Can someone validate my theory on why women prefer emotionally unavailable men or chime in with their thoughts?
From an evolutionary psychology perspective, there is an explanation behind why men choose to be emotionally unavailable & hide emotions. Women are attracted only to emotional strengths of men. So when men showcase emotions and show any sign of weakness, women are turned off and thus they are unable to procreate & pass those genes onto the next generation. An adaptive mechanism employed by men is to become emotionally unavailable, which is actually shown to drive women crazy in lust for a man. It is well known that to repair an insecure attachment style takes several years of therapy, if not a whole life's worth of work (which may not even work out). Women believe they can repair a "broken" man and are attracted to the chaotic environment, the submissive relationship, and the lottery-style intermittent reinforcement of intimacy given by emotionally unavailable men. Thus, men with insecurity and apparent "emotional weaknesses" have a method of still getting women (indeed perhaps more women than the normal man), and at the same time a method of healing themselves through the therapeutic benefits of regular sex with women and allowing a woman to try to "heal" them.
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