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@OPStolen This sounds risky. Maybe you were unlucky last time but imagine if you were unlucky this time as well. It might start to look like more than bad luck, like maybe you were a bad guy/ bad boss. This might not play out well.
Women are attracted to men with any sort of power/ authority. How you deal with it is your choice but these days there seems to be a fashion on for saying "Its the man's fault, he abused his power" not "She couldn't help being a slut" Things were different in the recent past and men and women both had more fun but that's the reality today. I would advise men to be very cautious.
Women also like to use their sexual draw as a way to gain power/ attention from men in work scenarios. Talking it all up to make men thirsty (whether or not to then put out) can give them great validation and power. I can't see how this is particularly good for men though. At best their energy is wasted. When its pointed at your its hard to see past thirst but when its pointed at another guy and you are watching, he does look somewhat silly as she manipulates him.
Be wary. Once you have shot your load up her a few times and the burning urge cools, how will it all look to you and others?
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In september 2023 I got of the hub and stopped beating it. (Virgin at the time) Everything was working fine back then. In the following year I finally started having my first sexual encounters at age 20. However there is 1 little problem. I cant get my dick up. I thought it was because of anxiety or excitement but after 3-4 times that wasnt really the case and Im still left with the same problem. Im now 21, very active, clean diet, good sleep and everything but I cant figure out how to make my dick work again. What should I do?
With the exception of one of our regulars, we're not qualified to offer you medical advise. Make an appointment with your doctor, see them to be sure this isn't a sign of a more serious developing health concern.
@OPStolen you know the risks. Only you can make this decision.
Like she had a whole discussion with me about how good she is at giving blowjobs
I've never met a woman who brags about that shit who is actually good at it, and the ones who are good at it tended not to say anything about it but rather just got down to business.
Do I have permission to do this
Why are you asking internet strangers for permission to do anything? It's your life, your decisions, and your consequences.
Can I shit where I eat for the 2nd time and be successful?
So, as everyone knows, I’m in a long distance relationship. We’ve been dating for 8 months now. My last relationship, I was her boss and we happened to be fucking on the side and then she got a restraining order on me.
At my new job, this girl keeps talking nonstop about sex. Like she had a whole discussion with me about how good she is at giving blowjobs. At work. And another one about how horny she’s been lately. I want to ask for her number. See if I can secure a sick fuck, quick fuck before I go back to my actual girlfriend next week.
Do I have permission to do this or am I about to fuck up my brand new high paying job?
I want to type this in an efficient way because otherwise it can be pages long. will be short and very general.
I feel like I lost my masculinity...
why?
- SSRIs fucked my sexual functioning 5 years ago
- my last girlfriend was japanese and made me more feminine over time somehow (nipple licking during sex, making me wear stupid japanese metrosexual fashion etc)
- General society tries to destroy any masculinity so I cannot find masculine spaces anymore (even MMA gyms are fucking feminized these days... hard to find any hardcore one that trains hard)
- generally everyone around me is fucking feminized as well. I used to want to train like 4-5 hours a day but could not find anyone who would train with me (MMA) now its even worse! its like everyone wants to be a fucking casual
- turning 30 soon, and idk if its age or not but I lost my drive. idk why... i used to have lots of drive to train, etc... even with anhedonia and general "brain damage" from SSRI shit drugs
- i just feel generally, depleted. like my masculinity is just gone, and this shit around me is not helping at all. Is it just me?
If anyone can relate or has an ideas how to relight the fire again let me know...
edit: before anyone says stuff, i already have a good job, i am high level MMA, my fitness is high (although i did get skinnier so I can go lower weight class), my success is generally ok. But, living in NA I am kind of lonely in the sense of not being in a lively place. I do have close friends though. Its way too hard to meet anyone other than dating apps and those are shit.
When you have some time to spare get yourself a pen or pencil, some paper, and sit down. On that paper, write down a list of the things that you've put off doing due to other concerns. Don't worry about how silly or dumb the idea you put off was, just focus on writing them all down. Then take another sheet of paper, and write those things down in the order you think is easiest to most difficult. Then make the time to gradually knock those things out.
