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Short guys(5.3- 5.5) of trp, hows your dating life?
So I never had any luck with women, perhaps it was because i was blue pilled, Curently Im practicing game and overall improvement myself, but i wont lie to you sometimes the Insecurity about my height really kicks in, dod any of you guys here manage to have a successful dating life/spin plates.
(Married RP) What would you respond to "why do you want me to lose weight?" ?
I know this question is more for r/askMRP but I'm not posting this from my main reddit account to avoid doxing myself and their automod won't let my throwaway through.
Inb4 yes I know I fucked up, I know I should not have ended up in this situation in the first place, but pls hear me out. I'm really struggling to find a solution especially considering the whole "being a refugee" situation (more info below)
Me (29m) and my wife have been married for 1 year. Let's call her Alice (30f). She has expressed her committment to losing weight. It was part of an agreement we made before getting married. We both agreed that we want to take good care of ourselves and get into better shape. Since then I managed to lose about 10kg (I used to be slightly overweight) and started to go to the gym. Alice also went on a diet and started to do sport activities. Unfortunately despite doing this her weight did not change.
The problem is that it has become very hard to have conversation about this topic with her. I'm trying to direct her by proposing new diet plans or finding new dieticians/trainers but she insists on keeping her routine as is. When I point out that this is irrational because the current routine clearly does not yield good results, she starts to ask why do I even care this much. I point out to our pre-marital agreement only to get "so what? WHY do you care so much about my weight?" as a response.
The real answer to this question would be something like "you are very pretty (she is), but because of the extra weight you go from being a 8/10 all the way down to like 3/10. It's killing my desire for you and depresses me a lot because I prefer thinner girls.". Of course I can not give the real answer because I think it would inflict irreperable damage to our relationship. I need a more ethical answer that still grants me plausible deniability and is convinsing enough to be deemed valid.
A couple of things that I feel are relevant:
- Both of us are currently in a refugee situation due to RU/UA war, we live in a foreign country and one of the consequences of this is that I have a much lower SMV in the local dating market comparing to my homeland. I can barely say a few words in the local language though I'm working on it. Because of this I'm very careful about damaging our marriage since the most likely outcome if we part ways is just being alone, which I would rather not.
- Our marriage is good ouside of this problem. I make money, she takes care of the chores, she is generous enough in sex and she's not brainwashed by leftist propaganda. This arrangement satisfies me.
So yeah, I guess I'm just fishing for ideas. I need a line to stick to to ramp up the pressure.
Ramping up the pressure hasn't been working thus far, you need to simply maintain that pressure. If she wants to lose weight, she'll need to make the effort to do so. With your situation being that you're a displaced Ukrainian refugee having verbal communication problems in your host country due to limited language skills is more pressing in my mind. A fat wife doesn't even spike as a concern I can muster interest in.
For now, install a bit torrent client on your computer, head to thepiratebay and download the most recently updated 'language learning pack' for the language spoken in the country you're in. From what I'm seeing, the Russia-Ukraine war may decline down to an armistice sometime next year, so consider enrolling yourself in a martial arts class now, because Ukraine's going to be wild place for the next few years after you return. If you've little or no experience with any martial art whatsoever, I'd strongly advise you to start with boxing as it'll provide you with a moderate level of competence within several months, as opposed to the several years required with other martial arts.
As for the wife, leave her be for now, and focus your energy on things which could otherwise make the situation better. If her fat body is unappealing to you, avoid any further intimacy until she looses weight. No sex, but keep showing her positive encouragement, if she keeps working out. If you're eating out, avoid the American fast food cafeterias. That's stuffs garbage. If she's the one cooking the meals, it might be time for you to take charge in the kitchen and cook a few meals when you can. If she's the one who gets the groceries, then you're going to have to make the time to go and get the groceries alongside her, so you're in a better position to direct the purchases.
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Maisteam blue pill social skill a Advice is most of the time garbage, people here informed me that the "just ask questions in a conversation" advice everyone gives me is trash, are there any redpill resources on this topic
Here are some books I've recommended in the past which might be of use to help you lay a foundation from which you can grow. Such knowledge can be gleaned from either libraries, or browsing all over the internet. Unfortunately, only a few TRP posters have ever actually concerned themselves enough to pause, collect, and organize their own words for posterity.
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@OPStolen This sounds risky. Maybe you were unlucky last time but imagine if you were unlucky this time as well. It might start to look like more than bad luck, like maybe you were a bad guy/ bad boss. This might not play out well.
Women are attracted to men with any sort of power/ authority. How you deal with it is your choice but these days there seems to be a fashion on for saying "Its the man's fault, he abused his power" not "She couldn't help being a slut" Things were different in the recent past and men and women both had more fun but that's the reality today. I would advise men to be very cautious.
Women also like to use their sexual draw as a way to gain power/ attention from men in work scenarios. Talking it all up to make men thirsty (whether or not to then put out) can give them great validation and power. I can't see how this is particularly good for men though. At best their energy is wasted. When its pointed at your its hard to see past thirst but when its pointed at another guy and you are watching, he does look somewhat silly as she manipulates him.
