Sapiophile

Translation: psuedointellectual pretentious bitch-speak for "I like hot guys with high paying/high status jobs". You never catch these women sucking off the local chess club champion despite such a guy probably being far smarter than her.

I assume she's in Europe? If she speaks Dutch and 'Filipino' (Tagalog?) then her parents moved to the Netherlands from the Philippines. Probably...? The reverse is possible, but less likely.

I'm confused. She's really organized and a Type A go-getter personality but needs a Real Man to help raise her kid.

lead with respect

These women have no idea what male leadership looks like. Totally clueless. Probably didn't have decent fathers around, for whatever reason, to model this.

lead with clarity

They crave being "led" until the point where you "lead" them to do something they don't like. Then you're not "respecting" them or leading with "clarity", whatever that means.

If you want someone to lead you, you have to follow him. If you follow only when it suits you, then your feelings and preferences are actually what's leading him around. This will not make you happy in the long run.

So the best she offers to do is mirror my energy. So when I am stressed out trying to please her with "plans", doors and making her feel safe, she will match it by being stressed out and no doubt not feeling like it tonight.

Yeah, but what can you bring that my phone calendar can't for less?

Truth is, she never her hometown and is more organized than our phone calendars!