I opened a discussion about setting up date plans with a new friend group. The guys: If she says she has plans and doesn't suggest another date = out. The girls: They do this on purpose to see if the guys will chase, plot twist if he doesn't chase a bit he's out. Said they never provide alternatives as they got options/plans enough, and if they think the dude is hot they don't want to seem easy.

I know the girls opinion goes against TRP advice and we shouldn't ask a fish how to catch a fish but it seems in 2026 there is a near total stalemate going on in dating. Everyone holds their cards so close and is playing powergames. The women are getting tons of bad "girlgame" advice from instagram/tiktok which makes it even worse.

For example I met a women at a party, we clicked really well, I made out with her, I thought she was cute beyond a hookup and asked her out and get hit with the classic I'd love to but have plans that day / those days without proposing alternatives. This has happened more then a few times already. 'Baking' is another one both sides do, waiting x amount of days on purpose and the whole thing become a fight to see who cares less.

The girls openly said in real interactions the men (only the men they want of course) have all the power but they try to grab it back during the texting/planning phases of next dates... The further you get on the first interaction the harder they try to grab back the control and play games/tests. Even when they are thinking about the men they want...

Example: Friend A met hot dude at party, she thinks he's above her so she has to play 'girlgame' to even it out. She denies him the date a few times then blames him for being low effort so it wouldn't have worked out anyway, it's of course never her fault... The dude couldn't win here anyway, if he kept insisting he's a simp, if he cuts his losses he keeps his dignity but doesn't get the girl.

It seems a beta breaker could be useful in 2026, don't do what everyone else does... Surely the great minds here must be able to come up with some adjustments besides keep doing the same and add more quantity?

Asks how to stop arguing with women. Then…

I am very big on starting arguments with women.

I want you to think about the title and your statement.

That being said, if it’s about this specific woman, let’s talk the lying. At least in the west, most women at that age have been total sluts for at least a phase, if not most of their adult life. And despite the posturing about how “past doesn’t matter”, they know to hide it. Trickle truth and small lies are some of the ways they do this.

In this case, she probably dated (read: fucked) this guy more recently than she originally said. So that it would look like she had a period of no sex between the ex and you, and it doesn’t look like she’s getting dicked down all the time. If that’s not the case, let’s talk me know.

If it’s about lies in general, there is also the option of just not dating her. Women will all lie to some degree, but if this one is really doing it way too much, just drop her, it isn’t worth it. Up to you though, we don’t have her side of the story or details of other lies.

Yesterday I had an hour long conversation with my LTR about her lying about the timeline of when she dated her ex. I tried to make it about “I just don’t like being lied to, I don’t care about your ex or relationship it’s just that when you volunteer information about people in your life, I would like you to be truthful”. I went as far as taking her phone and making her give me her phone and open messages with her ex to PROVE to her how she’s lying to me.

Called her a liar and said some uncool things

What exactly were you hoping to accomplish?

Because I'll tell you what you did accomplish: she learned to hide her deceit better and to be a more effective liar.

Think about what your goals are. If a particular action doesn't move you closer to your goals, don't do it.

It’s just that I have this aggressiveness within that I can’t seem to let go off and I need to express either through words or violence. I lack emotional regulation and no matter how hard I try I am always stuck in my “get back” mode

I can’t seem to let go off

I need to express either through words or violence

I lack emotional regulation

no matter how hard I try

I am always stuck in my “get back” mode

Stop that.

How can I do better?

Read up on frame.