@Ill_Will7

Now that I'm done with that tangent.

To keep it simple, spin it as a benfit for her to only be in her name, it's a benfit to come together and always have an exit strategy. Live light and on your feet.

Typically I am and some times she is in a temporary living situation. Renting out a room, short term lease, shitty roommates and once i hit the six month mark either I'm basically living at her place or vice versa.

I enjoy living with a woman. They add a feminine touch that I like having around.

I always spin it as a benfit for us to move in together. Less spent on rent, sleep together every night, meals together, chores get cut in half and then split.

I'm always adamant it should be in her name incase it doesn't work out, I'm the one that needs to go. This typically works because most woman have 10x the shit i do.

I live a very minimalistic life, I own more tools than I do house hold appliances. I have no issue leaving behind furniture I purchased, dishes, the shit you need to live a day to day life.

Most girls think I'm being sweet, putting them first when in reality I'm prepping for a clean break.

You can sense when things are heading south, that's when I start reaching out about places to live/crash out for a month or two.

I have a trailer most my shit can be stored in and left in a safe location out on the farm.

I'm always a good house guest to the point people research out to me, have connections with guys that own multiple rental properties.

This last break up i spent two months in a dump cleaning it out and doing repairs, getting paid for the repairs and covering the utilities.

Now my old roommate from 2014 asked if I was looking for a place as it's his slow season so it's either get a roommate or a second job to cover his mortgage.

@Ill_Will7

That's a longer story.

Lived out on the west coast. Living the life I wanted to live. Soberish, self employed, gym, bjj and boxing, constant hiking.

Moved home for my son as mommy abandoned him. Just to reinvolve myself with the same group of people i moved out there to get away from.

Met her in that circle, she's cried to me 100 times over the past few years about wanting a better life, to sober up, get a real career, blah blah blah.

Basically lying to herself and me once the come down kicked in. I'd hit strides of positivity to be brought back down because I chose to stay with her.

We really clicked, she's got a dope personality and I lied to myself to buy into her lies.

She picked drugs over me, i chose drugs to stay with her. I know, fucking stupid. Not the first time I've found myself in this situation.

Gave up on myself because I knew subconsciously I was living a lie by chosing to stay with her.

She went through my phone and found out I cheated twice. In reality it was probably closer to 45 times over last nine months with 20 different women.

As little as making out or fucking a dozen of them. I basically got shitty so she'd leave me because I didn't have the balls to break it off.

Like i said I was looking at other places as early as May. All i really asked was she sober up a bit, clean around the house, pursue her art and be a bit healthier.

She was a bartender (not when we started dating) and started coming home later and later. Sometimes after I left for work at 5am. Probably cheating herself but denies it to this day. At the very least entertaining other men.

Post break up she showed her true color. Wanted to be friends. Would give just enough to string me along, make plans and bail so I blocked her.

That's when she went ballistic. Started talking shit. Telling people i was losing my mind because I sobered up. Claims and is telling mutual friends I've broken into her house multiple times. She's experiencing drug induced paranoia because she stays out partying until 7am. Wakes up has a drink or three on her way to her 5pm to 2am bartending shift.

I dodged a nuke after taking rounds to the chest for a year. Told her when we started she'd be the last woman I fall in love with from the trap house/bars.

I can't keep going for woman that aren't already working on themselves. They're fine for fucks/short term shit but that's not what I want anymore.

Quality of women I have gone out with has doubled in the last two months.

Thanks for coming to my TED talk.