@Alpha_Seeker Do the “bad boy” routine to get women’s attention and contact info, then take them on surprisingly romantic dates, on which you can break out your deep side and emotional intelligence. But, be succinct and nuanced with your speech— don’t go on and on about an emotional topic; try to foster a certain mysteriousness and intrigue. Also, turn your date on by getting just a little bit physical, and then if she gives indicators that she wants to go further, tell her you want to save it for later. (Second date is fine.) We are never told this, so it confuses the hell out of us and we think about it until next time, and are then determined to make it happen.

For example, once I went on this date with a dude who initially pissed me off by being an hour late. He showed up in a leather jacket, cracking jokes and not really apologizing. He was somehow charming and assertive and confident. We went to a coffee shop instead of dinner, and sat there and talked until it closed. Then we went to an empty park and had a really deep conversation while looking up at the stars from the swings until 2am. He drove me home, and we made out a bit in his car. I tried to get him to come in but he wouldn’t, pretending to be above having sex on the first date… it’s been years since, and I still remember it vividly.

Don’t be emotionally vulnerable unless you’re really, really certain that the woman you’re with is good LTR material. That sort of intimacy makes men fall in love, and when in love, you can be taken advantage of or hurt. Being too open too fast can also be a big turn off, so just take it slow. Let only a little out at a time, and observe the reaction you get.