@ChadifiedAsian

Signs of Pair Bonding?

Hi all. I looked for this topic in the sidebar, couldn't find anything.

I'm curious from a theory perspective - how do you know a woman is pair bonded to you? Is it the depth of emotional connection, acts of service, etc? If anyone has sources for this, would be great.

Thanks.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Kloi This might be recent enthusiasm talking, but I would recommend Otto Weininger's 1903 book, Sex and Character. It's philosophy rather than psychology or self-help, but, considering its age, it's amazingly accessible, and cuts deep into the subject of the matter - the matter being the dynamics between the two sexes.

The guy was called "anti-Semitic", which is probably why his book isn't referenced even a sliver of the impact it had. (In fact, he was gay and autistic, and his "antisemitism" was just transference of the feelings towards his mother).

So, Otto talks about "the genius", which is practically, the man. And identifies what's at the core of what makes him a man, as well as why such a core is missing from women. Compared with modern behaviorism, having someone lay out the basic principles from which all the partial behaviors stem is refreshing and enlightening.

I do think a lot of my love for this is that he was gay and autistic, just like me.

@Manofcave

self improvement is not enough or i've not done enough of it?

hi guys, straight to the point.

I've improved a lot compared to my past self 4 years ago when i first discovered the RP got a decent bod , but no matter how much i try, just can't seduce women tried multiple different(and a combination of them) approach being an asshole, always agreed and amplified shit tests, Machiavellian, kino-ed her according to body language but always got signals to go back one step.

I've even tried to seduce whales(it seems even they have better options than me) to practice but it seems even they are not interested in me. I've developed great hobbies where i'm great at and like doing but its all nerdy stuff philosophy, math, coding, technical stuff. ik these all stuff is not what a woman should give a fuck about but its part of who i am. i also don't drink or smoke or do drugs so parties/bars/clubs are out of the question for me to meet women which reduces my options to cold approaching in my college and online dating apps.

Tried Hinge(paid)/tinder/bumble trio with the best pictures i could find and got 4 matches in a month of swiping, 2 didn't even responded to the first text, other 2 were attention farming men on the app

30+ cold approaches of which I've got around 5 numbers and 1 date 0 lays (yes IK its a low number but cold approaching is not generally acceptable in the conservative culture i live in, but no excuses and will try more) money game is bad as im still in college but its not an excuse to not develop this area of my life

also im not on Instagram or any other social media as consumes too much of my time to build and keep the profile updated and becomes about seeking external validation so i don't indulge

20yo,kv, 5'8, 12%body fat(visible 6 packs), autistic,72kg bw, 21.77FFMI, little more than 2 years of lifting experience, also considering 500mg test after a few more years

I humbly beg the advice of yours intelligence and experience on how to tackle this area of my life and maximize it to its potential.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.