@Majorwookie

My “main” plate had a threesome in college (3-5 years ago). I assume this permanently keeps her in the friends with benefits/booty call position. My conflict is that she is very submissive, sexually available and feminine towards me. In public she’s reserved. I’m anticipating the define the relationship question her from her soon. Could someone help me strategize how to handle this conversation when it comes otherwise I anticipate should just be a plate that drops and I promote someone else.

I have an idea of what I’ll do. Just want to get the communities input.

Thanks

Just as I doubt she only had one threesome in her life, I doubt her divulging such past sexual indiscretions has inspired you to want to ever extend to her any exclusivity beyond the moment you're with her. Regardless, she's a plate, because you know she's a slut, she's undeserving of any exclusivity, and thus expendable. Whatever you're planning to do, I'm hopeful that you'll do what is in your best long term interests and won't mislead them into thinking they're on the path to marriage.

@Bountyful

Newbie to the RedPill, read the sidebar, still fucked up and wrote back to my Ex. Need help with stuff.

I'll start off by saying that I know I should not have done that, but scarcity is a real bitch.

The tl;dr of my life story is that I was a good-looking NEET for most of my early 20s, then I got with this girl, I fucked up a lot and lost frame, she became disinterested but that kind of gave me the force to move on, busted my ass working as a waiter, and get back into Uni (I study philosophy).

I then transferred to another city, distant from home, and some friends I made during these years. Here my flatmates are asocial monkeys, and most of my classmates are younger and/or use the train to come here. I spent most of my life living in solitude but I just can't be arsed anymore, being around people is infinitely better, and fucking women is even better, too.

Now, because I couldn't get anything going, I wrote her back. It was 3 months of no contact.

I expected her just to shut me off, but she kind of did not. Mind you, she lives quite nearby, like a 1-hour train. I told her I wanted to talk to her and see where this goes. She hesitated and then told me, in order:

1) she still likes me and can't see me as a friend. 2) wants to talk to me 3) she missed me and it was hard not hearing from me for all these months

She insisted on making a call, we talked about some stuff, and then she randomly dropped that she wanted to make me taste her new recipe, I told her she could come in a few weeks when I was done with exams, and she was cool with it.

Now... I know, I know, it's my ex for a reason, I know I fucked up and I should not have done that, I know if I had more plates I would not worry about this girl. Still, I got kind of a great response I guess? She even half-jokingly said she was the one coming to me and not vice-versa.

How can I go from here? Should I just chat a bit from time to time, and then tell her to book tickets for the 8th of November in a week and a half? That was my plan, anyway. Straight to the point, and at worst I'll just have an easy fuck.

Other than that, my current problem is probably one of self-esteem. I don't see a viable path to economic independence with my degree. I'll have to switch and make do with what I've got. It's a bit hard talking with people who are 5-6 years younger, telling them I just missed like 5 years of my life being a shut-in for god knows why. I just lie and tell them I worked in between my stops, but I'll get my major at 31 years old instead of like, 23... I am constantly reminded of the time I lost, and while I am kind of proud I got back from the hellhole, I'm still worried about having lost just too much time and chances. I can probably work on my looks and frame, but my economic independence is my biggest gripe. I can go for a major in another discipline once I finish this one, but it'll be quite hard.

I am exercising at home, btw, and will soon hit the gym. Should have done it sooner, I know.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.