Had a convo with a plate this week #fieldreport #opinion

Also finished Dread by Rian Stone this week.

There is a chapter where he points out all the requirements a woman should meet if she did something to shake the trust:

• humility
• initiative
• honesty
• patience
• ownership
• recompense

He also sum up this way:

In the hundreds of times I have given men this list to use in gauging their wives’ regret, remorse, or shame, in the thousands of times guys have reported on this in their field reports, and in every example I’ve seen growing up, I have yet to see a woman pass. Not one. The purpose of this isn’t to test her. It’s to test yourself. I found it was impossible to tell a guy his wife is a cheating whore and he needs to sort himself out. He has to have a path to follow, a way to figure it out for himself.

It feels my ego with juicy and sweet raspberry filling, knowing I'm guiding my sparring partner well enough for the last year.

There is one caveat to this action list, as he admitted himself, he has never seen it work.

One sample would never be enough to make a good observation, but I do some things different. They will make her or break her.

I teach her reality where society is not her friend.

• female friends want her to fail and be below them so they ask her to do things to discredit her,
• she is being gossiped about behind her back and being discredited, for things people know about her,
• men and women talk about her behind her back in a social circles,
• I gave her outlet: she should just trust her own family [hopefully she can],
• she has never talked disrespectfully about her father, but I have asked her to show me how much she really appreciated his sacrifice,
• I have asked her to put on her clean social media all party pictures and made profile public, when she was like why, I have asked is there anything inappropriate or shameful on them,
• I let her pay for the periods, where she can spend some time with me and talk to me,
• Other periods she is allowed to do the acts of service for me, and talk to me only during the sex,
• She will be absolved of monetary contributions once her friends will confirm that she was not afoul - here I say I believe she wasn't but she will need to prove it through her friends showing me respect [sucking on my dick]
• She can have a shot at whatever more I will allow with me, once her friends will confirm that she was not afoul, --The main theme here is, only her fiends can prove she is innocent, although I believe her all the way,
• There is expectation of her letting me know where she goes and who she hangs out with, although I tell her she has to go on the girls night out if she want to bring me fresh meat, and it is not a choice,
  • she is allowed to go and do whatever she wants anyway, because she will either show me trough her behavior who she is, or her social circle will do,
• I do occasional acts of service for her, things that improve also my experience later on: new/second hand bed, bedding; this doesn't follow the rule 2/3, but is never the less thoughtful and absolves her from feeling like slut;
• only I am allowed to buy alcohol, unless she invites her friends,
• I make sure she understands I created for her safe environment to make changes I have requested; although I have not put any time limit on it, it will run on my terms [paid for time is the best limitus I could come up with, to limit abuse],
• she can quit any time and take all the lessons as a benefit to her life, no regrets from me,
• "she can get any guy she wants, as long as she is honest, but I do not encourage it, since I like she wants to be my bitch" [that was only said at the early stages],
• sex is flowing, 2x times I have seen opportunity to say "if you do not feel like having sex it is ok to tell me, I will not judge you for it", then stopping and waiting for response, while eating apple pie -- starting to cry during sex - "can you cry more intense? it turns me on" - " I can't it feels too good" -- this is now the running joke

It is easy to do since I actually believe in it and have stayed fairly consistent with my frame no to confuse my sparing partner.

Rian's list generally relies on her actions only, there is not enough of what has always been the strongest driver for women behaving better. Shame and social circle judgment.

I think all the above have came to happen after the main event, at the time I didn't know the term or theory about it, but from what I remember it might have been that.

Above is the short term plan.

Long term plan is so far not on the horizon.

So far I have lacked radical disattachment from the case, on days or weeks I should have focus 100% on other stuff and it is on me.

I have overinvested on some other days. My focus should have been to get my stuff done.

Rian's book reminded my my first time reading RP forum and being so surprised that there are men out there that I share observations with. And that I'm not insane just because I didn't see any other dude doing it.

It is a good compendium.

