What causes women to ghost a "High value male"?
For context — I’m 6'2, fit, make close to seven figures, drive a supercar, own my house, and I’m often told I'm handsome (can verify all of this if it sounds like BS). I get that all of that’s superficial, but it’s what women typically say they want in an “ideal man.”
Still, I’ve got dozens of texts (unprovoked) from girls saying they had an amazing date and wanted to see me again… only to ghost or cancel right after making plans.
It’s not like I’m retarded socially or talk politics — first dates are light, fun, and easy.
I’ve even had one girl (later found out she was bipolar) confirm second date, then disappear the next day.
I don’t get it. Intimidation seems too easy an answer — and I doubt most of these women are meeting guys who check more boxes.
That thinking is entirely dependent on the assumption modern women are working down the same exact checklist you are. Unfortunately, while females are generally understood to make terrible decisions, with what you've said over the years it might be time for you to actually consider that they maybe seeking radically different criteria than yourself.
While you may possess traits many men may otherwise see as good, it doesn't necessarily mean modern females in our spiritually demoralized-spiritually lobotomized society will see the man you are as embodying the ideals they've been indoctrinated to seek. Being malleable, or easy to manipulate, is something modern women are encouraged to seek in all men, whether high value or not, and that's one of many traits you seem to lack.
Unfortunately, the traits seen as ideal for modern women to seek in men are some red pill men are actively discouraged from developing, if not abandoning should they realize they have them. This is why so many commenters in RP aware circles encourage hedonism, it distracts you from engaging in any critical analysis necessary to understand the evil of clown world and who rules it. A man who seeks the truth is the most dangerous in a society that openly peddles lies to obscure the truth from sight. Eventually, you will understand this, and come to see gatekeepers as obstacles to be hurdled, or destroyed, if not actively ignored as they are nothing more than the half-witted agents of the diabolical.
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@Kloi yes it’s an ego thing. I approach when IOIs are too heavy to ignore but that’s not as common.
How does one overcome approach anxiety? I’ve had it my entire life.
It’s so contradicting since I’ve slept with women in the triple digits. I can NOT cold approach a woman. I only talk to women if they’re majorly checking me out, which is not common.
I think it’s more of a narcissistic trait than a fear that I’ll actually be rejected. Like being rejected doesn’t validate the sense of self I have.
I’ve overcome every hurdle in my life thus far. I would give anything to have the courage to approach a woman, even if it means being rejected
Reads like you're not interested in wasting energy engaging with females, unless it enables you to achieve a goal.
How does one overcome approach anxiety? I’ve had it my entire life.
It’s so contradicting since I’ve slept with women in the triple digits. I can NOT cold approach a woman. I only talk to women if they’re majorly checking me out, which is not common.
I think it’s more of a narcissistic trait than a fear that I’ll actually be rejected. Like being rejected doesn’t validate the sense of self I have.
I’ve overcome every hurdle in my life thus far. I would give anything to have the courage to approach a woman, even if it means being rejected
@Typo-MAGAshiv I have as of late. I’ve met about 5 or so since that post. All liberal. Could be coincidence but I doubt it.
1 i met at a brewery, slept with her night we met - planned a date, 3 days later I confirmed date and she said “I don’t think we’re on the same page. You haven’t texted me in 3 days”
3 others were at bars and one at dog park.
Slept with 3/5, 1 was low interest it seemed when scheduling date and another I wasn’t feeling.
In summary; feminism is great to sleep with women. Horrible for anything consistent
I gotta say, dating is the worst it’s ever been quite likely in human history.
I live in a big Florida city (not Miami) and 95% of women are liberal feminists.
What is even the point? I wish I didn’t feel shame or I’d just get escorts
@redhawkes probably true. I don’t care so much about sex honestly..
I’ve been on over a hundred dates the past year and a half. 50 percent don’t make it past first date whether it be me ending it or them.
Of the other 50% I’d say probably more than half end it with me or ghost me
I figure nothing to lose so I texted 4 girls that ghosted me in past few months and asked for feedback..
the exact answer was related to “I didn’t think you were really interested in me”
Keep in mind I pay for the dates, let them stay over, etc
How can I even overcome this? How do you seem non chalant/not needy while also displaying interest?
I had a girl end it today because she felt more “like friends”. I picture a fat ugly dude when I hear that - I don’t try to sleep with these women or do anything physical until like date 3/4 and only if it feels right. I’m basically not affectionate at all..
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