So I was at a bar and I was talking to this girl. She said I’m ugly. Although I didn’t actually believe I’m ugly just because she said it, I insulted back by telling her she looked like a type of food (don’t want to specify because I told my attorney and everything).

Anyway, she told the bouncer and he told me I had to leave. I asked why and he forced me out and then when I was outside he grabbed me and slammed my face on the ground. My nose is broken, I have chips in some teeth and I have cuts on my face.

I called the police and filed a report and found an attorney that has taken my case.

However, I feel like shit because it could’ve been avoided by me not engaging with the girl’s comment. Thinking back on it, I don’t think the bouncer really gave me any reasonable chance to even exist on the public sidewalk before slamming me but I feel ashamed because I shouldn’t have thought I could reason with a bouncer.

I do still think the bouncer was out of line and he took it farther than my actions necessitated, but I just feel disgusting now due to the chipped teeth and broken nose. I’m getting these fixed but still. It’s like part of me is gone, even if they do full in the chips with resin.

How can I move forward and not have these situations happen to me? I think I just need to accept that sometimes you’ll get kicked out even if it’s for a dumb reason but I feel so stupid for letting this happen to myself. Will I ever feel better?

Has anything like this ever happened to any of you guys?

Well, once I started not giving a fuck I went deep into not giving a fuck, so it became a flaw. It has helped to understand WHEN and WHERE you need the validation.

Professionally (for many jobs), you will need some sort of validation, like your picture on "Employee of the month", a raise, a bonus, getting your superiors to applaud you and tell you how good you're doing. So in this case, "validation" is actually just regular positive feedback.

Where I work, teachers need to get a great feedback from the students and the supervisors in order to get a promotion. So you get your feedback, it serves as validation too, and you also get your promotion/bonus/whatever.

I think this is a healthy sort of validation, actually rewarding.

Socially, I think it is a different animal and it will depend a lot on your own mental state and progress. Some need it, some don't. I think I need it in some way too, everyone does. Your girl telling you how much she enjoys your dick or your friends wanting you to cook another meal for them because it was so good, there's many ways to get validation.

Needing a compliment on your looks/clothes everyday doesn't sound too healthy though.

Miss at 36 you are like a Christmas tree seller who is refusing to advertise on the 22nd of December. You have good trees to sell but buy the 25th no one is going to want one. Soon those things will be worth more as woodchip.

Approach potential purchasers or you won't sell your produce. What you are doing -zero advertising is not working. Would advertising make the success rate any lower?

It is a mistake to think that a guy is a permanently switched on pussy seeking magnet. This is like the spergs who look for IOIs in everything women randomly do in a day. Most things we do are not related to sex. Maybe he was just doing his shopping. Maybe he wasn't thinking about pounding some pussy. Try surprising him. You know how good it makes you feel to be approached? Well for a guy its more than double the joy because that sort of thing happens at least 10 times less often in a man's life. Go on make his day. Even if he is taken, he will surely have a smile on his face when he tells his friends day and it won't hurt you a bit.

A mate is not a female right anymore than it is a right for those incels women mock.