Hello everyone

I've been seeing this girl for about two months. She lives in another city (1h by car) where I have some friends, so I only go there once a month. She's 21F, around a 7.5/10, and the first dates went really well , she showed interest, escalation was smooth.

On our second date we made out, but I had to go back to my city. She later came to visit me, I invited her to dinner, we hooked up and she spent the night. I saw her again when I went to her city, we slept together again.

The issue started when I told her I had a “surprise” for her. What I meant was that I was going to give her a very good time in bed , and I did , she complimented me at bed but who cares she can say this to everyone . She later mentioned she was “waiting for the surprise,” and I got the impression she was expecting something material, which I’m not doing.

Then she reached out again, saying she wanted to come to my city, but she kept pushing to know exactly what we were going to do and if it gonna be more interesting than last times , almost like if my plan didn’t impress her, she wouldn’t come. I told her to come and discover, but she kept insisting. After that she sent me some sexy picture in the lingerie she was wearing last time , and asked me if i miss the red cold , i liked the picture and told her i like red color and looking to see what she gonna wear next time in order to not seem needy .

Looking back, the problem is that I positioned myself as a provider. She’s a student, and I paid for all the dates and now she’s pushing for more. She does show some qualities for an LTR, but since it would be long-distance, I’m questioning if it’s worth it especially that she is hypersexual.

So now I’m wondering: Should I see her one last time and close it properly, or should I just walk away and consider this plate done (She is the only plate i sleep with i have now ,but i'm seeing other girls , scarcity...) ?

but....i dont get really anything in return.

Sadly this is the deal. The man sacrifices his life. The woman turns up. The woman really doesn't contribute much - it's her job to help out raising kids and make food if you're lucky.

My wife is a good woman in the traditional sense — cooks, cleans, caring and loyal. But emotionally, nada. She’s avoidant, defensive and resists everything outside her comfort zone. No hobbies, no curiosity, no willingness.

Right

She says she’s “content but not happy.”

Yeah..... people who do nothing are rarely happy with doing nothing,

I feel obligation, loyalty, and compassion… but no spark, no partnership, no real life together beyond logistics and chores.

Right

Here’s the part I’m wrestling with:

Red Pill talks a lot about women leaving men “because they weren’t happy” — and how men get blindsided. So what happens when I’m the one who isn’t happy? Am I doing the same thing, just in reverse?

The thing with women leaving because they're not happy is that they are the cause of both sides being unhappy.

I’m not blaming her for everything. I own my mistakes, but she is "dismissive-avoidant".

I’m at the point where separation feels like the only path but part of me wonders if I’m falling into the same trap RP warns about-- chasing “happiness.”

I’m not chasing excitement. I’m chasing a partner who actually engages.

Honestly, I think you're right. I've dated a number of women, and the difference between the engaged and the distance is vast.

It is ok to leave. We have learned that much in the last 50 years.

She is supposed to be a partner. YOU ARE NOT ADOPTING A PUPPY.

Women are fully independent in their own right: you are allowed to leave if you want to. You do NOT have to justify it.

What I can't answer for you is this: can you find better?

So here’s my question to this community:

How do you tell the difference between:

“I’m unhappy, so I’m leaving” (the thing men get burned by) vs “The relationship has hit a dead end because we’re fundamentally incompatible in growth, effort, and emotional connection.”

In your case it's the latter.

The difference with you, is that YOU are the contributor. You are the provider. And you are not getting much out of it.