Whenever a guy says "Sex was great, woman was submissive during sex, why did she then do X or Y?" I want to say "Dear boy, understand this; all you have done in sex is make her do what she wanted to do anyway. What made you think that would make her do something she did not want to do or refrain from an thing she did want to do?"

Sex is a guided trip to the sweet shop for women. Sure they are not always in the mood for it, sure they complain if its not good enough but otherwise its a fun trip, where you do most of the work and set it up with lots of courting and care. Women like sex. They like the guided trip, they like the role play aspect of playing up to what you want in return for getting what they want in and out of bed.

Remember giving someone what they want doesn't mean they will be indebted to you or loyal to you. They would need to make an inner decision to do that, they would need to be strong willed and have a strong sense of morality. Does this sound like most women?

Never big yourself up for more than a day or two on pleasing a woman in bed. It has about a 36 hour effect on her and then it passes. Women's feelings change. Women who like sex, probably are used to getting it from men, have probably had it with others and liked it more (that's just the odds when she has been with a few others). Some of them like getting their bread buttered on both sides. I mean who doesn't like more of a good thing? "Girl can't help it if she likes men and men like her" ...right?

Threatening to bail on them looks weaker every time you do it. "If he wanted to he would have" ....right?

Finally when you have criticised yourself for the vanity of thinking sex might make flighty women faithful, cut yourself some slack. This might not be about you not being manly enough to hold her. It just might be about her being no good.

Even if it was because she wanted more of a man, it wasn't you. You weren't the right type for her. You can't act a role for long. Be the best version of yourself you can gold day in day out. That's basically yourself trying pretty hard. You won't manage any more than that over time. Don't try. Work on self improvement of course but women need to be right for you in the here and now. You may never become all you would wish to be but you have to be good enough for them and they need to be good enough for you. If they are not, they are not good enough.