@Wintergreen

Take non-flaired users’ advice with a grain of salt….

…or advice of any “redpill” retard who just spouts off random shit.

I’ve been traumatized by some of the shit I’ve read in TRP spaces.

I was also traumatized by some shit that the retard who introduced me to TRP said to me, and it took years to even begin to undo this stuff.

Also, the guy who introduced me to TRP was jaded because his ex girlfriend was blowing some dude off-screen while they were FaceTiming while they were together.

Then, AFTER he shoved black pill disguised as red pill down my throat, he got into an LDR with a tatted up single mother in her 30’s (he was like 25), and he said he wanted to “figure out if the red pill is true”. Then she played him of course, because it’s a fucking tatted single mother in her 30s and it was an LDR, and he concluded that the red pill was true. Again, all this was AFTER he black pilled me with his bullshit. I didn’t find out about this LDR until like a year ago, but back in 2020 we were all in a discord group so I knew the hoe through discord and knew she was trash. I have the most complete understanding of how retarded some of these fake red pillers (actually just black pillers, until it suits them to be blue pilled again) can be.

These are the types of people you’re listening to when you take advice from non-flaired retards. This is the same type of guy who says that he would never do xyz, and then he does it.

There is a difference between retards who regurgitate information that is recreational outrage, without having been in the position to actually follow their own advice (and they would fold if they were in those positions), and people who have actually done things and learned lessons and give advice based on their lessons.

So yes, these are my thoughts. I’m no longer listening to non-flaired users unless their advice has no trace of black pill.

The best advice any individual can get is the encouragement to exercise the freedom they possess to choose to question, scrutinize, test, or outright ignore any, if not, all advice they ever receive from others, regardless of who's offering. The flares won't tell you if someone is widowed, divorced, married, single, a parent, sterile, a government employee, an atheist, or anything else that might provide you with context when considering the other party's perspective from which they give their advice. For more aware individuals, this makes it easy to dismiss the assumption that anyone they interact with online are being either honest or truthful.

Unfortunately, we're not entitled to honesty or the truth. You'll have to put in the work to find it and as it's increasingly becoming the case for a lot of people, you will eventually find yourself in situations where you're forced to defend yourself against the treachery of liars. Some of whom will be friends, relatives, neighbors, countrymen, or foreigners installed into positions of authority over you.

Like most every guy who wanders into manosphere, MGTOW, red pill websites or forums, you're stumbling about with little to no guidance. Finding yourself in yet another arena where you have to fend for yourself. The red pill's not just about females or sex, and never exclusively was. Those who believe otherwise are stupid. Those who make, or echo, such erroneous claims are dis-genuine liars, who seek to control, and manipulate what could bring you to any understanding of the truth. Be wary of such people. They conspire to ensure that you continue to fail and suffer in life. Worse yet, these treacherous creatures relish knowing your misery will endure.

@popSilence

I apologize for reaching out again. How do I deal with the regret and shame associated with wasting time. I feel like these negative emotions are preventing me from taking action. I was more decisive back in high school and was a high achiever in general. In college, I feel that I wasted the opportunities given to me and the fact that college is probably the best time to reinvent yourself as a person. What can I do to cope with this? I only have one semester left next year and I am busy grinding for job/school now. Unfortunately, the guilt/shame is causing me to get behind in all aspects of life. Once again, I apologize for the wall of text. I just need a way to get out of the hole because in many ways I feel that I wasted so much especially in comparison to my peers.

I'd agree that you've wasted time, if you were studying in the arts, or humanities, but that's not where computer science resides. Why so down when you're on your way to completing your education?

@OPStolen partly FOMO, and partly a biological urge to spread your seed as much as you can.

Monogamy isn't natural, and it's not for everyone.

But it can be done. I've been monogamous for 20 years now (married 19). There are others who have been monogamous longer, such as @lurkerhasarisen (who is also truly monogamous, having only been with his wife).

You have some difficult decisions to make, and no one can make them for you.

A few things to keep in mind:

I’m perfectly content with the woman I have.

Are you willing to risk never having that again? Most women have no idea how to be good to a man, and if anything, relish being as awful as possible.

This might be a temporary feeling, and might go away.

If it keeps eating at you for months on end, you might just not be cut out for monogamy. And that's OK! Not everyone is!

Just think carefully about consequences/outcomes before you do anything, you know?