I've been spinning plates for a while now and I really want to test my sanity or if I'm just biased/doing something wrong.

For context I'm 29 and the women are between 22-26.

So the pattern I keep running into: meet a girl somewhere > hook up > she wants to see me again > see her ~once every 10 days. I like treating women well - making them cum, replying to their texts, following through on plans, just being a nice decent guy etc. Past the two-month mark they either start prodding for commitment, or when I act like a total asshole (flakey etc) they generally cut it and move on. The genuinely (attractive) indifferent plate who'll take occasional sex, stay low-maintenance, and not care that I'm spinning others is a unicorn, maybe 1 in 10 if that, and usually only in that state temporarily (slammed with work/school, or fresh off a breakup that gutted her).

What I want narrowed down two hypotheses, which is:

1 Is it me in the early stages? Am I signaling more than I mean to, LARPing boyfriend without intending to, so she reasonably updates toward "this is going somewhere," gets invested, and the commitment-prodding is a rational response to a false read I handed her. i.e. it's a comms/intent error on my end, fixable. But do understand that I am (in my view) playing it as non-commital as possible without coming off like an asshole. So if they treat me well, I will reciprocate their behavior to a degree (2/3 golden rule) but I never do shit for them out of the blue or verbalize any sort of commitment etc.

2 It's value. She'd run indefinite low-investment casual happily — for a hotter/higher-value guy. With me she won't surrender her own sexual strategy because I'm below the threshold where access-on-my-terms is worth it to her, so she either converts to commitment-seeking or exits. >> But even then, in my experience if they really see you as a catch they will just avoid verbalizing any commitment talk for longer if they suspect you will reject it. But eventually they still implode and it ends the same.

Which one matches your field experience? And for those of you who do hold long-running plates with zero commitment pressure — was it #1 you never signled commitment or flat out told her you were not interested in it, #2 she didn't want to lose you regardless of her hurt feelz, or something else?

I guess my question is, is it possible to have attractive, low-maintenance plates, who are not giving you STDs and who will stick around for a 'long' time? Or are those indeed just a temporary unicorns and is the reason you must keep recruiting new plates simply that 'bitches aren't planets, can't spin them forever'?

It's just funny when I hear women talk about 'just' being FB/FWB with a guy but in my experience it rarely ever is, their hamster is just confused/delusional

The story of Sharon Sharon was a 35 year old divorced woman. She was 5’5” and average in looks and weight. She didn’t have any extraordinary physical characteristic that would distinguish her from any other female her age. She didn’t have a beautiful face, nor big breasts (maybe an A cup). She didn’t have an hour-glass figure or a Kim Kardashian ass. All in all, she was just average. She didn’t have a college degree and had no income generating skills. She was broke and living at her parent’s home with her 2 children from a failed marriage. One day, she is talking to my wife and says this. She will not date a man below 6’ AND he has to have a good income because he has to support her and her 2 kids. When I heard this, my reaction was, Sharon is either insane or a delusional narcissist. Evidently, she thought that a broke, divorced, 35 year old woman with two kids was what every 6’ plus successful man wanted. She had to have thought that there was a severe shortage of destitute women with children and an oversupply of 6’ plus successful men who wanted a women like her.

And surprisingly she did get what she wanted ----- sort of. She did get married, at the age of 40, to a man barely an inch taller than her. I can’t speak of his income, but he was karate instructor, so I doubt he made a 6 figure income that she demanded 5 years earlier. It would be interesting to know how many good men she rejected due to their height in her entire life.