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@Thecomputerguy1989 until he wants to change his own life, there's nothing you can do
Maybe if he complains too much, just ask him why the fuck he's putting up with this bullshit, and if he just loves wallowing in misery
Maybe the most you can do is to selectively dump him. I.e. dump that part of him that has to do with his wife. Be there for him otherwise, he's your friend, try to have fun the way you used to back in the old days. And be there for him once his "family" comes crushing down. Or don't, it's your choice.
But since you've tried to talk some sense into him and found a wall, stop being his go-to place for bitching.
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7h ago Ask TRP
How to deal with best friend becoming a total bitch
New here. Long time lurker. This isn’t really about me. I’m not 100% using the red pill but I’m satisfied where I’m at and I’m still learning everyday.
I’ll make this as short as possible. I’m divorced. I’ll never get married again. I get laid frequently and don’t need or want a relationship. I value my freedom above any relationship.
I have a friend who is aware of the red pill and constantly watches red pill content. The guy never takes any action and I told him repeatedly if you don’t act you’re just fantasizing.
He got married to a woman from another country who has two kids, now they have a baby, the guy gets hit in the face and constantly broken up with, kicked out the house, she controls him to the point where he can’t have any friends or do anything on his own or without her “approval.” She just the most immature woman I’ve ever seen. The guy will bitch to me 24/7 about her. At first I listened and gave him my advice. Work on yourself. If she hits you she doesn’t respect you. You need to get away from her and start lifting and playing the field. Focus on your career and if the problem is you weren’t satisfied with the quality of women you were getting then put in the work.
Now, they even have a joint bank account and he doesn’t even have his own anymore. She’s like a 6/7 on a good day. I hardly talk to the guy cuz he’ll just blow up my phone bitching about her and never acts.
The guy used to pull 6s all day sometimes 5s/4s but he was okay with that and didn’t care to get in a relationship. How do you deal with seeing your best friend just become a total bitch?
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So I never had any luck with women, perhaps it was because i was blue pilled, Curently Im practicing game and overall improvement myself, but i wont lie to you sometimes the Insecurity about my height really kicks in, dod any of you guys here manage to have a successful dating life/spin plates.
(Married RP) What would you respond to "why do you want me to lose weight?" ?
I know this question is more for r/askMRP but I'm not posting this from my main reddit account to avoid doxing myself and their automod won't let my throwaway through.
Inb4 yes I know I fucked up, I know I should not have ended up in this situation in the first place, but pls hear me out. I'm really struggling to find a solution especially considering the whole "being a refugee" situation (more info below)
Me (29m) and my wife have been married for 1 year. Let's call her Alice (30f). She has expressed her committment to losing weight. It was part of an agreement we made before getting married. We both agreed that we want to take good care of ourselves and get into better shape. Since then I managed to lose about 10kg (I used to be slightly overweight) and started to go to the gym. Alice also went on a diet and started to do sport activities. Unfortunately despite doing this her weight did not change.
The problem is that it has become very hard to have conversation about this topic with her. I'm trying to direct her by proposing new diet plans or finding new dieticians/trainers but she insists on keeping her routine as is. When I point out that this is irrational because the current routine clearly does not yield good results, she starts to ask why do I even care this much. I point out to our pre-marital agreement only to get "so what? WHY do you care so much about my weight?" as a response.
The real answer to this question would be something like "you are very pretty (she is), but because of the extra weight you go from being a 8/10 all the way down to like 3/10. It's killing my desire for you and depresses me a lot because I prefer thinner girls.". Of course I can not give the real answer because I think it would inflict irreperable damage to our relationship. I need a more ethical answer that still grants me plausible deniability and is convinsing enough to be deemed valid.
A couple of things that I feel are relevant:
- Both of us are currently in a refugee situation due to RU/UA war, we live in a foreign country and one of the consequences of this is that I have a much lower SMV in the local dating market comparing to my homeland. I can barely say a few words in the local language though I'm working on it. Because of this I'm very careful about damaging our marriage since the most likely outcome if we part ways is just being alone, which I would rather not.
- Our marriage is good ouside of this problem. I make money, she takes care of the chores, she is generous enough in sex and she's not brainwashed by leftist propaganda. This arrangement satisfies me.
So yeah, I guess I'm just fishing for ideas. I need a line to stick to to ramp up the pressure.
Ramping up the pressure hasn't been working thus far, you need to simply maintain that pressure. If she wants to lose weight, she'll need to make the effort to do so. With your situation being that you're a displaced Ukrainian refugee having verbal communication problems in your host country due to limited language skills is more pressing in my mind. A fat wife doesn't even spike as a concern I can muster interest in.
For now, install a bit torrent client on your computer, head to thepiratebay and download the most recently updated 'language learning pack' for the language spoken in the country you're in. From what I'm seeing, the Russia-Ukraine war may decline down to an armistice sometime next year, so consider enrolling yourself in a martial arts class now, because Ukraine's going to be wild place for the next few years after you return. If you've little or no experience with any martial art whatsoever, I'd strongly advise you to start with boxing as it'll provide you with a moderate level of competence within several months, as opposed to the several years required with other martial arts.
As for the wife, leave her be for now, and focus your energy on things which could otherwise make the situation better. If her fat body is unappealing to you, avoid any further intimacy until she looses weight. No sex, but keep showing her positive encouragement, if she keeps working out. If you're eating out, avoid the American fast food cafeterias. That's stuffs garbage. If she's the one cooking the meals, it might be time for you to take charge in the kitchen and cook a few meals when you can. If she's the one who gets the groceries, then you're going to have to make the time to go and get the groceries alongside her, so you're in a better position to direct the purchases.
Read MoreAre there any red pill books on social skills?
Maisteam blue pill social skill a Advice is most of the time garbage, people here informed me that the "just ask questions in a conversation" advice everyone gives me is trash, are there any redpill resources on this topic
Here are some books I've recommended in the past which might be of use to help you lay a foundation from which you can grow. Such knowledge can be gleaned from either libraries, or browsing all over the internet. Unfortunately, only a few TRP posters have ever actually concerned themselves enough to pause, collect, and organize their own words for posterity.
1w ago Ask TRP
@OPStolen This sounds risky. Maybe you were unlucky last time but imagine if you were unlucky this time as well. It might start to look like more than bad luck, like maybe you were a bad guy/ bad boss. This might not play out well.
Women are attracted to men with any sort of power/ authority. How you deal with it is your choice but these days there seems to be a fashion on for saying "Its the man's fault, he abused his power" not "She couldn't help being a slut" Things were different in the recent past and men and women both had more fun but that's the reality today. I would advise men to be very cautious.
Women also like to use their sexual draw as a way to gain power/ attention from men in work scenarios. Talking it all up to make men thirsty (whether or not to then put out) can give them great validation and power. I can't see how this is particularly good for men though. At best their energy is wasted. When its pointed at your its hard to see past thirst but when its pointed at another guy and you are watching, he does look somewhat silly as she manipulates him.
Be wary. Once you have shot your load up her a few times and the burning urge cools, how will it all look to you and others?
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