I'm going to put this in a different way so you might understand it. First, good on you for nexting her, and it worked. Now she wants to fuck you, but you hold her off. First question is why? She's literally throwing herself at you, and you're saying no.

Here's where you and the rest of this forum diverges. You think saying no demonstrates higher value to her, that you're not lacking for sex, that you don't value her so highly, etc. that's not true, when red pill talks about forcing a woman to demonstrate their value first, they're talking about being careful with how you spend your time, not your sex. If a woman comes up to Brad Pitt and offers to blow him in the bathroom before he even knows her name, do you think he'd decline? Maybe if he's genuinely not interested in her, but that's not your case here. And having blown him in this manner, do you think that girl thinks less of him for letting her do that, than if he had made her wait, and demanded that she let him buy her dinner first?

Women do not think less of a man who gives his sex away freely. They think less of a man who gives his time and resources away freely. And conversely, a man who doesn't fuck when he clearly desires to and she wants him to, is seen as gay or not a man.

People are calling you a pussy and literally talking about how to write code to allow them to make your pronouns she/her because you're behaving the opposite of a man. You gave this girl (that you want to fuck) two hours of your time freely, but when she asks you for sex, you say no, not until we spend more time together. So she invites you to go shopping with her, you spend even more time together, and when she wants to fuck, you say no. Not enough time has been spent.

Do you see why we're calling this behavior, acting like a girl? She is not respecting you more because you're protecting your virtue like some 16 year old virgin girl. She did respect you more when you unfollowed her Instagram because that was you withholding your attention and time. This is different. Very different.

At this point, while you wait with all your Machiavellian plans to keep increasing your worth by... Cooking for her, spending hours talking to her, going shopping with her, liking her Instagram posts, and not having sex with her.. she will either conclude that you're a closet gay, or that you prefer being her nice guy orbiter rather than her lover, and she will soon place you in that camp while she goes somewhere else to get her freak on.