My addiction to pornography and it's relationship with this girl.

I have watched porn and masturbated for 8 years in a row. It was so much damage that I did to my reward system that I was even unable to cry and believed that I was "emotionally strong". Lie. I had my emotions asleep.

I started NoFap a couple of years ago and my rewards system is improving, yet still screwed up. AND I THINK it's affecting my I THINK Oneitis that I have with this girl.

I mean, I don't know if this is Oneitis or my addiction to porn disguised as addiction to her. (Cross addiction, also known as addiction transfer or Addiction Interaction Disorder, is when a person has two or more addictive behaviors. The addictions can include alcohol or other drugs, but can also include addictions to food, gambling, sex, gaming or other compulsive behaviors.)

In my case, my first addiction is pornography and masturbation, I transmuted it to my addiction to her. But I think it's not ONEITIS, this is where I need your help people.

I want to cry every time she stops giving me the chemicals she used to give me, oxytocin and dopamine. However, after I cry, she doesn't give a damn to me. As if my Oneitis disappeared for a moment. The same thing happens to me with pornography, and I believe that everyone who watches pornography. We enter the porn page with great enthusiasm and when we finish watching the video then we do not care about the pornography, we even feel guilty.

The same thing happens to me with this girl. While she is in her group of her choir (in the afternoon) I feel sad and cry. But I'm done crying and I don't care about her.

What do you think, does anyone here have a porn addiction and went through something similar?

The paradox of TRP | Discussion

I have known about the red pill for more than a year, but these last few weeks is when I am swallowing the pill. For reference, I haven't finished any TRP books, so this is a downside to what I'm about to say.

The Redpill Paradox, a concept that I call the fact that; While TRP tells you you must give a fuck about women, on the other hand, the topic revolves around them. It's like having an elephant in your kitchen and they tell you not to pay attention to it while you're feeding it.

I've come to realize that when you REALLY don't care if your LTR leaves your relationship that's when you don't even need a lot of TRP concepts.

This brings me to the following. TRP is an alternative to the maximum you can get from an attribute like SELF RESPECT and self value.

I think a person with enough self respect and self worth doesn't even care when a girl is ignoring him. Many in TRP call you NEXT HER, but simply saying NEXT HER to a girl is already giving it importance. Why not just play their little game and have a chat every now and then? That is, as a friend and nothing more.

This epiphany came to me (maybe wrong and obviously open to discussion) about how much you can enjoy simply with the company of a woman, without having to get to sex.

A study was carried out on emotional codependency and it was concluded that 95% of 10 000 couples have this situation.

In conclusion, I think that many TRP concepts can be left out and shaped a bit if we have enough self-confidence and self-esteem. If we have high self-esteem, high self-confidence, high self-respect then WE WILL NATURALLY PASS the girls' shit tests, isn't that true?

I like TRP. But I think it is a path (referring to The Game) that we must take once we have built sufficient self-confidence and self-esteem. Because basically, if a needy guy with low self esteem starts playing The Game, this would result in situations like fake it till you make it or imposter syndrome.

What do you think?

It's statistically normal that you have oneitis or codependency | First post | Don't be part of statistics

I have time in TRP (no more than a year tho) and I've learned a lot of things of human nature. However, I still can't apply these because of Corona (can't risk grandma's life. I'm living with parents, 23). But I've exercised mentally and physically.

And I've seen multiple issues about getting over a girl and codependency issues.

95% of relationships, one of the partners has codependency issues or behaviors | ONEITIS behaviors. However, this is based on a past-century research (Virginia Satir). This is for you @RedBird6

What's my point here? If everyone are agree that oneitis behaviours and these toxics mental states are normal in a relationship (because it statistically is) then you won't find answers out there, not that easy at least. Because they don't even know how to get over her. But that's not the goal, getting over here it's the lost. You shouldn't even get oneitis for her. That's game over.

So, my take away here is that follow the TRP path since now for future girls @RedBird6 or you'll get oneitis again.

I remember a guy that said something similar like this in r/theredpill ; "Do I have impostor syndrome?: I was left by this 10-year relationship but I feel nothing". I remembered that he said he was a TRP veteran.

I don't even know how to end this, but that's a thought I had in my mind.

I don't know the rules here, just came 30 minutes ago literally.