I'm 15, how do I increase my SMV? For context, I used to be 196lbs at 5'4 this January, now i'm 170lbs and 5'7 I'm working out, eating tons of protein, still in a calorie deficit (my aim is to get to 15% bodyfat, i'm at 25% rn) and doing all sorts of things. I have terrible social anxiety, no game or social skills and my body language isn't very dominant or assertive. What do I do? How do I increase my smv? I don't even actually care about getting girls, only the validation I receive from getting attention. How do I level up?
@Rippyy Invest in your studies. Time you devote to learning will pay x100 in the future.
If you need to socialize more to keep motivated, join a sports team. Even as a Beta (but not as an Omega). It will get you some exposure.
It's a marathon, not a 100m race. Aim at the distance, not the speed.
How do you practically improve your social skills and body language?
I'm 15, how do I increase my SMV? For context, I used to be 196lbs at 5'4 this January, now i'm 170lbs and 5'7 I'm working out, eating tons of protein, still in a calorie deficit (my aim is to get to 15% bodyfat, i'm at 25% rn) and doing all sorts of things. I have terrible social anxiety, no game or social skills and my body language isn't very dominant or assertive. What do I do? How do I increase my smv? I don't even actually care about getting girls, only the validation I receive from getting attention. How do I level up?
For now, be diligent in your actions, patient with yourself, and focus on accomplishing an education that prepares you for the challenges ahead. Find opportunities that challenge you mentally and physically to build up your confidence. Make plans to enter into the trades after high school. That will leave you miles ahead of your peers in the long run. Check out the books tribe to see if anything stands out to you.
Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
Read MoreI am 16 and behind in life compared to others, I just have one question.
How do I become a successful man? (emphasis on both successful AND man)
How does the inner workings of the minds of someone like Batman or Johnny Bravo or any of those brave successful men that are dangerous if crossed but live their own life in contentment work?
How do I make sure that by age 20 I am ahead of the curve significantly?
I am 16 and behind in life compared to others, I just have one question.
How do I become a successful man? (emphasis on both successful AND man)
How does the inner workings of the minds of someone like Batman or Johnny Bravo or any of those brave successful men that are dangerous if crossed but live their own life in contentment work?
How do I make sure that by age 20 I am ahead of the curve significantly?
Take a sheet of paper, a pen, and sit down to a table. Make a list of all the things that you want to do with your life right now. Don't concern yourself with how silly or crazy your ideas might be to others, just write those ideas down on paper. When you've finished, take another sheet of paper and write down 'make my bed every morning' at the top of that list. Below that, re-write every idea from the first sheet to that one with the idea you think is easiest to the idea you think is the most complicated or time consuming.
While you work out how to accomplish everything on that list consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen and torrent sites if the previous link dies.
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Help. I had a breakup and now im weird?
I'm 16, dated a fat chick but I didn't mind cause I genuinely liked her. However, she was flirty with every other guy and posted stories of guys she knew and talked to guys otp at 4am while she hung up on me, didn't wanna hang out etc. Funny thing is she got jealous of my 8/10 female bsf and the fact that girls actually flirt with me and want me. She broke up because I called out her cheating and she was like "wow I can't believe you'd say that and then posted a guy 5 min after our final talk (she thought I unadded her) with heart emojis and I blocked her ass.
She's a classmate and I genuinely liked her and having to see her ruin my friend circle (2 guys have alr unfollowed me and removed me because ofc they're tryna hit so they gotta act all caring) is annoying.
Now comes the problem, I have no feelings towards this. Yeah I feel a little sad and kinda miss things but I don't feel any impactful sadness or motivation after this breakup. I'm completely fine and just hung out with 2 bad bitches today. I outrank her in looks by 20 miles, if I'm a 6/10 she's a 2/10. I know I should have some sort of motivation to suddenly become 10x better but?? I don't feel anything towards anyone at all. I am a little scared that maybe after a couple months of me processing this I'll break down or sum shit.
Everyone around me (that wasn't her friend) gave me the whole as long as ur happy dawg multiple times and I even got made fun of for being w her. The whole time, I was giving her the world and buying her shit and giving her all the love and she was going around flirting w other guys.
So, am I cooked for not feeling any emotions towards this? What do I do to extract that sweet motivation and drive from this event??
Read MoreHelp. I had a breakup and now im weird?
I'm 16, dated a fat chick but I didn't mind cause I genuinely liked her. However, she was flirty with every other guy and posted stories of guys she knew and talked to guys otp at 4am while she hung up on me, didn't wanna hang out etc. Funny thing is she got jealous of my 8/10 female bsf and the fact that girls actually flirt with me and want me. She broke up because I called out her cheating and she was like "wow I can't believe you'd say that and then posted a guy 5 min after our final talk (she thought I unadded her) with heart emojis and I blocked her ass.
She's a classmate and I genuinely liked her and having to see her ruin my friend circle (2 guys have alr unfollowed me and removed me because ofc they're tryna hit so they gotta act all caring) is annoying.
Now comes the problem, I have no feelings towards this. Yeah I feel a little sad and kinda miss things but I don't feel any impactful sadness or motivation after this breakup. I'm completely fine and just hung out with 2 bad bitches today. I outrank her in looks by 20 miles, if I'm a 6/10 she's a 2/10. I know I should have some sort of motivation to suddenly become 10x better but?? I don't feel anything towards anyone at all. I am a little scared that maybe after a couple months of me processing this I'll break down or sum shit.
Everyone around me (that wasn't her friend) gave me the whole as long as ur happy dawg multiple times and I even got made fun of for being w her. The whole time, I was giving her the world and buying her shit and giving her all the love and she was going around flirting w other guys.
So, am I cooked for not feeling any emotions towards this? What do I do to extract that sweet motivation and drive from this event??
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