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Can I shit where I eat for the 2nd time and be successful?
So, as everyone knows, I’m in a long distance relationship. We’ve been dating for 8 months now. My last relationship, I was her boss and we happened to be fucking on the side and then she got a restraining order on me.
At my new job, this girl keeps talking nonstop about sex. Like she had a whole discussion with me about how good she is at giving blowjobs. At work. And another one about how horny she’s been lately. I want to ask for her number. See if I can secure a sick fuck, quick fuck before I go back to my actual girlfriend next week.
Do I have permission to do this or am I about to fuck up my brand new high paying job?
I want to type this in an efficient way because otherwise it can be pages long. will be short and very general.
I feel like I lost my masculinity...
why?
- SSRIs fucked my sexual functioning 5 years ago
- my last girlfriend was japanese and made me more feminine over time somehow (nipple licking during sex, making me wear stupid japanese metrosexual fashion etc)
- General society tries to destroy any masculinity so I cannot find masculine spaces anymore (even MMA gyms are fucking feminized these days... hard to find any hardcore one that trains hard)
- generally everyone around me is fucking feminized as well. I used to want to train like 4-5 hours a day but could not find anyone who would train with me (MMA) now its even worse! its like everyone wants to be a fucking casual
- turning 30 soon, and idk if its age or not but I lost my drive. idk why... i used to have lots of drive to train, etc... even with anhedonia and general "brain damage" from SSRI shit drugs
- i just feel generally, depleted. like my masculinity is just gone, and this shit around me is not helping at all. Is it just me?
If anyone can relate or has an ideas how to relight the fire again let me know...
edit: before anyone says stuff, i already have a good job, i am high level MMA, my fitness is high (although i did get skinnier so I can go lower weight class), my success is generally ok. But, living in NA I am kind of lonely in the sense of not being in a lively place. I do have close friends though. Its way too hard to meet anyone other than dating apps and those are shit.
When you have some time to spare get yourself a pen or pencil, some paper, and sit down. On that paper, write down a list of the things that you've put off doing due to other concerns. Don't worry about how silly or dumb the idea you put off was, just focus on writing them all down. Then take another sheet of paper, and write those things down in the order you think is easiest to most difficult. Then make the time to gradually knock those things out.
Read MoreI am looking for advice from seniors who are from conservative countries (India, to be exact) as the question revolves around spinning plates (or cheating)
Discovered TRP at 17, spent 3 years in red pill rage + browsing blackpill/incel forums
Now, turning 22 soon, started going out and talking to women this year and also got into a relationship with a girl but only last month, I know my bad, I shouldn't have given commitment. Suddenly, I have more girls asking me to meet (they are not aware that I am in a relationship with someone else). Now I really want to meet these other girls and have fun but my mind is pulling me back.
Prior to the pills, I just wanted one-girl, one-family, one-life type of stuff. If I meet go on a date with these girls then I am officially cheating, this is not who I wanted to be. Although the blackpill has helped me lose my feelings but I still haven't lost my morality. But I want to lose it. My mind keeps thinking what if these 4-5 girls find out about each other, my reputation will go down the drain.
And the worst, what if I get physical with them and they find out I am cheating on them, so they might file a r*pe case on me and brutally end my career as well as reputation.
What should I do? I know its common to rotate plates here but that's much more common in the West. Women all across the globe are the same though, hence looking for your perspectives.
As it reads like you've made a firm decision regarding the path you're choosing to go down, given the distances, I can't stop you. If your girlfriend's treated you as Ideally RP men are encourage to train their women to treat them, then be kind and cut her loose before you go down this path. Break up with her so you've both got clear tables going forward, and mentally prepare yourself for this journey in your love life.
If you're really concerned about a female making future false allegation of any sort against you, follow this attorney's example and invest into personal, vehicle, and home audio/video surveillance equipment, so that such situations are never limited to her word against yours. Publish those videos to the internet so her reputation gets more closely scrutinized. However, should you be fortunate to achieve your goal of casual sex, be responsible about it. Don't mislead the women into thinking that their time with you will led to marriage and always use prophylactics such as condoms.
Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read MoreI feel like I wasted my college experience. I am a rising senior at college and I am heavily focused on securing a job(CS) for the upcoming year. Throughout the past few years, I have had some close friends, have been hitting the gym regularly, and mainly I have been focused on school. But now I am coming to the realization that I wasted my college experience. I wasn't too involved in many clubs. I don't have a big social circle. No hookups/gf and most of all no cool "stories" that everyone has of their college days. I don't know what to do at this point. I'm taking a hard course load and have to deal with finding a job after I graduate. Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups. I'm just wondering what I should do and what practical steps I can take.
You're about to graduate college for computer science. You're in a vastly better position to secure employment than those who've only gone through bootcamps and gotten certifications. Unless you're paying for the tuition with a credit card, I think you're smart enough to figure out how to get yourself out of this rut. Don't quit now when the goal is so close to your fingers.
For now, get a pen or pencil, a sheet of paper, and write out a list of all the things you've wanted to do that you've been putting off for whatever reasons. Don't worry about the list being too long, or too short, or filled with anything silly, and just write it out. When you've finished, use another sheet of paper re-write that list in order of what you think will be the easiest to accomplish down to the most difficult. When you've finished writing that second list, make yourself available to do them as time and energy permits.
As for women, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read More@popSilence you sound similar to me when I was your age
You need to make some time for some fun
Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups.
You're just making bullshit excuses there.
A) every friend was once a stranger
B) almost no one cares about a year or two in age difference. Fuck, I'm in my mid-40s, and I have friends ranging in age from early 20s through late 60s.
I'm too drunk to go into this much more deeply than this, but if you want different outcomes, you need to take different actions
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I feel like I wasted my college experience. I am a rising senior at college and I am heavily focused on securing a job(CS) for the upcoming year. Throughout the past few years, I have had some close friends, have been hitting the gym regularly, and mainly I have been focused on school. But now I am coming to the realization that I wasted my college experience. I wasn't too involved in many clubs. I don't have a big social circle. No hookups/gf and most of all no cool "stories" that everyone has of their college days. I don't know what to do at this point. I'm taking a hard course load and have to deal with finding a job after I graduate. Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups. I'm just wondering what I should do and what practical steps I can take.
Read Morewhen a lady tells you about their sexual experiences
lady
tells you about their sexual experiences
Does not compute.
Anyway, she's trying to play jealousy games by invoking retroactive jealousy.
How do you react to that?
Poker face + mental note not to commit to that particular hobag.
Is it rational to be upset when a lady tells you about their sexual experiences with their ex’s and it sounds like they got more than you did? How do you react to that?
I got her number, I texted her a date suggestion, she replied double text with a smalltalk question... Now I fucked up the texting in the past so many times that I try to not text by any means, so I told her straight up that I dont text and suggested a phone call instead. She replied no and goodbye.
I try to chalk it up as doged a bullet and that its fine if she cant handle the not-texting but its bothering me big time. Im now again depressed to a point that this will affect me for the coming weeks, so that Im in no state to approach anyone. There is so much negative shit and worries my brain is spitting out right now, its unreal. This is obviously no way to do things.
Id like to get to the point where failure does not bother me and I can approach constantly. The whole thing with women is full of contractdictions and catch 22s, I cant find a reliable way of dealing with it.
It reads less like you dodged a bullet, and more that you shot yourself in the foot. You seem lazy, but perceptive. Try to be more disciplined and decisive in your actions to overcome your incompetence. Don't text with females to set dates, but rather call them up instead and limit texting to logistics to guide them to a location at the moment of the date. It's a basic mistake a lot of guys young and old will make, but hopefully one you won't repeat in the future.
To better help you with dating challenges like these, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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