Divorce story #fieldreport

How by chance I have taken advantageous position away from my ex.

• me and my ex - we sold our house and on a specific day my ex supposed to come around to pick up the stuff from the house, that was the same day as the house hand over to the new owner.

Before that point for several months I had a house for my own. That was a result of triggering of my ex one day by asking her triggering valid questions [it wasn't the purpose but it happened], then she moved out. I have changed all the passwords by then and made sure - as much as possible - there is no loose ends. I was preparing for the conversation to go in any direction.

Later on I found out she was already preparing to claim false domestic abuse.

Although triggering is not recommended course of action, in this case it might save my ass. If we continued to live together she would definitely try to trigger me and if I would like to save my sanity and clean record I would have to move out. That in turn would have costed me more and would delay the sale of the house.

Later She tried to get me out of the house, by sending me threatening letters [by her friend lawyer].

• I started seeing some other woman later and bringing her back home, I knew my ex doesn't want to bump into her as she was way more attractive. That again reduced her random visits to try to trigger me.

On a day of house handover, ex sent 2 of her fem fiends. I have supervised what they take and moved my stuff. I have noticed some family memorabilia is missing. Locked the house and said it is not progressing unless I get the stuff back.

They didn't know I didn't care about this memorabilia and hoped to trigger me. I sold them later for £5.

I sat in the car outside calling the cops for attempted theft and they sat outside calling the cops.

I have looked them in the eyes and smirked. They have probably lost it and called a bf that came pumped like one of them got raped. But that happen later.

Boyfriend had previous records of abuse and I knew him.

Police came around. Fems tried to schmooze police guy, whatever. I have showed the court agreement of who takes what. Fems were so bright they didn't even remove evidence from the car and hand it over to me in front of the policeman.

Next: Bf arrives with a bang and swings his fists at me in front of the policeman.

From then on I have seen only one more letter from the ex's friend lawyer although proceedings lasted several few months. Assuming he just quit helping her. That reduced my costs significantly.

BTW. the chances were created not only by luck but also by holding a FAIRLY steady frame of calmness and focus.

House was 50/50 while I kept most of the items without getting challenged be the court.

#fieldreport #exchangingnotes

Shit tests.

Some of them are not even shit tests it is overreaction of the guy.

Example. I let the girl hold my finger as opposed to handhold. She asks am I cold as its chilly outside. I say I'm generally fine except my finger that is cold from your cold bitch heart.

Its a diss so any good † + shyish + investes girl naturally would react with 'oh really' maybe even with sad face to look for validation or bit playfully. So she doesnt even shit test. Its the guy failing normal coversation, which becomes failed shit test only because of the failure.

† good as not crazy 1000 cock stare slut

Here a guy would also notice a difference between slut and not slut (assuming that both know each other some and first ASD is gone - for better calibration). Slut will be ,constantly challenging and wont be looking for validation nor be playful.

#fieldreport #diary

Met the chick on a social night. Interaction wasn't too long. Got her number, got 'lazy' text exchange, set up meetup where I have led her to eat my first meal of a day, got her chips, told her it is on me if she gets coffee in another place. Walking the street noticed funny clothing shop where I pretended she is my EX. X is what I have called her whole day as I didn't remember the name. While pretending she is my EX - I have run few jokes about how we shouldn't meet as we are already done and if our partners find out, they would be upset.

From the street got her to shisha bar. IDK but I was really relaxed like they add something to it. She completed that saying that girls find this kind of calmness sexy.

At some point I have put my hand on her spine and it just stopped her talking. From now on I was making fun of her using it: whenever she was talking a bit to much I was pressing her at the back 'switching her off'. Soon she joined pressing me. Soon after She was holding my hand on her legs and soon after again - while I run 'are you a dude' joke - she shamelessly slid my hand into her crotch. Some talk about boner/boners and other shit talk I don't remember. SHould have used microphone that I have had on me anyway for this purpose.

