The respectability of cheating Vs. chasing:

Men who cheat on their frigid spouses are generally looked upon less favourably than men who keep chasing their frigid spouses. Not only by women, by other men as well. And not least, by themselves.

Granted, the guy who keeps chasing will feel bad about himself from a "value" point of view. And other people will see it as kinda pathetic and sad. But it won't be an issue with morality, ethics, or respectability.

Meanwhile, the guy who solves his problem by cheating on his wife will think of himself as a piece of shit. Other people will tell him he's a piece of shit. And if he asked online: "Hey, my wife doesn't want to fuck me. Should I cheat on her?", the answer will pretty unanimously be: "No don't cheat, cheating is the worst".

But is cheating really "the worst"? Is it worse than to keep soliciting for sex - covertly and overtly - someone who's already made it abundantly clear she isn't interested in you in that way? More dishes, more date nights, more back rubs, more communication. It's like the guy at the pub who keeps coming up to this chick who keeps rejecting him, trying to talk to her, trying to order her drinks.

Now, we all know this doesn't work. And even people outside this space increasingly know it doesn't work. But that's not my point. My point is: Is it even acceptable behavior, compared to just cheating? Is it more respectable behavior?

I would argue not. I would argue that cheating is preferable to chasing - not just from point of view of " what works" - but from point of view of which type of behaviour is more respectable, and morally sound. If the guy who keeps taking his wife on date nights doesn't feel like a piece of shit - and nobody else is telling him he's a piece of shit - why should the guy who simply cheats be seen as piece of shit?

In order of more to less respectability and moral/ethical soundness, I'd rank the three typical solutions to married men's sexual frustrations like this:

1. Leave
2. Cheat
3. Chase

@Durek_The_Bald

Nuns. Surprisingly, a lot of them do porn. I've seen it.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=4uE96qUlJ_4

With how sophisticated A.I. rending has become and a few prelates having been outed as being involved in organized crime, I don't doubt you've seen women in nuns habits in porn, but unless you're naming names, most people will in the least, conclude most of what you saw was actually cosplay and A.I. renderings.

Entho-exoticism is as real a as ethno-masochism, rooted in the same psychological dysfunction that fuels industries like porn as they've always catered to guys with preferences of all sort. Technology only makes it easier for people to find them. The average porn watcher won't care that the person portraying a Muslim female choking on kafir cock isn't actually Muslim, of Arabian, north African, or east Asian descent anymore so than they care that the tribal wearing blacks weren't plucked straight out of Africa or the native dressed women are actually Italian.

At this point, I'm inclined to conclude short of a brain drain, technology will render this all mute. A.I. rendering will continue to advance raising the bar for women entering porn until they simply can't build the starting momentum needed to carve out an audience for themselves. Androids are also developing greater sophistication, so I expect they'll piggyback on the real-doll gain into the recreational sex market space. Frankly, I'd be surprised if guys flush with cash aren't talking about investing into tech pimping, prostitution, and porn with the same excited enthusiasm as guys talk about investing into crypto-currency today.

@TwoInchesOfShaft You can't have your cake and eat it. And the alternative would be much worse.

If you weren't attractive to other women, didn't get approached by them, and didn't somewhat entertain it, you also wouldn't have a happy marriage. You wouldn't subconsciously think, feel, and behave in ways that align with maintaining attraction.

Women want to fuck guys that other women want to fuck as well. Also, women only treat well men they actually want to fuck. The amount of nagging, demands, and general disrespect is inversely proportional to how much she wants your dick.

Hence, you're married to someone who wants to fuck you, and who treats you well. The alternative would be no temptation away, and a crap life at home. You're actually doing your wife a favour by putting yourself out there, so that she too can feel good about what she's got.

Even if you'd fall for the temptation from time to time, that's still preferable to being a guy with no other options, and to be stuck with a guy who has no other options.