The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.
@Kragzen Retroactive LMR/ASD, and the cause will be the setting (trail walk).
Things were good in the moment and she let you finger her, but you didn't close. For whatever reason, if things get sexual but you don't close, there's a high chance she won't see you again. If you push things sexually then you need to be sure that you can close.
The next day, she thinks about what happened and that she got fingered on a trail. It triggers ASD and she doesn't want to see you again.
Your best bet here would have been to:
- Pick a better location for the date so that you could have taken her back to your place
- Stopped at making out, kept sexual tension high and then arranged a 2nd date in a better location.
Back when I used to live with my parents, I wasn't able to take girls back home. So a lot of my dates would be places like parks, trails etc. And they are difficult in terms of coming up against LMR/ASD.
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I recently went on a date with a woman who was slightly older(36) than me(33). She worked as manager in a tech company(I am in defense and make more money than her but her salary was fairly close). Anyway for the date we went on a walk in a park, I wasn't feeling terribly connected but I decided to talk about kink(BDSM) stuff which she was receptive to. I ended up making out with her and fingering her off the trail(multiple times). We didnt have sex but in retrospect I am pretty certain she would of had I gone for it.
Anyway at the end of date she says she doesn't know if she wants to date me or not but she would let me know in a couple days, the next day she messages me and says she wasn't interested. The chick was kind of walking red flag in the context of LTR material(said she was single because no men measured up, dysfunctional relationship with her father, called herself sexually conservative but went to BDSM clubs).
I'm not so much bothered that relationship didnt work out(she was hot but starting to show her age and for a LTR I think I would want a younger girl) but I don't understand why she decided she never wanted to see me again. This isnt the first time I have seen extreme mood swings from women I did sex stuff with on the first date but in her case I don't understand what turned her off to going out again. The whole thing was pretty odd.
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I can understand confusion from not posting,
You may post anything relevant to a trp flair
In the forum. Essentially as long as the post isn't some low effort drivel/shower thought
@MentORPHEUS huh. I had thought you'd fallen into the American trap of calling anyone from anywhere in the USSR "Russian", but if that's what they called themselves, then Russian they must have been!
That's odd. Are you sure they weren't Ukranian?
Forgot to answer this part. This happened in the mid to late '80s, though part of the short lived Reddit responses attempted to project current events and geopolitics onto the tale.
At the time, they mentioned Ukraine in passing maybe once or twice, but never specified identifying as "Ukrainian" much less ever corrected anyone on this point. They called themselves "Russian," and the Student Body referred to them as "The Russians." The American political zeitgeist from Reagan on down through the strongly anti-Russian Republican side of the aisle made no mention of Ukraine as any way separate or distinct from Russia, or its citizens from "The Russians."
The title made a snappy anchor as I thought back on this event and worked on the post in my mind, but the reactions to it make a pointed reminder that a couple of generations have come of age since then, each with a much different POV toward Russia as my son-of-boomers mindset
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I did cross post it on the empty shell of its old self that is the TRP Subreddit
WAATGM feels the same pain
Damn how quickly idiots arrived to crap up the comments section!
Well, maybe not that part. One of the last acts of modding I did before the admins permanently suspended me from the entire site was to change the subreddit settings so that any post or comment from an unknown user went into a queue only visible to mods. It really cut down on the brigading.
why didn't you post this at the TRP forum?
It's been so long since I've written a long form post like this, I was a bit unsure where to post it here.
I did cross post it on the empty shell of its old self that is the TRP Subreddit. Damn how quickly idiots arrived to crap up the comments section! My thanks and condolences to whoever that is still modding the place, for getting it cleaned back up. For all the tism that Reddit is famous for, in the sub's heyday we had a quality following and worthwhile engagement with posts.
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A) why didn't you post this at the TRP forum?
B)
two Russian exchange students from Kiev
Russian... Kiev
That's odd. Are you sure they weren't Ukranian?
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@Vermillion-Rx I can only presume men are always getting a sharpened hunter instincts in unknown environment, side vision etc it sounds like you spent some time in this love triangle, no way to not to get a warning sign and then pay more attention.
trying to push his woman's hands away gently
Dude is getting cucked
lost his woman's soul
You'd think she has one... She doesn't nor manners (as in at least keeping appearances).
She now may be conditioned to think that it is normal to touch dude in the presence of a partner. Even if she wasn't, slut has been born. To uncondition that, would take an effort from the next partner.
@redpillschool it was that thing is we're talking about but in meme form
