I often find myself not in the mood to have sex with whatever girl I’m seeing at the moment. Whether she’s a one-night stand or a friend with benefits, it doesn’t make much difference, since I lose interest very easily. The girls are all very attractive, but I think deep down I’m hoping to have a girlfriend (who wouldn’t want that?), so when I see red flags, I lose interest. Luckily, I never commit to a girl, so I recognize my weakness but don’t give in by settling.

That said, when I don’t have sex with a girl, I feel weak, as if I absolutely have to sleep with her to prove I’m a man. The most common scenario is that women, through their behavior—even if it’s not serious—make me lose interest. When I’m with the girl I’m seeing at the moment, I obviously don’t feel like having sex with her because I’m disappointed—do I really have to force myself? I understand that this is my problem and that I’m overreacting.