Read MoreI am looking for advice from seniors who are from conservative countries (India, to be exact) as the question revolves around spinning plates (or cheating)
Discovered TRP at 17, spent 3 years in red pill rage + browsing blackpill/incel forums
Now, turning 22 soon, started going out and talking to women this year and also got into a relationship with a girl but only last month, I know my bad, I shouldn't have given commitment. Suddenly, I have more girls asking me to meet (they are not aware that I am in a relationship with someone else). Now I really want to meet these other girls and have fun but my mind is pulling me back.
Prior to the pills, I just wanted one-girl, one-family, one-life type of stuff. If I meet go on a date with these girls then I am officially cheating, this is not who I wanted to be. Although the blackpill has helped me lose my feelings but I still haven't lost my morality. But I want to lose it. My mind keeps thinking what if these 4-5 girls find out about each other, my reputation will go down the drain.
And the worst, what if I get physical with them and they find out I am cheating on them, so they might file a r*pe case on me and brutally end my career as well as reputation.
What should I do? I know its common to rotate plates here but that's much more common in the West. Women all across the globe are the same though, hence looking for your perspectives.
As it reads like you've made a firm decision regarding the path you're choosing to go down, given the distances, I can't stop you. If your girlfriend's treated you as Ideally RP men are encourage to train their women to treat them, then be kind and cut her loose before you go down this path. Break up with her so you've both got clear tables going forward, and mentally prepare yourself for this journey in your love life.
If you're really concerned about a female making future false allegation of any sort against you, follow this attorney's example and invest into personal, vehicle, and home audio/video surveillance equipment, so that such situations are never limited to her word against yours. Publish those videos to the internet so her reputation gets more closely scrutinized. However, should you be fortunate to achieve your goal of casual sex, be responsible about it. Don't mislead the women into thinking that their time with you will led to marriage and always use prophylactics such as condoms.
Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read MoreI feel like I wasted my college experience. I am a rising senior at college and I am heavily focused on securing a job(CS) for the upcoming year. Throughout the past few years, I have had some close friends, have been hitting the gym regularly, and mainly I have been focused on school. But now I am coming to the realization that I wasted my college experience. I wasn't too involved in many clubs. I don't have a big social circle. No hookups/gf and most of all no cool "stories" that everyone has of their college days. I don't know what to do at this point. I'm taking a hard course load and have to deal with finding a job after I graduate. Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups. I'm just wondering what I should do and what practical steps I can take.
You're about to graduate college for computer science. You're in a vastly better position to secure employment than those who've only gone through bootcamps and gotten certifications. Unless you're paying for the tuition with a credit card, I think you're smart enough to figure out how to get yourself out of this rut. Don't quit now when the goal is so close to your fingers.
For now, get a pen or pencil, a sheet of paper, and write out a list of all the things you've wanted to do that you've been putting off for whatever reasons. Don't worry about the list being too long, or too short, or filled with anything silly, and just write it out. When you've finished, use another sheet of paper re-write that list in order of what you think will be the easiest to accomplish down to the most difficult. When you've finished writing that second list, make yourself available to do them as time and energy permits.
As for women, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read More@popSilence you sound similar to me when I was your age
You need to make some time for some fun
Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups.
You're just making bullshit excuses there.
A) every friend was once a stranger
B) almost no one cares about a year or two in age difference. Fuck, I'm in my mid-40s, and I have friends ranging in age from early 20s through late 60s.
I'm too drunk to go into this much more deeply than this, but if you want different outcomes, you need to take different actions
1w ago Ask TRP
I feel like I wasted my college experience. I am a rising senior at college and I am heavily focused on securing a job(CS) for the upcoming year. Throughout the past few years, I have had some close friends, have been hitting the gym regularly, and mainly I have been focused on school. But now I am coming to the realization that I wasted my college experience. I wasn't too involved in many clubs. I don't have a big social circle. No hookups/gf and most of all no cool "stories" that everyone has of their college days. I don't know what to do at this point. I'm taking a hard course load and have to deal with finding a job after I graduate. Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups. I'm just wondering what I should do and what practical steps I can take.
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