Be wary. Once you have shot your load up her a few times and the burning urge cools, how will it all look to you and others?
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In september 2023 I got of the hub and stopped beating it. (Virgin at the time) Everything was working fine back then. In the following year I finally started having my first sexual encounters at age 20. However there is 1 little problem. I cant get my dick up. I thought it was because of anxiety or excitement but after 3-4 times that wasnt really the case and Im still left with the same problem. Im now 21, very active, clean diet, good sleep and everything but I cant figure out how to make my dick work again. What should I do?
With the exception of one of our regulars, we're not qualified to offer you medical advise. Make an appointment with your doctor, see them to be sure this isn't a sign of a more serious developing health concern.
@OPStolen you know the risks. Only you can make this decision.
Like she had a whole discussion with me about how good she is at giving blowjobs
I've never met a woman who brags about that shit who is actually good at it, and the ones who are good at it tended not to say anything about it but rather just got down to business.
Do I have permission to do this
Why are you asking internet strangers for permission to do anything? It's your life, your decisions, and your consequences.
Can I shit where I eat for the 2nd time and be successful?
So, as everyone knows, I’m in a long distance relationship. We’ve been dating for 8 months now. My last relationship, I was her boss and we happened to be fucking on the side and then she got a restraining order on me.
At my new job, this girl keeps talking nonstop about sex. Like she had a whole discussion with me about how good she is at giving blowjobs. At work. And another one about how horny she’s been lately. I want to ask for her number. See if I can secure a sick fuck, quick fuck before I go back to my actual girlfriend next week.
Do I have permission to do this or am I about to fuck up my brand new high paying job?
I want to type this in an efficient way because otherwise it can be pages long. will be short and very general.
I feel like I lost my masculinity...
why?
- SSRIs fucked my sexual functioning 5 years ago
- my last girlfriend was japanese and made me more feminine over time somehow (nipple licking during sex, making me wear stupid japanese metrosexual fashion etc)
- General society tries to destroy any masculinity so I cannot find masculine spaces anymore (even MMA gyms are fucking feminized these days... hard to find any hardcore one that trains hard)
- generally everyone around me is fucking feminized as well. I used to want to train like 4-5 hours a day but could not find anyone who would train with me (MMA) now its even worse! its like everyone wants to be a fucking casual
- turning 30 soon, and idk if its age or not but I lost my drive. idk why... i used to have lots of drive to train, etc... even with anhedonia and general "brain damage" from SSRI shit drugs
- i just feel generally, depleted. like my masculinity is just gone, and this shit around me is not helping at all. Is it just me?
If anyone can relate or has an ideas how to relight the fire again let me know...
edit: before anyone says stuff, i already have a good job, i am high level MMA, my fitness is high (although i did get skinnier so I can go lower weight class), my success is generally ok. But, living in NA I am kind of lonely in the sense of not being in a lively place. I do have close friends though. Its way too hard to meet anyone other than dating apps and those are shit.
When you have some time to spare get yourself a pen or pencil, some paper, and sit down. On that paper, write down a list of the things that you've put off doing due to other concerns. Don't worry about how silly or dumb the idea you put off was, just focus on writing them all down. Then take another sheet of paper, and write those things down in the order you think is easiest to most difficult. Then make the time to gradually knock those things out.
Read MoreI am looking for advice from seniors who are from conservative countries (India, to be exact) as the question revolves around spinning plates (or cheating)
Discovered TRP at 17, spent 3 years in red pill rage + browsing blackpill/incel forums
Now, turning 22 soon, started going out and talking to women this year and also got into a relationship with a girl but only last month, I know my bad, I shouldn't have given commitment. Suddenly, I have more girls asking me to meet (they are not aware that I am in a relationship with someone else). Now I really want to meet these other girls and have fun but my mind is pulling me back.
Prior to the pills, I just wanted one-girl, one-family, one-life type of stuff. If I meet go on a date with these girls then I am officially cheating, this is not who I wanted to be. Although the blackpill has helped me lose my feelings but I still haven't lost my morality. But I want to lose it. My mind keeps thinking what if these 4-5 girls find out about each other, my reputation will go down the drain.
And the worst, what if I get physical with them and they find out I am cheating on them, so they might file a r*pe case on me and brutally end my career as well as reputation.
What should I do? I know its common to rotate plates here but that's much more common in the West. Women all across the globe are the same though, hence looking for your perspectives.
As it reads like you've made a firm decision regarding the path you're choosing to go down, given the distances, I can't stop you. If your girlfriend's treated you as Ideally RP men are encourage to train their women to treat them, then be kind and cut her loose before you go down this path. Break up with her so you've both got clear tables going forward, and mentally prepare yourself for this journey in your love life.
If you're really concerned about a female making future false allegation of any sort against you, follow this attorney's example and invest into personal, vehicle, and home audio/video surveillance equipment, so that such situations are never limited to her word against yours. Publish those videos to the internet so her reputation gets more closely scrutinized. However, should you be fortunate to achieve your goal of casual sex, be responsible about it. Don't mislead the women into thinking that their time with you will led to marriage and always use prophylactics such as condoms.
Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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