@mattyanon

We must have grown up in different parallel realities

The differences between some prior time and today are (i) current macroeconomic situation and (ii) the Internet

One of the core issues I endlessly harped on when I still wrote and participated in TRP spaces is that the writer is showing you a reflection of their world view and experiences

Thus a post can be tremendously popular and get all the like buttons but fundamentally be the expression of someone for whom life has "always sucked", never got over their divorce, never had a relationship that wasn't controlling or ended in disaster, and has found their own special way to get attention from....whoever enjoys going here to read this type of shit from the same 8 people

The reason I found great respect for people like Archwinger is they admit their scathing critiques and cynical screeds were written in the bathroom alone while they were upset with their wife/gf/life. That edge fundamentally came from a place of unhappiness

If you put some effort into thinking about it, there's a reason this post is popular here. This post is also telling on yourself.

"They're All Players"

Don't make the mistake most men do - assuming that she's a "good girl" (101 level mistake) or "she's different" (102 level mistake). This is an idealization. The reality is that what women decry in men they call "players" is their own default sexual strategy.

What's a player? A person who maximizes their own options at the expense of their potential partners, regardless of the (stated or actual) wants and needs of said potential partners.

Defining the player

Think of any girl you've wanted, past or present. It's a given she has options - after all, the beauty you lusted after didn't just work on you. But what did she do with these options? Did she play the game your blue-pilled self idealized, and invest heavily in the first thing that caught her fancy? Did she "love" with everything she had, like you thought would win her over? Or did she assess the value of her options, keep many strings pulled just hard enough to stick around, and cycle between various shiny objects?

If you're honest with yourself, Option 2 is the clear strategy of said girl since she first started recognizing and receiving romantic attention.

What if we flip that script...?

Let's enter a fantasy world for a moment and imagine you're a man with options. Before TRP, would you naturally (or even be able to) craft a list of pros and cons of the women in your life, pull their strings to keep them around, and cyclically fuck the ones who seem most interested, available, or attractive?

Almost certainly not. For men, that's a learned skill. In fact, that skill can only be the result of first becoming the guy WITH options.

So what does it mean...?

Becoming a TRP aware man, developing options, and selfishly exploiting them for your own benefit is roughly equivalent to basic, learned-as-a-teenager female sexual strategy. That understanding is the key to unlocking abundance - realizing that what you've worked to attain is available by default to the women you're after.

It seems much less "amoral" and a lot more "fair" once you internalize the idea that they're all players.

Therefore, it is your right to take your hard earned attractiveness and exploit it to maximize your own happiness. After all, she's been doing it since middle school....