I was pissed at how she went about it but low key thankful tbh.

Not sure how she could have done it better. She told you to your face. That's not too bad.

Thing is, convo goes from “I’ve moved out” to “I want us to keep trying” to “this is the plan for what we gonna do this week”. I was shellshocked and didn’t know what hit me tbh - not cause she moved out, but cause the instant 180. By the end of the day we had a nice walk, ann icecream, and I was back in the gym first time in years.

Well, this is fairly standard. She's attached, she doesn't want to make you angry..... and most damaging of all: she wants to keep her options open if her other ideas don't work out.

You do need to understand this dynamic and motivation in women.

Fast forward, we’ve been living apart and “dating” for a year and she just moved back in - she had to leave her flat,

So, she's moving back into her fallback position?

I still have till EOY on mine and moving country then so actually happy to have a test run. Cause the funny part is, she’s been bending over backwards since and pretty much wife material after that scene.

Sure she is. FOR NOW.

Eventually she will backslide and the same thing will happen.

And good chance she was fucking someone else in the gap.

I’ve seen some shit in my time but this I still haven’t been able to make sense of.

Two questions, 1. can someone explain the hell happened that day,

She found someone else

and 2. your two cents on whether I should bring her with once I move.

When you understand her and everything that happened, you'll get your answer.

Me instantly focusing on my rent doubling when she told me she moved out instead of begging her to stay told her she fucked up big time (“this guy doesn’t give two fucks I’m dumping his ass”) and tried to make up since

That's fair. She's ended things, you have every right to care only about yourself.

Unreliability trumps amends she’s been making. Plus she’s in epiphany phase so good behaviour short term isn’t guaranteed in the long term. So no go.