I don't want my ltr to be over but I think I'm being a beta cuck, is it unrecoverable?
I've been in a relationship with ltr for 3 years. 20 M, 19 F
I was was staying at her house, when I decided to use her pc untill it got late instead of chilling down stairs with ltr and her mother. I turned on the usual, discord and steam hoping for a quick game with an old friend, when I noticed the first conversation had some flirtatious words...
I was intrigued so I clicked on the chat didn't see anything that would qualify as cheating but once I searched for 'cutie' in the search bar it was flooded with mentions from around 3 months ago, same with 3 other guys on her discord.
I'm a pretty chill guy so we never usually have serious arguments, so I confronted her as calmly as I could. And she admitted to flirting but that was all, I check her chats with the 4 guys and there was no mention of meeting up which verified what ltr was saying. They lived too far away, she met them online and she just wanted male attention from them.
Now at this point I felt like I could forgive ltr and not waste 3 years for ltr being an attention hoe this one time. As she wasn't sending nudes or wanting to meet up.
She wasn't exactly trying to hide anything so I had no reason to believe she did hide anything else but I checked to make sure. I asked for her phone before she could delete anything, and checked EVERYTHING which is hidable. (No need to ask further)
And when I turned on Snapchat I found ltr had been sending boob photos to a guy about 2 weeks ago.
I was at that point I was emotional dead, I was shaking from the adrenaline for about 2 hours although I've stopped now and will probably cry later.
I've had break ups before but never in this long/serious of a relationship. I kept a cool head and ordered an uber as soon as I gathered my belongings without arguing.
I've known about trp for about 5 years, and used the good stuff to make a healthy relationship unlike other men or should I say "boys" my age. I wasn't able to find any answers anywhere so I thought I should make my first ever post to the community, to you.
Extra info.
1) Reclarifying that they all live too far away for them to have met up.
2) Ltr has a LBC and so do I. (No need to ask further) That's not a bad thing for me
3) I've been studying/working and working on myself while keeping a good social life, ltr suites me well. I get sex whenever I ask and ltr loves to please me.
Now my question is, since she hasn't slept with anyone (I'm like 95% sure). Should I continue this ltr?
This reads like a non-issue born out of fear and frustration. You're twenty years old and showing some signs of one-itis. She's also behaving as I'd expect any young adult in a female headed household with unrestricted access to the internet to behave. You shouldn't be surprised that she sent some guys pics of tits, but that she didn't think to send them some other sluts rack shots instead, because that's just dumb. While females do a lot of dumb stuff, so do guys. Unfortunately, that lack of cunning, foresight, and modesty also hints at where her mental development is compared to yours.
The only thing you know is that like most your age, she's a technology dependent dopamine addict taunting thirsty guys seeking female attention online. It's not her fault females get attention just for showing up. That she otherwise treats you well is the only thing that's important, but don't be a fool, wrap your tool, and keep hitting it until you find someone better or you confirm if you've got an unwanted Eskimo brother.
Take the time needed to process your feelings on this discovery before you do anything. In the meantime, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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