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"(To a man), walking into a singles night can feel, to some, like an admission of failure."

If that's not enough, he can be sure the women will quickly make him feel like a failure, no matter what his non-obvious traits might be (personality, salary, occupation, etc.).

Women always (not so cleverly) hide the truth about singles events, which is that no woman would respect any man who shows up. He would immediately be labeled a try-hard loser. So even if a non-Chad man confidently attended, he would quickly be notified of his place in the pecking order.

Here's the impression I get from single guys and single gals under 40:

Single guys would like to date. Most have realized it won't happen for them because they don't meet single gals' current standards. But they've made their peace with it. Plus, they have hobbies and other interests. And many have learned to treasure peace and quiet and solitude.

Single gals would like to date. They're baffled by why it's not happening for them. Many claim they're fine with it, but deep down they haven't made peace with it. Worse, they lack hobbies and other interests (watching true crime docs on Netflix doesn't count). So there's a growing sense of frustration among them. There are even signs of desperation.