I don’t show I like her and she’s scared to let go.
so it’s basically I’m not committing because she’s not being fully submissive and showing me what being with her would be like. And her claim is she’s not being fully submissive because she doesn’t feel care/secure. Whether that’s true or not who know but that’s the claim.
Early on she was extremely sexual and spontaneous. Initiated dirty talk, sent pics of marks from the night before, dressed up for me, etc. We had a dom/sub dynamic she seemed genuinely into. I still tell her what to wear when she comes over every time.
Now it’s mostly girlfriend type affection. “My jacket smells like you ”, missing me, wanting to cuddle. Sex is still great when we’re together, but she barely initiates anything sexual outside the bedroom anymore.
Saturdays are another noticeable change. She works during the week long shifts and is usually off Sat–Tue. Saturday used to be our regular day, and she’d initiate seeing me. Now she rarely does, and sometimes says she’s unavailable without suggesting another time. No proof of another guy, but the change is obvious.
Recently she brought up Halloween and volunteered to wear a costume for me. Said she’d check her closet, then never followed up. When I asked, she claimed she had nothing, despite recently buying and wearing a dress at my place.
She then offered to go shopping and send pictures. I asked for 3 sexy costume options by 3 PM. She asked for 5, I agreed. She came back with zero pictures, saying nothing was worth buying and she’d ordered clothes online. Didn’t even show me what she’d ordered.
Then she said she’d make it up to me and asked if we were seeing each other. I declined. The next day I texted, “Should’ve done what we agreed then. No excuse for that.” Haven’t spoken since.
Where I’ve probably fucked up: I’ve stayed available on her days off when she doesn’t give any effort to come by after work. I’ve made entry too easy after she’s done shit I don’t like. And she might see that as my word doesn’t mean much.
My main question is whether she’s losing genuine sexual attraction, deliberately toning it down to get girlfriend treatment, or simply no longer investing the same effort.
I’m planning to stop being automatically available and let her initiate more rather than keep trying to recreate the old dynamic.
What’s your read? The main question I have is whether you think she’s backing off the sexual talk/energy because she’s trying to fit into the role she wants that wholesome girlfriend or if she just lost attraction/had another guy.
I could have very easily tested her whole claim that she’s not fully letting go by saying sure we’re exclusive you’re mine and continued to fuck other girls and watched what she did but I didn’t.
Especially interested in whether I’ve contributed to this and what you’d actually do from here. Not looking for generic “next her” replies.
You don't need anyone's permission or approval on your relationship choices, let alone from a bunch of randos like us. That choice is yours and it honestly reads like you've spent a good bit of time assessing this situation.
You already know that she's not as interested in you as she used to be. Sure, she enjoys that you plow her out as you do, but she's not seeking your attention with any particular enthusiasm. She's also not making herself available as often as she used to, because she's already moved on, and its clear you're feeling it's time you do the same.
Unless you both share children, or housing with each other, I don't see you having anything particular to lose by simply cutting this girl out of your life and moving on. Best of luck to you, whatever choice you ultimately make.
Read More7h ago Ask TRP Forum
Logistics in a Difficult Situation in My Life
I’m 40 years old. I’ve lived away from my parents since I was 20, but three years ago I moved into the house next door to them because I discovered they’d squandered a fortune. I’m worried—not for them, but for myself—because I’m afraid I’ll have to take the blame for their mistakes. They’re terrible people who’ve ruined my life, but for some stupid reason, I feel obligated to help them out.
My house is right next to theirs, and I’ve never brought girls or friends over because I’m ashamed of them. They literally live holed up in the house, and my mother, in particular, always has harsh words for everyone. I wouldn’t want anyone to associate me with them for any reason in the world.
That said, I’m in a tough spot because I basically don’t have anywhere to take girls. It’s never been a problem before, since at this age everyone has their own place, but I feel weird about it. On the one hand, I’m doing a good thing by helping my parents, but on the other hand, I might come across as a loser.
Renting a place far away from them, like I used to, doesn’t make financial sense. I’m not seeing anyone right now, and looking for a rental just for dates seems like a terrible financial decision to me. It’s not a money issue, though I don’t want to waste it carelessly.
As for one-night stands and the like, I have no problem booking an Airbnb. I’m currently recovering from a broken heart and have no intention of rushing into another relationship. I do plan to look for a studio apartment, a small house, or a single room to share with others. But that’s a medium-term solution.
I don’t know how long this situation with my parents will last, and I’m afraid that in the meantime, a girl who truly deserves me might come along, and I won’t be able to seize the opportunity since, let’s face it, I don’t have a place of my own where I can host her without feeling embarrassed.
What can I do in the meantime? How can I come up with plausible excuses without coming across as a loser? If it helps, I’m a good-looking guy, and I’m really popular socially, but when it comes to this topic, I get embarrassed and lose my cool.
As for hookups, I can easily say, “I’m not exactly free,” since I have absolutely no intention of getting serious with whoever I’m with at the time.
But what about girls who have a little more potential? How should I act? Could I even use this situation to see if they’re empathetic?
Thanks in advance for your time
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