Later I was pretending to hit her with pipe, to which she replied she prefers that more than smoking it.

Parking run out, so I asked her what interesting has she got in the are she lives and we'll meet there. I other place I have stated we are not ordering anything but chat for a bit on a couch and go separate ways. She went for a kiss, once I have put my arm around.

Tried to seed to get invited to hers as I was living too far. But wasn't bothered too much knowing that first meet fuck leads to short term plates and I prefer committed long term plates.

At some point I got up and said it is time to go. She asked me to walk her to car - invited me inside. It ended with short but intense petting.

Things to correct: I was possibly too needy [possibly initiated too much touch ], should have bounced sooner [likely], should be better prepared with venues [they were random], need to be careful of DEER stuff as it possibly slips in places, need to record

Good: I usually neg too much [did better this time], good spontaneous leadership, very relaxed teasing

@Antelope continuation

I'll continue. For now without dwelling into past.

She 'owes' me now several escorts, several friends, several strangers, several thousands. I'm not obsessing about it.

Also I'm not saying that at the end of it there is anything for her. I have sent her a message [ass cover like] stating that she can do whatever she wants but I INTEND NOT TO reciprocate to whatever I'll get, but she is free to leave anytime. NSA.

She already "knows" it is not just a threat as I have cut her off for several months after not following my rules. She probably tries wait me out or whatever, but I make her to do the things for me form the list.

I told er to get only escorts that lick pussy. I think she couldn't find one like this, on short notice and ignored the girl doesn't do it, as I have starved her of dick for a while [not on purpose].

Each thing she supposed to do is number of stars on a scoreboard. Escort has a lowest value on it.

Recent #fieldreport

So we're in the hotel and cute indeed escort says she doesn't eat pussy. I take my chick on a side and tell her that 'I go home' as I'm not participating in sex where escort doesn't eat her out [my chick denies on doing lesbo only action so I'm required around with my dick being sucked etc]. I say she can keep me around if she goes F-F action only and I will enjoy watching. But I reassure her I will not punish her for being reckless this time if she is not ready for this. All that will happen I go home. I don't want sex to be negative experience so I state she can also quit anytime and not punishment will be applied.

After some tears and snotty bubbles girls get action.

In the end whole interaction went well, was fun and sexy.

I have A&A'ed and disciplined verbally escort. I have focused on a plate body language. I could see she liked the escort and played with her a bit with cute tenderness.

Few hour later when I fucked plate I have seen plenty of eye whites. She never begged me so much and loud for a dick before.

#fieldreport

I have tried to put it in words several times, but can't really make up my mind what do I think about it.

I got this chick. IDK autistic or some other disturbance.

She basically pays me for "therapy", quite a big buck. Therapy is that I'm patient and explain her stuff in non aggressive but often direct way, fuck her, she orders prostitutes when I want and I fuck both of them. I don't have any regrets doing any of it as this is hard job and if this would finish I got something material and non - out of it.

I try to stick to my code of conduct. Which is not to judge harshly. But since I got more educated about women I have decided to charge for it.

I have one more regular plate. Slowly work on more and more quality.

Worst shit is I don't have someone to have a look into it and tell me stuff I might not see.

She tries to convince me she loves me so much. And apparently I'm the worst guy she had. Which would mean that I don't let her get away with shit.

It is not a full story.

@SSeuSS

#fieldreport

Guys intimidated with this ballerina chick didn't ask her to dance after classes just hovering around her. I have first danced with some other OK chick and then with her. She didn't want to leave me for a long time. Dilated pupils - check, big loops earrings - check, nervous - check, followed to destination away from people - check. Me pulling the trigger - fail. That is 2nd time me not pulling the trigger this week. Next step kicking this lazy anxiety to curb.

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After you've given the book a good read, try to make it a goal when talking to females you're interested in to exchange home phone numbers. If all she has in a mobile number accept it, but always ask if they've got a home phone number. The worst that they can do is say no to you, but the worst you can do is nothing at all.