Could you guys give me a book recommendation with practical steps on how to get more self-confident and develop an alpha frame on a deep, subconscious level?
I know the game and all, but sometimes I have a bad instinctive reaction (sometimes just body language) to some shit tests or new situation. I can hold it back, by just saying nothing for a while and realizing what's happening (my intuitive reaction would fail the shit test / situation). I don't want these close calls anymore.
How can I develop such a deep alpha mentality / frame that I react correctly without getting emotionally triggered and having to wait until I'm clear minded and calm?
Self-confidence usually grows as a result of pursuing and overcoming the various challenges of life. During which time, you come to understand what interests, drives, and motivates you. To that end, I suggest that you get yourself two sheets of paper and a pen.
On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.
When you're done with the second list, get to work. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, then start over. If you need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.
Best of luck to you.
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@Typo-MAGAshiv it depends in which country you're living. There are countries where marriage contracts are really flexible...
I have to correct myself, yes there is no reason to marry. I have a mental model in my mind that marriage equals having kids and a monogamous relationship with a woman.
Do you guys think this is possible in our area? Or would you always end up as beta chump?
@trpcrosstraining disagree. Rollo Tomassi the author of the rational male is married. I don't think marriage is a trap if guy's like him are married.
It really depends on the woman and the man.
Could you guys give me a book recommendation with practical steps on how to get more self-confident and develop an alpha frame on a deep, subconscious level?
I know the game and all, but sometimes I have a bad instinctive reaction (sometimes just body language) to some shit tests or new situation. I can hold it back, by just saying nothing for a while and realizing what's happening (my intuitive reaction would fail the shit test / situation). I don't want these close calls anymore.
How can I develop such a deep alpha mentality / frame that I react correctly without getting emotionally triggered and having to wait until I'm clear minded and calm?
How do you set boundaries? When should you verbally set boundaries? When should you just take here stuff out and tell here you're not together anymore?
@First-light as far as I know it's written in the bible that good sees you as married as soon as you unite(sleep with here) with a Woman (see Genesis 2:24), but that's just my interpretation.
"You have to give her reason to work hard. How the two of you arrive at that in harmony is not easy at all." (I don't know how to quote lol)
Do you have any good resources on how to achieve that?
@woodsmoke No she hasn't, I'm just questioning whether she has genuine burning desire.
What's up guys, I'm new here. I do have a question. Im in my early 20s and almost 2 years into a relationship with a girl that was a virgin before. Rollo Tomassi always said that sex is the glue that holds the relationship together. We fuck like every day we spend together, but I have to always initiate it. Does this mean she doesn't have genuine burning desire? I haven't meet here now in person for about two weeks and I've noticed I can live good without here. But don't get me wrong I like here. Now I'm thinking about breaking up with here and go spin those plates again! ...But there is something in me that says, that I won't find someone better especially with a clean dating history as she has and that booty personality combination. What would you do? Break up and spin the plates or stay in the relationship? Cheating isn't a option for me because I fear the karma and god.
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