@SwallowMyPill

Yo. Started new semester = new half year class with new people. Went home with girl after class to do homework, after that we went to her room after and after some time + tension she initiated, and I tried to escalate but she asked if we could just b friends. I said that I'd rather if we could b more than that, but friends was ok (since we're same class didnt wanna outright refuse), but we ended up making out for some time, but she had to go n I followed her halfway to the bus (my home direction anyway) we held hands n' when I said bye and left she called my name to make out in the middle of the road. Next class no teacher and we had alrdy decided to do it together. we met up at school but she said she was tired and wanted to do it at home (without directly inviting me) worst part I was not on my game that day at all, and also tired and should've went home or stayed at school to finish (but didn't) and even asked if we should do it at her place, she seemed tired and conflicted too. we touched and cuddled abit but didn't kiss and tension had definitely deescalated. we finished schoolwork pretty fast and I said she could sleep and I'd just go home. next class she was absent n i thought I'd try reaching out via text to gauge her interest which was completely ignored until hours later with just "no" prolly bad move, was purely impulse). anyway this story was just to give some context. what should i do next/monday? obv. didnt text her further, but should I try and defuse and stay as friends - although I'd rather get back to where we left it day 1 since we get along pretty well. but yea, how to handle this?

If you're really in college and still have the time to pursue females, then I'm disinclined to believe your studying a S.T.E.M. major related field and can only conclude that your diploma will have no discernible worth or value for you in the labor market when you graduate. Finish out the semester as best you can to preserve your GPA, update your resume, and start looking for a full-time summer job come around March. Work during the day, spit game at night, so you can do your sport f_cking while building up a nest egg for yourself while all the dumb kids come out of college with student loan debt. Use the summer break ahead to decide if you're going to go back and waste time, change majors to something with actual value, or keep working and make real professional progress with your life while scoring tail.

As for the female classmate, forget her. The female to male student ratio is insanely in your favor. The chicks increasingly outnumber the guys on college campuses, but that also means more chances of meeting crazy c_nts. If she's inconsistent in her behavior towards you, move on, focus your attention on another chick instead, but remain passively friendly towards the classmate in class.

Beyond that, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.