I'm no expert but this is what worked for me (also lost my virginity at a late age): You might need more practice socializing. If you are socially nervous, at first you might have to be a good actor. Study how to act alpha, memorize it all, and learn to be a good actor and cover up your social nervousness. If you aren't good at socializing just talk to everyone around you, at work, in shops, going for walks. Talk about whatever and try to make witty comments without coming across as trying too hard. Find things that are funny, laugh at them, and comment to others nearby about them. Build your social circle. It might be easier to meet women that will be DTF through people who already approve of you. But even meeting stranger women, you won't likely be very successful if you aren't good at socializing. Try to accomplish things to intrinsically build your confidence and while that is in process learn how to act like you already have confidence. Are you meeting women from a different culture than yours? It's usually easier to get along with women from the same culture as you.

Three separate dates is not enough to notice a pattern. Keep going.

When going out on dates are you doing something that you want to do that you find fun? If it's a bland place your date will be bland. Your focus should not be on Game. Your focus should be on fun. It's not counterintuitive but absolute truth. The more game focused you are, the more robotic you will look. That's a fail.

Next is your mindset. I come out of the gate fast and sexual right away. Not creepy, but comfortable with sex and talking about it. If women ask you questions or lean in curiously when you talk about sex, you've got them hooked. The last thing to do is escalate.

Keep practicing. The first couple dates you get are usual going to fall flat. They are feedback. My first few dates after my divorce weren't good. But I wasn't used to dating or escalating. After some practice, you'll hone your skills.