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Perfect point in 30 seconds? 100m views? Go fuck yourself. 10,000 views at 10 minutes watch time? Here's $10k trololololol
The time spent watching matters more to the overlords
Far more than clicks and views
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!
To those of you who're men, or women, of goodwill. I pray that even in these trying times you can eat, drink, and be merry on this special Thanksgiving day! I pray that all, not including the degenerates and diabolical among us, have an otherwise peaceful thanksgiving, wherever you are. And to those of you who aren't men, or women, of goodwill I hope your affairs are sorted before you meet whatever end is in store for you.
#2025 #Holiday #Thanksgiving #Animals #Birds #Turkey #World #US #America
@Mate1212 I get it. But the best you can do is be better yourself. I have a girlfriend myself and I'm not afraid of losing her, because I know I'm the best fucking option she can possibly choose from.
She finds a guy better than you, she cheats. It doesn't get any simpler than that.
Now I also get it that the insecurity is always going in at the back of the mind but if you work onto being a better yourself every day your mindset will shift entirely. You'll no longer feel insecure or a loser because the subconscious will start believing that you're actually building something. Work out daily, work towards developing your skills, do what you like and actually start living life in the real world instead of your head. This will tremendously help.
Posting that you're insecure about being cheat on will only end up in her cheating because you are a 'loser'. Because losers ain't got options and will cry if their girl leaves. Don't be a loser. And don't be afraid of her cheating. Who knows if fuck-your-bitch richie will have eyes on your girl and wants to fuck her (spoiler: she'll go with fuck-your-bitch richie). Only two solutions, there are: 1) Stop caring about being cheated on. 2) Be a better choice (IN THE EYES OF YOUR GIRL) than fuck-your-bitch richie.
Read MoreThis is very good. The truth put simply. Nice find.
"A half truth is the worst of all lies, because it can be defended in partiality."
― Solon
Here's the other half TRP guys prefer to tune out courtesy of No Choice from "Stonetoss". As always, my condolences to those whom this tragedy applies. Hopefully, this thread will provide insight on a topic TRP regulars avoid discussing.
As I've mentioned regarding my own experiences with, and observations of, pedophiles, I've found that many are too profoundly traumatized psychologically to exercise any discernible control of themselves. As such, I'll use this opportunity to re-introduce everyone to "Crisis Magazine" articles I first plugged in the public square some years ago originally published in 2016 by #JosephNicolosi entitled The Traumatic Foundation of Male Homosexuality and The Traumatic Foundation of Gender Dysphoria
Read MoreWomen Leave for Happiness — What If I’m the Unhappy One?
I’ve been married 15 years. Good career(6 figs), stay in shape, live with intention. I realized that I’ve been slowly shrinking to fit inside my wifes comfort zone. Sacrificing myself to try to make her happy by doing what i thought i was supposed to (provide/protect/etc), but....i dont get really anything in return.
My wife is a good woman in the traditional sense — cooks, cleans, caring and loyal. But emotionally, nada. She’s avoidant, defensive and resists everything outside her comfort zone. No hobbies, no curiosity, no willingness.
She says she’s “content but not happy.” I feel obligation, loyalty, and compassion… but no spark, no partnership, no real life together beyond logistics and chores.
Here’s the part I’m wrestling with:
Red Pill talks a lot about women leaving men “because they weren’t happy” — and how men get blindsided. So what happens when I’m the one who isn’t happy? Am I doing the same thing, just in reverse?
I’m not blaming her for everything. I own my mistakes, but she is "dismissive-avoidant".
I’m at the point where separation feels like the only path but part of me wonders if I’m falling into the same trap RP warns about-- chasing “happiness.”
I’m not chasing excitement. I’m chasing a partner who actually engages.
So here’s my question to this community:
How do you tell the difference between:
“I’m unhappy, so I’m leaving” (the thing men get burned by) vs “The relationship has hit a dead end because we’re fundamentally incompatible in growth, effort, and emotional connection.”
I’ve been married 15 years. Good career(6 figs), stay in shape, live with intention. I realized that I’ve been slowly shrinking to fit inside my wifes comfort zone. Sacrificing myself to try to make her happy by doing what i thought i was supposed to (provide/protect/etc), but....i dont get really anything in return.
My wife is a good woman in the traditional sense — cooks, cleans, caring and loyal. But emotionally, nada. She’s avoidant, defensive and resists everything outside her comfort zone. No hobbies, no curiosity, no willingness.
She says she’s “content but not happy.” I feel obligation, loyalty, and compassion… but no spark, no partnership, no real life together beyond logistics and chores.
Here’s the part I’m wrestling with:
Red Pill talks a lot about women leaving men “because they weren’t happy” — and how men get blindsided. So what happens when I’m the one who isn’t happy? Am I doing the same thing, just in reverse?
I’m not blaming her for everything. I own my mistakes, but she is "dismissive-avoidant" ( emotional distance, withdrawal, stonewalling, defensiveness, and difficulty with intimacy/affection)
I’m at the point where separation feels like the only path but part of me wonders if I’m falling into the same trap Red Pill warns about: chasing “happiness.”
Except… I’m not chasing excitement or novelty. I’m chasing life. Growth. A partner who actually engages.
So here’s my question to this community:
How do you tell the difference between:
“I’m unhappy, so I’m leaving” (the thing men get burned by) vs “The relationship has hit a dead end because we’re fundamentally incompatible in growth, effort, and emotional connection.”
I’m trying to avoid cope. I want clarity if this all on me, a natural mismatch, or a necessary hard decision. Friends say, leave & be happy. Maybe I need to man up?
