@Durek_The_Bald I re-read what you wrote. You focus on the issue of the children after divorce, and compare traditionalism with a lenient version of feminism.

How you look at it depends heavily on what social class we are talking about. For a working class man, divorce today is practically a disaster. Steve Moxon was calculating that in the UK a working class man can lose about 70% of his income.

The thing is, it's not certain that the "independent working woman" thing benefits the middle class man either. Instead of divorcing and finding another woman, In the traditionalist... tradition, we would just find another woman. The mistress was an indispensable part of the traditionalist family. And society acknowledged man's greater contribution to the family, discreetly allowing him his... discretion, while frowning and disapproving of the female one.

Sure, you were saddled with a wife forever, and she could and often did turn sour. On the other hand, some wives adapted, and made a virtue out of necessity, accommodating their husbands.

So, up to this point in the analysis, it's not a clear cut between traditionalism and feminism, when it comes to divorce and custody.

Then, you have to factor the devouring mother effect. This is where my point comes in. Women are unable to make sense of the world on their own. Losing their husbands, they will either burden their children with the task, or depend on the other man - lover, second husband. Neither of these are good outcomes as far as the children are concerned.

I cannot stress this point enough, because I think it's not crystal-clear even in TRP. Even if women are financially independent, they still depend on others in order to operate. Women are the expansion set, men are the main game.

@quassis2001

Gf forbids me from drinking alcohol

We are both 25 and live together, she cooks etc. We had a talk recently when she said that she does not want me to ever drink alcohol, as she views it as something really bad. She said when I get tipsy or drunk she has flashbacks when her father was drunk and there were always toxic atmosphere then (she has good relations with him, he just behaves bad when drinking). I asked her if i can drink tomorrow couple of beers (not to get drunk but little tipsy, propably 1 or 2 beers max) and she says no. Then she said actually I can as she cant forbid me anything but will be mad at me because she told me how much it means to her. How to proceed? My answer: dont bend to her needs and do as I wish but it will cost me her mood and arguments, but I want to chill when she will he at work (she works late).

Did she betafied me already or is she reasonable? I know alcohol is bad, her main argument is Im more talkative and funny after I drink and she started to like me more after alcohol which leads to bad relationship as you can imagine.

If you haven't, begin studying the book suggested to you a few months back. I'd also seriously recommend you read The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar as well.

There's not much info to really work with here beyond her expressed preference for drinkers and having a booze hound dad. It doesn't make sense that after all this time together she's suddenly voicing concern over your drinking. I recall that you let us know your girlfriends previous lover was a drunk, so it only makes sense that she'd be attracted to alchies as her father's one too, but what exactly changed to provoke her to request you stop drinking?

If you haven't given her a decisive answer regarding your drinking, ask her questions to better understand this newly realized discomfort she has. While you're at it, kill three birds with one stone and find out what her thoughts are on other easily accessible drugs, like tobacco, marijuana, cocaine, heroine, and over the counter drugs. It'll help give you some insight as what her values are and the kind of personality you exhibit when buzzed. It also couldn't hurt to have someone record you on a smartphone video while buzzed to help you get a sober look at how alcohol alters your consciousness.

@Saltycroc

So you're saying I shouldn't approach them at all??

↑ Your words, not mine.

Talk about a bleak conclusion, though. Whether good looking or not, just because you've chosen a girl that strikes your fancy, it doesn't mean that she's obliged to pick you in kind. It makes no sense for anyone to care why someone they've just met, or known for the briefest of time, isn't interested in them. Should you be disappointed? Sure, but having feelings beyond that one way or the other hints that the despondent party has some serious maturing to do.

In the long run, you're going to fail more than you will succeed in any endeavor you commit yourself to. The challenge is in not letting those failures keep you down and hold you back, such that you don't pick yourself up, dust yourself off, learn from the failure, revise, and try again later.

By employing cold approaches you're getting vastly better feedback which you can learn from than guys otherwise get with months of online dating, or hookup apps. You also gain more than you lose when any 'bitch', ugly or not, turns you down, than if she accepts. Britain's Prince Harry is learning that lesson the hard way. 'Ugly bitches' are for practice only. If they want to be childless spinsters, you've an ethical responsibility to help them along.

It's better to be rejected as soon as possible, than to get rejected after several years of marriage with children. Divorced guys carry the emotional baggage from that for the rest of their lives.

Study the book and keep having as many face-to-face interactions with females you can as you feel up to it. There is nothing wrong with feeling the juice isn't worth the squeeze from time to time. Take a break and resume when you've rested, but don't continue with any delusion that females are the life goal. Their companionship is the accessory, the man you're otherwise working to be is the goal.

Update to this story. I returned to the scene of the fire, and found the property was occupied by a VERY old man who is not in good shape at his best. He indicated that he is "Indian" of Central American origin. Conversation was very difficult, as he'd ramble off-topic and not remember or describe events in a linear and coherent manner. Anyway, the best I can put together what happened from what all he said to me:

There was a litter of 10 puppies, of which 6 survived to weaning age

Something about making coffee, and a "butane" cylinder with a bad connection.

He has no phone, and is in no shape to have alerted the nearest neighbors in a timely manner 1/2 mile and more away. He referred to the neighbors as "Christians" though in a tone suggesting their history with him was neither loving nor charitable.

His beloved dog he had a long time, probably the Mama dog, who would wait for him on his bed; apparently perished

I spotted one puppy obviously from the same litter. It had burned paws and burns elsewhere including his head, but he was moving around actively and looks like he'll recover fine.

The car was a completely burned out husk with shards of windshield glass on top of everything inside.

