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@Dark108 So, first, a "your loss" answer would be, of course, better, if this was what you truly believed.
Authenticity is quite straightforward: express what you really feel deep inside. The problem being that, in order for the chick to bite, what you feel deep inside must be positive. It's the dynamic behind shit-tests: adversity reveals your mettle or your weakness.
So if you feel shaken, which is, actually, the normal reaction towards rejection, you still can tap onto your perseverance, the belief that you'll still be fine without her. Use that to convey a sense of strength.
I met this girl recently, and I’m open to talking to people in general, so I just started a casual chat. She mentioned she was from Estonia, and since I’ve travelled a bit, I guessed it right. We talked for a while, and she told me she works for a company I’m familiar with (I might’ve overdone it by calling them evil a few too many times, lol).
At some point, I noticed her hands were cold and commented on it, and she said something like, “I’m not that kind of girl.” That kind of threw me off, so I backed off for a bit. Later, as she was about to leave the bus, I asked for her number—more out of habit than genuine interest since we’re in different cities—and when she said no, I said, “Your loss.”
In hindsight, I realise saying “your loss” was kind of stupid and reactive. It didn’t come from a place of confidence but frustration. A better way might’ve been to let her go with something like, “Alright, take care, maybe we’ll cross paths again.” It’s got me thinking about how to handle rejection better and keep the vibe light without trying to force a win.
What are your thoughts on this? How do you handle situations where things don’t go as planned? Do you think saying “your loss” just comes off as salty, and how would you approach moments like this with more abundance?
Read More@OPStolen just try different shit. The public stuff might be good for you. Not my thing (tried it), but if it works for you, run with it.
Also, if you occasionally need to pretend she's someone else, then let your imagination wander
Do I want to introduce my girl to public stuff?
Basically, I want to be able to grope and feel up my girl in public. Public stuff has always been a huge kink dream of mine and I finally have the chance to do it. But, she only agreed to it because I said the sex is getting boring.
Im really getting bored having sex with the same woman all the time. At first she said told me I could cheat on her a few times with her permission. Then she said she’d do stuff in public with me. Now, she’s offering to let me use rope and stuff. But, it’s still the same girl and it’s bothering me. What the fuck do I do to get the sex to be good again?
I kept wondering, “Is this the right moment?” or “What if she pulls back?”
I used to do the same thing back when I was getting started. Here's what I learned through experience back before there even was a Red Pill:
1) if she's attracted to you enough, virtually every moment is the right moment.
2) if she isn't into you enough, no moment will ever be the right moment.
3) you're better off just going for it. That way there's no wondering. Either she kisses back, and hopefully things escalate from there and you get laid, or she rejects you and you can move on with your life and not waste any more time on her. Both scenarios are a win.
Embrace Silences
Yes. Needing to fill every moment with mouth-noise is very effeminate.
I might think of more later. The fact that you're recognizing where you went wrong and where you can improve is good; the next step is recognizing it in the moment so you can change course.
Read MoreFirstly, demote her to plate, which she should never have been promoted from in the first place if you had vetted her properly.
Seconded, @Ithappened8588, and for the love of all that's holy, don't autism up that demotion by announcing it to her ("you are hereby demoted from girlfriend to plate!" or some other retardation).
Demote via actions and treatment.