@derdeutscher Moze. :-).

I was reading an amusing claim from some spinster that single women are reportedly "happier" than single women. Ahem, as a married man of 21 years, I'm reminded of the joke: A man asks his friend how he's doing. The friend says "I can't complain.". The friend asks: "So that's good?" He says "I can't complain."

Hence, any study that claims single women are reportedly more "happy" is laughable. Women use terms such as "emotional intelligence" but can't decide where they want to go for dinner. They complain endlessly as a form of happiness while, again, if my wife is NOT complaining about something I check for poison in my tea.

I learned about "stoicism" some time ago and sometimes it's taken to an extreme, but on a practical basis, I think it's the notion of finding happiness but not fretting about happiness. That the happiness women out there are the ones who are quiet about it.

@SoGiddy_00

if a dude will follow basic rule...

I will let this slide. Any man who has been here for more than year, knows that there are literally hundreds of rules. And everyone swears by "THE one rule to rule them all."

I get it.

There are MANY rules my friend. They ALL count, ALL the time. Good luck "maintaining frame" every minute of every day for the rest of your life.

Good luck.

do you really think women can pretend that long,

Oh hell yes. I don't "think" I fucking KNOW...

Story time:

I know a woman - a divorced single mom.

We talk some times. Yes, we had (mediocre, but decent) sex, but she likes me more than I like her.

So I am single, and she is still a single mom.

She once told me (paraphrasing from memory):

DD, my divorce has been horrible. Can I tell you something and you promise not to judge? Ok. I just got out of an in-patient psychiatric facility. I felt a mental breakdown coming about a year ago. But I felt like I had to hang on until the divorce happened.

Needless to say I was blown the fuck away.

A. That she felt close enough to tell me, which is actually a beautiful and vulnerable thing to tell me - so she REALLY trusted me.

and

B. Women can literally hold back psychosis- level mental illness until it is convenient to let it out.

I am not shitting on this concept because I have held onto a LOT of emotion so as to not burden anyone around me and to not look weak.

So I get it.

But literal mental illness? Can one REALLY "delay" an emotional/mental breakdown?

Well, I guess so.

Let that all sink in.

Married women can also hold onto heavy things for much longer than a man can.