But if you already have those skills and an attractive partner but just in need of a little sexual variety on the side, why can't you satisfy that need through seeing the occasional prostitute?

Why are you asking us? This is a question that only you can answer for yourself.

Do you need the psychological validation of plates to feel good about yourself and maintain abundance mentality?

Do you?

When I was actively plating, I got off on being as opaque as possible in regard to commitment towards girls because I loved how much investment that would reap me and found it very validating.

Ok, so you're validation farming. That's valid, and you're honest with yourself about it.

Ofc, TRP would criticize this not only because it's a shitty thing to do

It's not a shitty thing to do. Women do it to men ALL THE TIME. You are allowed to do it. No law against it, dating is amoral, and you are entitled to do this if you wish.

It's not for me, but I accept that it's for you.

and that this validation seeking behavior is weak,

Yeah, it's needy and doesn't get you what you think it gets you. Validation is a leading indicator, an instrumental goal. People (and you) like these things because it implies they can get other things (eg sex with more women) later. But leading indicators are only that: indicators.

but especially because those shortcuts would eventually end in shitstorms of catastrophical propotions long-term and I had to find that out the hard way multiple times.

Haha right. That's the downside, and that's why most men are fairly up front when they have the abundance to afford it. Losing 50% of girls early beats half of them going mental later.

OTOH, being upfront about casual intentions never made much sense to me either,

But you're not doing casual, you are doing friends with benefits. Repeated sexual encounters. Somewhat ongoing. Casual is basically one night stands. You're doing OLTR / FWB, and that's not "casual" and shouldn't be framed as such.

Call it a fling or an affair or an ongoing thing - women respond better to framing like this.

as them also sleeping with other guys

Some will, some won't.

and putting in the same minimal effort as myself would make it feel almost as transactional as going to a prostitute.

Except it's not.

Casual is: sex sex.

Prostitute is money sex.

Relationship is commitment sex.

Of these, the casual thing is the least transactional. Both sides get sex. It's only transactional if she has sex and tries to get something (eg commitment) later.

Minimal effort is basically non transactional.

You've got some work to do here dude, to understand that all human sexual relationships are transactional - everybody gets something and everybody gives something. Everyone is fine with this if they give what they want to give and get what they want to get.

When people say "transactional sex", they usually mean your resources for her sex. Either money or commitment.

Plating that way, at least to me, and especially if you already have a main girl, only makes sense if you have a very organical pipeline to replace churn and rather limited amounts of $.

See, this is where you've got some thinking to do. You sound like you're rationalising rather than making choices. And you're a little wonky in your thinking, you've got some definitions to tighten up in your head.

Fundamentally, the odd thing in your post is this: you like validation, but you're arguing for a zero validation arrangement.

TRPs opposition to prostitutes in the

I genuinely don't understand where you guys get this "TRP says" half the time. Where did "TRP have opposition to this"?

Half of you guys are ending up in AskTRP because of some phantom misconception about "TRP says"

But if you already have those skills and an attractive partner but just in need of a little sexual variety on the side, why can't you satisfy that need through seeing the occasional prostitute?

Where did this ominous TRP gatekeeper God of the rules of conduct tell you you can't do what you want?

Ofc, TRP would criticize this

Why hasn't this omnipotent TRP force of nature said this to other guys I know? I feel left out

I had to find that out the hard way multiple times.

So the TRP of the Swamp creature told you not to do something and it went how you'd expect?

Interesting.

Plating that way, at least to me, and especially if you already have a main girl, only makes sense if you have a very organical pipeline to replace churn and rather limited amounts of $.

Prostitutes ALWAYS fuck other guys. Plates SOMETIMES fuck other guys. A lot of girls just break as plates instead of having multiple concurrent cocks. Other girls fuck multiple guys.

Pick a lane. Your question genuinely makes no sense. It is very difficult to answer your confusion in good faith because it:

1) assigns some random TRP figure telling you random things and you can't even name who said that 2) plates are by default non exclusive and are expected to break if you have multiple. That is what spinning plates is.

Perhaps you've never seen an image of a plate spinner and maybe that's why you have no idea why it's called that.

Your question is incredibly hard to approach in good faith because it is making stuff up as well as fundamentally not understanding the core concept of a plate.

Oddly enough, despite inventing TRP quotes out of thin air you have contention with, you somehow manage to give an example where you found "TRP says" to have been right. So I really don't understand the point of your post. It's incoherent

Guys who have (one-sided) Open LTR's: why?

I understand TRPs opposition to prostitutes in the context of being a man with shitty game/frame/looks etc. That's equivalent to accepting defeat; fine.

But if you already have those skills and an attractive partner but just in need of a little sexual variety on the side, why can't you satisfy that need through seeing the occasional prostitute? Do you need the psychological validation of plates to feel good about yourself and maintain abundance mentality?

When I was actively plating, I got off on being as opaque as possible in regard to commitment towards girls because I loved how much investment that would reap me and found it very validating. Ofc, TRP would criticize this not only because it's a shitty thing to do and that this validation seeking behavior is weak, but especially because those shortcuts would eventually end in shitstorms of catastrophical propotions long-term and I had to find that out the hard way multiple times.

OTOH, being upfront about casual intentions never made much sense to me either, as them also sleeping with other guys and putting in the same minimal effort as myself would make it feel almost as transactional as going to a prostitute. Plating that way, at least to me, and especially if you already have a main girl, only makes sense if you have a very organical pipeline to replace churn and rather limited amounts of $.