It's hard to tell what your story was because you say 7 month LDR and then have a random post about a plate and FWB 3 months ago. It's unclear why you have a timeline discrepancy so I can't even tell if you had any kind of abundance or not in the last year

Anyway. Let's break down the psychology of went went wrong.

1 ) you did an LDR. You only do LDRs if you've been together with a chick for a while and the reason it is long distance is for example training or a critical work assignment or something and waiting a few months is preferable to starting over. Not for some random pussy you can't let go of. Were you two ever even together long in person?

Women can't go that long while missing cock. They just can't. Men can go without sex for some time and be fine with it. Women cannot. Their entire lives revolve around being filled up. Don't do LDRs, they get very needy and upset they're not getting dick

2 )

Broke boundaries/lies

If you tolerate this at all they will just keep doing it. If it's mild you warn them. If it isn't you dump them. There is no in between. There is no trying to instill morality and virtue into a woman who has very little of it as is. Women are already less virtuous and of lower integrity than men anyway, they are not going to magically improve if they are already unscrupulous hoes.

If you allow this, they will just trample over you

3 ) whore friends.

A woman is absolutely the average of her friends. If her friends on average are selfish degenerate whores she will be the average of them. Especially when alcohol is involved and late nights are involved.

Pick girlfriends who like outdoor peace and reading clubs, etc. not night walker whores in mini skirts who need late night drunk validation around cock

4 ) not knowing what your girlfriend is doing

Look I don't care who you are or how much frame or status you have, if you signal to a woman that you do not care at all what she does and decide to be ignorant about her location, her plans, and who she is with, she will just run with it.

Women hate accountability but they will at least try to be accountable if you are aware of what is going on in their lives. Sure they could just lie, but at least if you have the details of what they are doing you can at least more easily smell when something is wrong.

You basically telegraphed to her: "do whatever, I do not care to find out what you are doing because muh alpha or something"

This serves absolutely zero benefit to you. It is not frame to be ignorant, it is foolish. You guys need to stop worrying so damn much about getting alpha points and actually start giving a shit about your investments. Would you leave your house door unlocked at all times or would you actually watch your investment more carefully than that?

Stop trying to framemaxx and start using common sense. This goes for half the guys posting in AskTRP trying to be alpha for absolutely no reason other than they think they read what they should do somewhere

5 ) no abundance

You basically told this woman: I am getting zero of my part of the bargain as a man (no sex bc distance) while she got 100% of her end (validation, pen pal, commitment). No man with self respect stays in an LDR. I've made that mistake before and I should have just cut it off immediately.

Women instinctively know when you do not prioritize your worth for them. And they resent you for it.

6 ) I take you already knew she was a hoe?

I doubt you found out yesterday that she likes to club or drink. You deliberately chose to commit to a woman who was probably likely or has previously been a hoe. As someone else already pointed out, that is foolish.

7 ) taking her back.

She cheated on you and lied and broke your boundaries AND she lives far away AND you still took her back. How on earth is she supposed to respect you after that? Who would respect anyone who is that easy to manipulate and that desperate?

8 ) ego

You cared way too much about how this made you feel and cared way too much about trying to salvage a turd. You don't try to salvage relationshits. It's shit because it's shit.

You tried to prove something to yourself that was impossible to prove and pointless to prove even if you had succeeded (which you can't). The second you realize you settled for a bad woman there is no heroism or theatrics to be had proving to the world that you can waste more time on it

Shitty women do not value your efforts (in fact most women don't). Shitty women do not change and any changes you can get them to make involve massive growing pains. Shallow, vapid women will hate you for all the self reflection you made them do.

There is no ego worth spending trying to make a garbage woman appreciate you or love you. They don't care about anything more than knee deep yet you dove in full depth to prove something that should have been you dropping her

Value your peace dude, do you want to be at their level? Why? They will beat you with experience.

Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you." – KJV, Matthew 7:6.