Kneeling down, the car was much lower with all the tires flat, and I could see the fur of the puppy I couldn't pull out, way underneath. I might take a jack over there to try to get it out for a proper burial.

It wasn't clear that it registered fully with him that I was there during the fire, and that I had saved two of the puppies. I'm going to bring one so he can see it still alive. A neighbor has committed to adopt one already.

At night there was fire EVERYWHERE, making it seem like the property was much bigger. By the light of day, there was surprisingly little to see, not even piles of ashes to match all the burning shit around that night.

The poor old chap can barely take care of himself it seems. At least he has the one puppy as a companion, but I don't see him as capable of caring for more pets so giving the one back really isn't under consideration.

As my beloved Granddad said numerous times during his last years, "Getting old sucks!"

@Typo-MAGAshiv

that would not have been spontaneous combustion

Actually, yes it would, as opposed to combustion initiated by contact with the flames themselves. The technical term would be flashover, which incidentally sets up the conditions for a backdraft by superheating combustibles well above ignition temperature so a sudden increase in available oxygen causes a runaway burning event.

Flashover was poorly understood in fire science even 25 years ago. I remember reading an in depth article about the phenomenon getting recognized and slowly propagated from fire labs to arson investigators. It talked about people languishing in jail insisting on their innocence, but charged with arson and manslaughter because investigators assumed the evidence showed multiple origin points and considered this prima facie evidence of deliberate setting. It finally got recognized that the radiant and air heat within a confined space could result in the fire "jumping" to flash ignite objects, leaving unburned materials between the original fire and these. Imagine losing your family and property to a tragic fire, then getting accused of and jailed for starting it?

@SeasonedRP I already have an optimal number of ranch dogs thus had no plans to keep them permanently; good news, one of my neighbors is already committed to adopting one.

I've tried to get my three dogs to interact with the puppies to help socialize them, but the inter-dog dynamics have made this challenging and attention-intensive.

I have my main dog Radar, so named because he was a stray rescued from the grounds of a major airport. Then there are Duke (Huge Dane) and Mama (spazzy German Shepherd), who I took in after they got abandoned by a pot farming operation that got burgled and cleaned out. Mama had newborn puppies at the time, which i rehomed once they were old enough; Mama and Duke have long since gotten spayed/neutered

Duke actually recognizes the significantly smaller Radar as "top dog" on the ranch in my eyes; Radar however is insecure about his position and always gets into growling matches toward Duke who puts up with his shit with a surprising amount of forbearance. It's uncannily like the dynamics between guys in a bar.

Radar hasn't been particularly welcoming toward the puppies, growling at them. Duke has taken a protective role toward them, so he gets between Radar and the puppies with both of them growling at each other which intimidates the puppies who are trying to interact. Mama makes playful gestures toward the puppies, which scares them into retreat, and brings Duke over to check her; this prevents play from developing further.

It's taken a lot of work to de-escalate the tensions between the two males; Duke is picking up on the message that the puppies don't need such intensive guarding faster than Radar is getting that the puppies are welcome guests on "His" territory.

Using Applied Social Dynamics on a group of canines wasn't on my 2025 bingo card, but here I am.

@Theotonic_knight

Girl enthusiastic on date, very slow on text

Hi all,

I've (27) met a girl (22) a week ago at the pool. Approached there and talked for 1-2 hours. Went on a date few days ago in a bar. It was solid - strong eye contact, she began escalating on me getting touchy, getting close to me and signaling for a kiss. She took a selfie with me. After the bar she put her hand around mine while walking. Drove her back to her place and we hugged for prolly 15 mins before she got out. I decided not to eacalate (was it a mistake?) as there was no possibility for sex (she had a roommate). Got a text if I got back home. So on paper, everything is good. She was slow on text (3-5 hrs) before the date, however, she continued like that aftewards. 3 days later I propose we meet to which she says she can't that day and that we should meet later that week. To which I respond "alright" and left it that way. Got needy tonight asking that she didn't mentioned which day she's free. No response yet. Still going out with other girls, however this really bothes me. What's your take with these slow responses, does she play games or goes out with multiple people?

While it's good to read that you're interested in this girl, your lack of communication discipline will be a problem going forward.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Last night there was a homestead nearby that went up in flames around 11pm. I rushed over with a shovel to see if I could help. Found nobody present, but EVERYTHING there was ablaze in what was clearly arson; fire would not have started naturally and spread like this.

I heard dogs yelping so I approached a car with flames all along the driver's side exterior with what looked like cages. Way too much radiant heat to approach so I went around to the passenger side, and looked around the front to find the cages were burned out. I could still hear dogs crying sounded like from inside; passenger door was locked so I broke the window. With fresh oxygen the whole interior was suddenly completely aflame. Dogs still yelping so I dropped to my knees to see three puppies underneath. The cubes of glass I had just broken were burning me as I knelt and I struggled to reach and pull out the puppies. Got two dragged out with difficulty, there was a third who was stuck like the deflating tires brought the car down on him. Flames were now pouring out of the window above my head, and the intense radiant heat felt like it was going to spontaneously combust my hair.
I gathered up the two puppies and my shovel awkwardly and made my way back to my car through desert scrub. I could hear more than one dog making crying noises I never want to hear again. Fire engines were finally approaching with difficulty over the small unmarked dirt roads.

Long story short, now I'm fostering two very sweet puppies who are in remarkable condition for what they went through. I have small burns and wounds on all 4 extremities but it was worth it to save them. They had eaten a full meal just hours before; I know this because they puked copious amounts of colorful kibble in my back seat on the way home.

This must have been some kind of revenge or nasty breakup scenario; I don't know who would torch someone's entire homestead, pets and all like that for petty reasons.