@Freddie_Crimson I don't go out particularly to meet girls. I just talk to girls I want to talk to when I see them when it makes sense. Like I don't shit where I eat by talking to girls at the gym or work or something like that.
But if I see some bitch at the grocery store and catch some eye contact, I'll just approach and w/e happens happens.
@JimboTheGodFather Take what works for you, and discard the rest.
@Freddie_Crimson This isn't necessarily directly related, but I thought I'd share.
Something that happened to me, and I've heard of it happening to at least a couple of other guys, is that once I got to the point that I realized I could get attention from the 8-9s with some degree of success, it didn't take long before I pretty much stopped caring. Pretty much everything from 6 to 9 started kind of blurring together to some degree when I didn't feel like there was some ceiling.
I think what happened for me is that it clicked that they're really all the same a lot more than they're different, no matter how they look. I also started caring more about how good a girl could make me nut instead of their place "on the scale" so to speak since the two aren't completely correlated.
Best wishes.
Read More@Freddie_Crimson No problem.
It's happening so strongly because your level of attraction is higher to this girl. The long-term solution is to be involved with more girls who are this attractive to you (and really, it only takes a few). You'll simply stop seeing them as special, and your feelings will calm their asses down.
In the short-term, do your best to compensate. If she texts you while you're working, don't respond. Remind yourself frequently that she's still just a girl, etc.
@Freddie_Crimson What's up man?
Untill I met this one girl.
Just for future reference, this line and others like it are tell-tale signs of oneitis, which is exactly what you're developing.
At the most basic level, you have decided that this girl is special. Your reference to her being particularly attractive to you is the biggest part of this. Note that the whole "we generally vibe best" is an illusion that only comes from her being so attractive to you.
You're getting an impulse to exhibit beta behaviors as a part of your programming. You've been trained to feel that you have to do those things to keep her around, and you've been trained to feel that if you do not, then you will lose her.
But it's all a trick. She's not special, and you're completely capable of getting girls just as attractive as her.
btw. sorry if I am posting this in the wrong place, I still don't really get this page.
Yeah it definitely needs some work.
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@Lilrobinzz She's not into you right now, but that's okay. Keep doing your own thing and build yourself up instead of worrying about it. Don't let her response (or lack thereof) dictate to you how you feel about yourself.
@SpecialistGanache I think there are two aspects to this.
First, she's a dumbass teenage girl who isn't capable of understanding the implications of her words, so you should take them with a grain of salt the size of an SUV. Second, you shouldn't be so emotionally invested in her that this shocks you or bothers you in any major way to begin with.
Your macro-level problem isn't about her talking about OnlyFans; it's that you give too much of a shit about her when she doesn't return the same to you.