@failureneedhelp345

how and where do I approach women?

where are some appropriate places to approach women? im guessing bars and clubs are the go to places? What is the proper way to approach and ask out women?

my looks are not horrible and I can easily talk to random people

If you're looking to hook-up with an alchie, then bars and night clubs are definitely an option, but if you're a good looking guy in decent shape, I'd recommend hitting up AA instead. However, if you're hoping to find a gal with fewer consciousness altering chemicals in their system at any given time, you should try the supermarket, the gym, or even a continuing education class. Honestly, the only thing holding you back as far as talking to people whether male or female, is your own comfort in doing so, and your imagination.

While you ponder on what your next move might be, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@ballubhai

ok gents what could I have done different here wit this girl?

I will try to keep it short.

Met this cute girl at a group trip we took. All of us started as strangers who met on day 1 and by end of a week we were all friends and just good vibes overall. This girl became too close with me. But she had said she had a boyfriend back home. I thought to myself okay I have no chance here and didnt pay much attention too her at all for last two days of the trip.

Lo & behold. It had the opposite effect on her. I think she also saw other women respond to me positively and were taking interest. Last day she held my hands, hugged me for a minute in front of everyone and didnt let go for a while before I left to catch my flight back home.

At one point she even grabbed my feet to massage them when I just casually said my feet hurt and if someone could help me stretch my legs. She just grabbed and started massaging. At one point I did catch her crying outside the hotel lobby where we were staying and I think she was on the phone with her boyfriend because I saw her phone getting calls back to back from a dude.

Anyway I had just boarded my flight and she messaged saying how much she is going to miss me and yada yada about making trips in the future. Now its been a couple of days since this incident and I havent heard back from her. Did she just go cold because she is with her boyfriend now? I know I should have struck when the iron was hot.

We texted for two days back and forth. Nothing too exciting from her side and she hasnt replied to my last text since 4 days now. I know the protocol is to next her and move on. I will follow on that yes, but I am curious what I could have done better so that when some other such situation arises I can be ready.

You could have invested into a reliable ready reference to study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@TheBarber

getting burnt out of women

I'm not intending to complain in this post, I am really grateful for my life and myself. Lately I have been getting mentally to the point where I dont give a fuck about trying at this shit anymore. Not in a good way, although I will say since I have stopped caring as much, it seems like girls are hitting me up more, but not really ones I want. I always overthink the ones I want, even though I do have some abundance in real life.

Last year I had totally given up on trying to meet new girls and then i snapped out of that and started approaching again and fucked some new plates and felt really positive and hopeful about it all, was having fun. but it started to become all I cared about and then I had this extreme desire to have a girlfriend of a quality that I wanted and to stop having sex that i regretted with girls that I wasnt actually attracted to once I realized how much better sex was when it was with a girl i actually wanted. This made me needy and desperate and I killed a few plates this way which I guess was a learning experience.

I havent been giving up I've been trying and failing and trying again, and I guess I'm just sick of it. I know the world doesnt revolve around me, I know I am not entitled to anything, but I am a decent guy. I am in a band, I am in great shape, I do nothing but go to the gym and eat, I am funny and have a cool personality, I race motocross, I have friends, I'm not an autistic fuck. The reason I say that is because the level of girls i am pulling is trash. Maybe my effort level is too low or I am not being confident enough.

I went on a date on friday, this girl from bumble, she was 46 and I am 28. We went and got mexican food and had some good conversation, she likes the gym too. Then I just started driving around and we were talking and she started the shit tests, which i recognized from a mile away and passed with ease. I was enjoying it.( i was proud of myself) then after that every conversation piece we had, she kept talking about nothing but feminist bullshit and it just kinda killed my boner (figuratively) and I knew she wanted dick but I just kinda stopped giving a fuck completely because I didnt even know how to read it, the feminism and endless shit tests about toxic males and trying to convince me that her body count was less than 10 (which i laughed at) and then telliing me she only has sex with condoms (to which i said Id rather just not fuck then) was just enough for me. She was so entitled, and I totally picked up on the fact that her acting like I wasnt hot and wasnt valuable because I was much younger and hot was just a shit test, which I certainly did not fall for or react to, but man it was such a turn off for someone to just be that entitled even though her SMV/worth is fucking trash. I understand that her giving me no validation is normal and I dont expect to be validated by women, but it makes my dick so soft to have a girl like that be so entitled and act like her smv is higher than mine when it couldnt be more the inverse in reality. It doesnt hurt my feelings it just makes me unattracted to you

I'm just sick of the game man. It's not "poor me" type shit, like i dont expect anything, I'm not sad about it, I just feel numb to my desire now like I just dont give a fuck about it. I think MGTOW is gayer than aids, but right now I just feel like no fuckin libido. Like I am so sick of the fucking text games, the fucking devaluation of myself even though I am a good looking, interesting, funny and confident guy. The only thing trait i dont have of a "high value man" is a lot of money. I'm sick of the massive fucking egos and strong independent attitudes. And I dont hate women, I'm not an incel, I love real women, submissive, cute girls. Like fuck this shit. I am sick of having porn thrown in my face every time i open instagram or facebook. I am sick of the simp worship of women and the constant pedestalization and hatred of men. Fuckin such a brainwashing/social engineering campaign everywhere you look, it feels like my sex drive has just hit the off button .

I dont know what to do with it right now

For someone who claims to not want to complain, you do an awful lot of it. Reads like it's for the best that you take a break from it all. You don't need anyone's permission to rest when your feel the need to do so.

During that time, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@adventurousman79

What is everyone’s opinion on travelling with a plate?

• Met hb 9 in my country and I coincidentally was visiting her country later in the year so we hung out on a few occasions.
• she’s aware of my plans to go to Bali later this year and is asking if she can join me
• My initial plan was to go solo just relax , maybe train a little bit and just talk to random people and just have a good time
• But I don’t mind mind bringing her , cos she’s actually pretty fun to be around

What I’m confused about is , I’ve never travelled with a singular female in the past , nor have I ever moved in with a female. If I bring her along I want opinions on which option I should go for:

• a shorter trip just for 3 nights, hit up beach clubs , just take it easy and relax in one central location, drink and kino. I’m leaning towards something like this. Or
• a 5 night trip, where we also go to other areas and travel for maybe like 2 hours in a car etc , visit monkeys in the jungle not just stay around beach. I’m not sure about this option because I feel like the longer you stay with someone and with the setup of moving around etc - more chance for awkwardness, sexual tension being lost, the girl getting adjusted to you, more Periods of silence etc. Especially for someone I haven’t met on too many occasions. In the rational male ( although not the same circumstances) there’s mention of moving in with someone / having to deal with them consistently killing sexual tension/ competition anxiety. I’ve also travelled with male friends before and have found to get sick of them after 3-4 days.

For context , the reason why I’m interested in this foreign chick is because she’s planning to move to my country.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.