@Goingthedistance

First kiss & sex close - the lesson for the emotional guys (shut the fuck up and play it cool, you can lose it later)

After my recent breakup and dealing with severe anxiety and heartbreak, somehow I managed to act.

Will not get into the breakup of my relationship, it just happen recently. I am lost, feeling lonely and heartbroken, jumping from severe anxiety to just anxiety on a daily basis.

As I was trying to keep busy from thinking about my pain, i spotted a chick on social media, I had her as a friend for a while but never spoken with her, i did see her around the city a while so I decided to message her.

I texted her some compliments about the way she rides her motorcycle, I thought nothing of this and moved on with my day. Later she replied that she's surprised that I noticed that and that she's happy for the compliments.

We started chatting about motorcycles and school and life, nothing too deep, just lightweight stuff.

Morning comes and her messages are just the same but she quickly turns into a sad message as she had her Long distance "relationship" end. In my heartbroken pain i decided to just voice message her with simply "You are sad, let me take you out of the house and you will feel better". She rejected my proposal at first but I insisted one more time with "how about I convince you to go out and fell better about today?".

I get the simple text back 5 minutes later "alright, i think i'm going out, where are we meeting?".

We ended up meeting in a good place in the city and what was supposed to be a "1 hour walk and we talk" thing, ended up being 3 hours of walking and talking, then driving her car, then staying in the car for more than an hour.

After much talking and personal insights into ourselves, we ended up french kissing in front of everyone, as the car was parked front first next to a nice place full of people.

We have plans to go out again "As friends" because we are both heartbroken and we need to take it easy. I don't care either way, even if she ends up being just a friend, she's a good addition to my life.

What i've learned here?

• I'm strong yet I don't know it yet.
• Just because some bad thing happened to you, it does not stop you to act on your logic and do something, even if it means risking feeling worse.
• I got game, both in text and face to face. When i was with this chick, i turned her around from "not wanting to kiss" to having a full blown making session.
• Heartbeak hurts a lot, my mind is filled with bad thoughts, but when I was with this chick, my brain was quiet, the pain was less present.

Good on you for making moves on other girls after breaking up with the ex. Study the book, get rid of anything short of the bike that reminds you of the ex and continue to move on with your life.

Hi guys, just wanted to say that I apologize for not being here and for failing you all who gave me advice. My girlfriend broke up with me all of the sudden, no explication nothing.

I wanted to apologize because, while I got results, I got better at banter, at game at navigating life, I was starved for affection and love, and I messed up. I put her first out of my affection for her, my gym progress started to stall because I went there fewer times to have more time to spend with her.

Now I feel like I am back to where I was when i first came here, absolutely shattered, feeling ugly and unwanted. I know that it's the normal reaction of my body and my mind, but it still hurts, a lot.

I want to thank @Vermillion-Rx, @maltys and @Typo-MAGAshiv for always being there for me, and even now with my absence.

With this breakup I've learned a lot about myself, how I'll let things slide for "the greater good". But the best thing I've learned tonight, is just how many close friends I have in this world. I've sent the same lame text to everyone "she broke up with me and blocked me everywhere, I'm alright, just a mess right now".

More than 7 people called me in the span of an hour, offering advice, help, a place to stay if I wanted to spend the night and drink. People with kids, relationships, jobs, marriages, all came for me. I never realized, how much of a change I made to people's lives, I always thought that I was mostly alone with a few guys to talk to on occasion. I was so focused on my own failures and my desire to feel accepted and wanted by everyone, that I never realized, how many people I truly had thanks to my actions.

I hope my ramblings will help someone that feels as bad as me right now. And I apologize to the RP community for trading long term happiness for short term affection.