Fuckup number 1:

well I still hooked up with my ex last night but im fine

What a woman hears is, my ex girl has got me by the balls and I'm thirsty. Just fucking sleep with you ex and don't ever tell anyone about it. Ffs that won't give her the tingles.

Fuckup number 2:

Im not making any moves as I don't want a bad reputation with her family and stuff.

Pure cope and faggotry. Always make moves when a chick is in a bikini alone around you.

Fuckup 3:

She even tries showing me his profile. I basically just didn't say much and was just like hmm wow.

She tries several times and every single time you pussy out. She shows you this because you're being a phag and you take it like a bitg instead of laying out a boundary.

I don't really care about seducing her or anything.

Ok then why did you continually hang out with her and write this giant fucking post?

Let me break this down to something simple: If a girl throws herself at you several times and you don't fuck her, she's going to feel rejected and fuck someone else.

Welcome to reality.

OP, you’re already aware of your internal dialog being negative, and not always trusting the newer you. I feel ya, I’m the same way sometimes. It’s good you are aware and @Typo-MAGAshiv is right on about your self talk. It sounds like in some ways, you ascended since your younger days.

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I’d like to add another angle here. She was definitely thirsting for you, but she actually has bad lady game herself. That stuff on the boat and talking about the army guy strikes me as not knowing how to get the man she really wants.

It’s one thing to invite “your competition” to the boat, but that was with her own family. Even if she really is a slut, she won’t be able to get piped down in front of her family.

And in general, there’s a lot of trying to make you jealous before the two of you have done anything. Which is another poor game tactic. Jealousy game usually doesn’t work if there isn’t any romantic history between the two of you; it’s actually a sign of disinterest. Same thing with the talking about Tinder army guy. As a woman, it’s bad game to (1) say you’re on Tinder, (2) talking about banging other men in front of the man you want, and (3) portray yourself as a slut, explicitly.

She very likely is a slut, but this all strikes me as a chick who has been hot her whole life, so she never got punished for poor lady game.

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On a side note, she’s slightly older than you, right? So early to mid 30s? Remember, girls who have not managed to get married by then are usually mentally cooked somehow.

Used to get TONS of likes and matches on bumble 2-3 years ago, but now? Nothing. Same situation w Hinge.

The meta’s changed quite a bit over the past few years it seems or maybe the algo is throttling my profile.

Used the same pics and prompts but no traction. Even after a few weeks of running it. Premium membership on both.

Just need a good guide that can give me some pointers to get cooking. Already r/theredpill, but couldn’t find anything cause it was all posts from when I was actually getting traction.

Any recently written guide/video/etc. from someone you’re sure knows what they are talking about will work.

Thanks.