Plan to separate around new year, if not sooner.
I don't disagree with the idea that it's not any mans responsibility to be the source or well spring of happiness in another persons life. Happiness is temporary, fleeting, that's why we value it so much. If she's otherwise content in her relationship with you, you're doing awesome as far as any guys would be concerned. I can only hope that in the litany of questions you've given your wife over the years after noticing her unhappiness, it has helped you to discern if her feelings are purely coincidental to occurring in the marriage, or explicitly due to it. Once you pull the trigger, it will be a very challenging thing for obvious reasons to undo should you change your mind. However, when everything is said and done you don't need our permission or approval with what you're about to initiate.
Whether you do or not, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read MoreSo I’m 25, 5 10 “, 250lb blankan, I had a girlfriend for 2 days then wimped out didn’t even reach first date before I checked out. I’m wondering on what to do I’m hitting like a plateau in lifting I bench max 150 but I’m losing motivation I haven’t done squats but the part to keep me going is not there I need help on that. Also the mental to not give up before first date. I have a court case pending but lawyer says it might be dismissed assault criminal damaging and menacing charges. I’m on disability cause of my accident where the lawnmower severed my toe. What do I do?
Follow your attorneys best advice about your legal matters, your physicians best advice regarding your post surgery, and run those fitness concerns past your gyms personal trainer about these fitness problems, if one's available to you.
Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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dizzyboi - Women Leave for Happiness — What If I’m the Unhappy One?
I’ve been married 15 years. Good career(6 figs), stay in shape, live with intention. I realized that I’ve been slowly shrinking to fit inside my wifes comfort zone. Sacrificing myself...... [more]
People want different things from a marriage and its useful to be consider what you both entered marriage wanting, how successfully you were in getting that and what you want now? Consider what has been achieved and what could be achieved. If she really can't do the job you want of a wife, then you would not be running from unhappiness as opposed to running towards what you are looking for if you quit.
Throughout history the primary purpose of marriage has been to start a family by formally joining two families together. If you are married for that purpose then has she given you good (healthy smart, well adjusted) children, will she give you good children? can she raise children well in a way that fits with your values. Is she sensible with money? Does she like to spend on the same things that you do or do you feel she is wasteful or values things that are empty? These questions are more important than the question of feelings and spark.
Women get dull as a rule because they are seldom ever into the things we are into. One never gets a woman who is a perfect fit but if you are committed to one and have children with her, and if she is raising them well enough and not causing great friction, it may be that you need to look elsewhere to find mental stimulation. It is not very likely that you will ever find a long term stimulating partnership with a woman unless you are a fairly unusual man who is pleased by the things that excite women or she is an unusual woman who is pleased by the things that excite you.
If you have done the usual modern western thing and married someone you fell in love with so that you can effectively have a housemate that you have sex with, then it can be disappointing. Most house shares end when the roomies' interests and goals diverge. You don't have to fall out with a housemate to move out, you just have to decide you would rather be somewhere else. Falling in love puts two people on a convergence course in their aims and desires, they find what stimulates the other to be valuable. They want to build something together but when that has well and truly burnt out you are left carrying a woman through life and she has to give you enough back in return for that work.
I very much like what you say about "shrinking to fit inside my wife's comfort zone". This is something I think most men do (me included). Women have smaller lives and are more easily unsettled so you, in protecting her, have to shrink you life down a bit, particularly your ambitions for personal challenge, achievement and growth. To some extent it goes with the territory but it has to be weighed in the scales with everything else. Does the cost of this marriage outweigh the benefits?
Building a family is a very great benefit and we have to accept some cost for that. It is also a great benefit to have a companion in old age with whom one has much shared history. There is also benefit in good regular sex and in cooking and domestic chores being done but do the cost/ benefit scales balance out overall to her giving an adequate return? Without children in the benefit side of the scale, I think most women need to provide more than cooking, cleaning and sex to be a genuine asset to a husband. The same technological advances that set women "free" to work outside the home make domestic chores easy for a man who has a full time job. Cooking and cleaning you did fine when you were single and you yourself know that sex with the same woman is not worth a life time of being unsatisfied mentally or you would not be asking this question.
If she is capable of being adequate in marriage (if the scales balance or could balance with some adjustment), then maybe you need to explain to her that you need to find and follow some interest of your own because you are unsatisfied with your current life. You need to grow but you are not abandoning her and what you have built together. If she won't accept it without causing misery either by ill will, jealousy or being unable to cope with your having other interests, then perhaps she is no longer adequate after all?
Seeking the ideal is unlikely to ever come off -just look at the women you know and how it worked out for them. I would be wary over throwing away adequate after 15 years as old age is never far away and how many more bundles of 15 years do you have to invest? but inadequate is by the same reasoning something that must be removed from your life while you still have time to invest in yourself and maybe another relationship too.
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Reply To dizzyboi - Women Leave for Happiness — What If I’m the Unhappy One?
I’ve been married 15 years. Good career(6 figs), stay in shape, live with intention. I realized that I’ve been slowly shrinking to fit inside my wifes comfort zone. Sacrificing myself...... [more]
You don't tell us the important part: do you have kids?
Marriage without kids is a very very simple issue, compared to marriage with kids.
So I'll assume you don't have kids.
What you need to know is that the overwhelming majority of women become boring and bored in a long-term relationship such as marriage. The next one might too, that is.
Then again, for a wife to declare that she's not happy to a husband who tries to satisfy her, that's quite a red flag. Ultimately, it's her responsibility to make herself happy. Not that women can approach the notion of "responsibility", of course.
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