Mods have been talking for the past week on this. Posts seeking validation for things you already believe in disguised as a question seeking advice will be locked and removed on sight

This includes humblebrags disguised as seeking help

At best it's just validation farming and not a serious desire to get answers, at worst it's intentional trolling and will be treated as either.

The posts in question were already locked and removed so if yours wasn't don't assume.

Examples (not all-inclusive):

I'm seeing this smoking hot unicorn virgin who has never spoken to a man before, she seems dtf how to not mess this up (close enough to a real post that was locked and removed)

I'm rich and jacked and I fuck a ton of women but I'm getting bored of it, how to enjoy variety (yes I've actually seen that shit on here before)

It's not going to be tolerated and will be swiftly locked before you can get much of the validation/time trolling it was intended to get

Rules will be updated in the near future to reflect numerous changes over the past year or so

Cc: @Typo-MAGAshiv @mattyanon

Recent Post: https://www.forums.red/p/asktrp/325619/unsure_where_i_went_wrong

Hello all, just had an update and some questions. I want to thank everyone that posted on my last post and gave me advice on previous posts when I was feeling lost. I read it all and it helped. Now I’m 31, but no longer a virgin.

I read what everyone posted, and next time I saw her at work, I flirted with her pretty hard and didn’t bring up any of the texting. Kissed her in the breakroom, and she loved it. After that I used MusicGoons line, asking when she’s free so I can “check her house for spiders for her” and she just laughed and loved it. A couple days later she said she had a spider and was freaking out. We got off work at the same time that day, so I said I’d come over as soon as we were done, and then I showed up. I started off strong, immediately started making out with her and then fucked her. She didn’t cum, so I did oral on her and made her cum (in hindsight, stupid as fuck). And well… let’s just say there were a lot of red flags I ignored. A lot.

After we fucked, I spent the night there, and not going to lie, I acted pretty beta during this, wanting to cuddle and shit. She even said I was clingy. (Which confused me at first, but now makes sense if she hooks up with dudes every night). As we were chilling there, I noticed she had a lot of condoms on her bedside table. Like a good amount. She mentioned she was only looking for casual stuff. Joked about “having a roster”. She joked about sex stuff a lot, which I thought was her way of being sexual, but in hindsight she was telling me she sleeps around. When I still thought she was joking, I told her to cut that shit out. I asked if I could grab a powerade, and she said no, but when I asked why, she said I probably didn’t want to know.( I think this in reference to asking her to cut shit out, and basically said with that it’s some other dude’s powerades for after they fuck her). Don’t think she was joking now. I remember somone here saying to listen to what a girl jokes about, and they’re telling you shit indirectly. Wish I internalized that better. Anyway, basically found out she’s pretty slutty.

Still happy about losing my V card, but now I feel kind of disgusted and am super worried about STDs. I wrapped my dick up(thank god) but feel gross having eaten her out. I got an STD panel done today and will do another one in a month or so. Terrified I caught something on my first time. Also texted her the next day some beta shit about how I had a good time. Since that I went to the gym and cleared my head up and realized what I pussy I’ve been. Now I’m trying to get in a good headspace again, but struggling. Planning to never text her again, hit the gym hard as fuck, and when I get my panels back, try to put myself out there again. Going to go back and read the literature again because I instantly became blue pilled right after we fucked, so obviously I have a lot of work to do.

My questions are: 1) What to do about STD anxiety? I feel so fucked for ignoring so many signals and eating her out. 2) Should I practice game and try to find other chicks while waiting for the panels? 3) All I feel right now is disgust at the fact she obviously fucks so many guys and anger at myself for not seeing it, so what were some ways y’all got your mental state right when you were spiraling early on in your journey? 4) If I do have STDs, how do I deal with it? But honestly, it feels fucking amazing to not worry about being a virgin anymore.

Answering my own questions: 1) Keep myself constantly busy until I get the panel back, then don’t worry about it until I take the second test in a month. 2)No? Feels irresponsible and obviously I have lots of internal work to do. 3) Gym. Lots of working out, and meditation. 4) I have no fucking clue, kinda panicking. Therapy maybe.

Thanks for all the advice from everyone so far, would probably have been an eternal virgin if it wasn’t for y’all.

So, how can I take this further and become:

Mentally stronger
Lower in body fat percentage
More comfortable with cold approaching

1. No shortcut. Don't look for one. Don't let setbacks derail you. Breathe and take time to reflect and clear your thoughts. Try not to internalize things that aren't your fault. Work on the things that might be.
2. Obviously diet and exercise and sufficient sleep.
3. By just doing it and not expecting the sky to fall because you talked to a girl. Have a few standard openers for when you don't know what to say. Approach as soon as you have the desire to because every second you delay the approach you risk appearing like a creep for lingering and watching them while doing nothing. Every time you don't approach is a default rejection by virtue of inaction. You should be more concerned about all the women you missed out on than how they might have possibly rejected you.

Any advice on how I can stay consistent and keep progressing?

Honestly dude, you're still carrying all of your bad habits from previous AskTRPs into this post.

1 you could have easily found the answer to all of these questions in the search bar in AskTRP and TheRedPill. The fact you didn't and expected an easy spoonfeed as if you're special and none of the old posts apply to you is deeply problematic

You don't want to put in the work and you want your hand held. You don't even trust yourself to use the search bar and think for yourself, and instead want 7 or so comments on one post instead of taking in the knowledge of hundreds of comments through search work. You're failing yourself by doing this and it's not how a man should conduct his growth and natural curiosity

2 post after post you want an answer other than upward growth and the discipline to do it. Unlike women who hardly have to do Jack shit for anything in life, if you're a man and you just consistently develop upwards, whether that growth is linear or exponential, you will see results

You strongly come across like you want a magical answer that takes you from step one to step 5 instantaneously. I can tell that discipline and patience bothers the shit out of you. You want someone to feed you a magic answer to skip past your self doubt and discomfort taking the time to improve

3 the answer is discipline. Honestly man you need to stop coming on here to be spoonfed. You're using AskTRP to validate your discomfort by disguising it as a question on what to do differently. You already know what to do, you just don't like it and still want to take the lazy way out

4 Use the search bar instead of posting next time. I seriously doubt you try and it shows in your questions, your mentality, and your results

You're doing a massive disservice to yourself with the way you prefer to grow mentally. Seek your own knowledge instead of relying on others for easily searchable material. You've been on AskTRP FAR TOO LONG to not have developed a habit of seeking information on your own by now