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caught my wife cheating on camera with her ex husband last week ago and so she moved into her moms house and we started negotiating divorce terms. She insisted I leave the house for a month so she can get her bearings straight and find a job, before we finalize terms. I've been the sole provider for 10 months....we've been married a year. The house, her car and boob job are all in my name. I met with a lawyer yesterday and was explaining our situation, and he said "she sounds like the type of woman that will file charges next." I laughed, and said "no she just wants me to leave the house before we sale it." He went into the court system website and sure enough, 30 minutes ago she filled a petition for protection from abuse and is asking me to vacate the house. She listed my dangerous weapons that I own as "nunchucks, daggers(?) and a former college wrestler. I can't make this stuff up.
We had our first meeting yesterday. I caught her cheating 5 days ago and she's saying its harassment because I sent her and her family the videos. All of her family is absolutely blown away that she went back to her ex-husband who she claimed was abusive for 10 years and gave her 3 seizures at the end of their marriage. She had 3 full blown seizures at the end which nearly killer her. The doctor told her she would eventually end up dead if she didn't leave him. So she filled for divorce.
TPO
Read MoreIt's called the Silver Bullet, and it's a tactic so common that some divorce attorneys recommend to women in every divorce. This exact situation happened to me, right down to my attorney warning me, me not believing her, and her finding it in the system. In my case, the judge approved it immediately, despite the only thing she said was "he speaks to me in a way I don't like, and he leaned in a doorway during a fight, leading me to believe he would trap me in the home.". Stay in the home right now, but prepare. It's highly likely she will get this approved.......the bar for women getting TPOs is very low. If she gets it approved and the police come, you will have minutes to collect the things you need. Pack now, even if that means living out of a suitcase. Take anything you can't live without, because it could be months before you get back. Computers, important files, everything you may need.
Bro dm me!!! I been thru every step of this process… u need to protect your valuables because u can realistically never see your house again in a few days… you could be ordered out the house and next thing u know preparing for trial and never get back in…. U also should implement extreme austerity measures, cancel all household services that arent absolutely essential. Decrease cable to just internet, cancel all streaming services, cancel any memberships etc… at this point you are playing from behind the 8 ball and need to set a new status quo (financially)… sell off any cars or toys u dont need…. Otherwise it can all haunt u later in pendente lite hearings.
Please DM me, I just went through this 16 months ago and still have not set foot in my house since the divorce isn't finalized. I was married 19 years. I'd be glad to quickly coach you on what you need to do ASAP. Don't delay, get your valuables out NOW.
Yes, my post divorce girlfriend just pulled this nonsense on me in Indiana back in December. I also had a feeling she might do it and was in the actual process of moving out when the police served it and I was required to stop. They were sympathetic enough to give me an additional 5 minutes to grab my work PC and work clothes with an escort into the home. They made it very clear that the moment they handed me the paper order, it took effect. And side note, she had her new work fling over to the house later that afternoon. Women who can rationalize filing a bogus order can rationalize a lot of crazy. Unfortunately, it doesn’t afford you time to emotionally process or prepare once the crazy making has already kicked off. I’m happy to report this whole experience gave me the kick in the junk I needed to completely reprioritize my “picker” and am now dating a low maintenance, sweet, intelligent, independent, church going woman who makes me wonder how I ever tolerated all the previous nonsense and drama. You don’t have time to think that far ahead right now. Get your important things out now, even if just to the back of your car.