The number of people I see on here saying look looksmaxxing doesn’t matter or is cope is ridiculous. It’s obviously important, otherwise no one would be talking about it. Doesn’t matter if it’s black pill, red pill, or fucking birth control pill.

Two Broad Categories of Looksmaxxing:

Yes, hardmaxxing (getting surgeries) is dumb as fuck. And height essentially cannot be changed safely. 99% of men should not be looking at any cosmetic surgeries. Barring some horrific facial disfigurement, you are in that 99% OP.

Softmaxxing is super important and actually good for you. Some of the things in this window even red pill guys say are mandatory: lifting (improves physique), eating well, dressing and grooming properly, etc. Know this: if someone says looks looksmaxxing is useless/cringe, but then recommends gym, diet, haircut, and fashion, they are recommending the softmaxxing side of looksmaxxing. Which again, I think is good and healthy for you, with or without women.

For more on Soft- and Hardmaxxing, I found this nice write-up. It comes with a rough plan for how you should approach this too. Hint: start with softmaxxing. https://looksmaxxers.com/pages/softmaxxing-vs-hardmaxxing-whats-the-difference

Last, game and status are also super important. Those are just harder to develop than getting a haircut or a surgery. We just see an overemphasis on looksmaxxing because people in general are less and less socially adept, thanks to internet culture. And unwilling to put in the reps to become game-competent.

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As for you OP, you don’t need to worry about looksmaxxing. You have SO much else to worry about first. From the frantic posting habits we have seen, you need to get your mental health in order. They way you are now, even if you were a male supermodel, just talking for 30s is likely to drive away any interested girls.

You’ve gotta work out how to process your traumatic events. I don’t know how exactly, as that stuff hasn’t happened to me, but not doing so will totally fuck up your inner mental state, and therefore game.

As for your life goal and what to do if not marriage, you are a young guy and you need to figure that out on your own. You don’t need to do it for all your life at once; just start with a goal for this year (like properly processing your traumas in a therapeutic practice, or benching X kgs by the end of 2026).

You really aren’t at the point where you need to worry about deep philosophical meanings in life, or what happens to the dead. Right now, as you are alive, day-to-day, I sense you aren’t well. Worrying about what god has in store for all of humanity is pointless until you have your own shit in order day-to-day.

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Last, OP, if you are really doing all that stuff in your progress section, just stick with it and keep improving there. You’ve been posting about this stuff several times this month. But you gotta be patient. You were (and still are) in bad all around life shape. That shit isn’t gonna be fixed in just 1 month. Focus on improving your day-to-day habits and you will be fine. Rome was not built in a day, and neither will you.