1y ago The Hub
@Problematic_Browser I didn't say it would make them happy...but its the natural conclusion of the line of thinking that society has been engaged in since feminism took hold.
1y ago The Hub
@RedPirate751 The reason so many career women are miserable is that they're seen as men.
Less capable men.
They're seen that way because they abandoned femininity and essentially told men "I'm not a woman, not even someone to satisfy your sexual urges" to which men replied "okay."
If you want to make a woman miserable, give her exactly what she asks for.
1y ago The Hub
@MentORPHEUS I actually got a lot of shit on the forum side. I think the most controversial part of the advice was "stop going out and getting hammered all the time chasing women". Got called old, out of touch, and so on. I'm apparently a boomer, who knew!
1y ago The Hub
@MentORPHEUS everything he's said sounds to me like a dopamine issue. All the activities he enjoys (but which are unproductive and unfulfilling) are dopamine sinks: slutty women, video games, alcohol ect. The things which bring meaning and progress to our lives don't give as much dopamine as these artificial sources of cheap, easy dopamine.
I said it for weeks and literally nobody wants to hear that the way to a better life is to get rid of that shit. And this is the result. I remember when this very dude was giving me a bunch of shit for being "jealous of his pull" when he posted a picture of some slut with a bunch of plastic surgery that he met on tinder. And now he's here, whining about how banging cheap whores didn't bring him to a zen state. Imagine my shock.
Guys, the way out is to get your dopamine under control. If you want to have meaning in your life, you have to accomplish goals. That means doing work. And if you want to do work and get shit done, you have to enjoy the process.
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@MentORPHEUS for fucks sake dude, nowhere did I mention the left or the right. Sonetimes it feels like you cling to the ideas of 3 decades ago when you were protesting the Gulf War, a one man crusade to prove that everything isn't the fault of "the Dems".
The elite left AND right have worked together to fuck everyone for a while. Just leave it there for once, haha.
1y ago The Dark Winter
Regardless of one's position on the entirety of socialism et al or zero sum games, Yellow stands as yet another example of money in America getting concentrated into fewer and fewer hands "at the top" to the detriment of hard working individuals in the ranks
It isn't pretty, but the solution is to let them fail. Then that concentrated wealth is spread back out again for someone else to take and have a crack at business.
Employees and employers need to work together. When they don't, things break down. Sometimes the org is big enough to chug along. When it finally breaks apart, everyone loses - and everyone must share the blame.
1y ago The Dark Winter
@Intrepid_Place53900 most lessons are learned the hard way. The ones who took that route will learn.
I think the real problem is meaning. As in, nothing in their lives has meaning. It used to come from things like family ect, but those things have all been on the decline for a long time.
Calling them lazy or whatever won't fix it. They know they are lazy. They see no reason to do more than they are. Like a sort of learned helplessness, where it doesn't matter what you do because the results are always the same.
I'm not gonna pretend to have a plan to fix it. But shaming the ones who feel they are getting offered a raw deal isn't going to work.
1y ago The Dark Winter
@Intrepid_Place53900 something that the statistics overlook is the number of people who decided to start their own business, or work multiple part time jobs. I'm in this camp. I quit my job during COVID because of the ridiculous workplace rules and started my own business so that I would never have my income held over my head like that again. I have a part time gig where I teach an activity that's near to my heart as well. It's good for beer money.
To the stastics I look like a partly employed vagrant, but I'm not. Quite the opposite actually. I'm getting real tired of seeing all the bitching about young men "not working" when what they really mean is "not slaving away at a corporate job for shitty pay with a sword of Damocles hanging over their head". This seems to mostly come from tradcons, who assume that anyone not working a 9-5 is some type of lazy shit.
We aren't living off parents or the government. We're just the first instance of a large group deciding to go off the beaten path with their careers.
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