11mo ago The Hub
Urgently read this page
That illustration of men's size 15 high heels made me want to urgently lose my lunch!
My take is that most people have a natural set sexuality from birth like straight, gay or bisexual and it is their true sexuality forever and you can't change it.
I personally think there is some nature and some nurture factoring in. After puberty and first sexual experiences (hopefully in that order!) I suspect it becomes less malleable. "Pray the gay away" type preachers, I suspect, do more harm than good regardless of sincere intentions due to working from faulty premises.
On the practical side, I have a strong Libertarian respect for consenting adults to do as they please in the privacy of their bedrooms. Whatever creams your twinkie!
Wearing your sexuality on your sleeve and making it a part of your identity in routine interaction becomes problematic like any other socially uncalibrated behavior. This goes for straight people too, for example turbo sluts and cartoonish Chad characters.
Read More@EndlessSavage I think what you have is exactly whats talked about here - www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/is-my-fetish-porn-induced/
Urgently read this page if you haven't before, very interesting anecdotes too
I think there is enough statistical information and analysis of it by the people over at YBOP to confidently say that most likely it is porn induced brain change that can get reversed by quitting porn completely, and imo, fapping too.
My take is that most people have a natural set sexuality from birth like straight, gay or bisexual and it is their true sexuality forever and you can't change it. And also as a man, to be dominant.
But through porn addiction many people eventually escalate to chronically consuming content of sexual acts that if you categorise them could fall "outside of their sexuality" and become fetishes.
If you do a quick search on the internet you can find endless posts of self proclaimed straight people with fetishes of gay/transexual/femdom P and i do believe many of them really are straight but fell into this trap and developed these fetishes and as we can see, you can cure yourself, by just completely stopping porn use and fapping.
You need to realize that because its a real addiction, short term quitting is not too hard but eventually the brain will really crave it and thats why you experience the resurfacing, you need to be ready for it and "weather the storm" and then you can go a while without it resurfacing but eventually it can resurface a second and third time etc...and each time it will be weaker as long as you stay clean.
For some people and some addictions, they will probably never completely 100% go away but if it really is something you just don't like doing, i think it can become weak enough to where it is just one more intrusive thought that you sometimes get which you can always push away and live your real life only doing what you actually want.
An alcoholic will forever be an alcoholic but it is also possible for him to quit and remain sober for life. They will inevitably get urges/intrusive thoughts to drink, but if they never waver, they can remain sober for life, and i think something like that applies here too.
The problem with this is, accepting that you might forever at times get urges for sexual acts that you really don't like and are ashamed of, and i guess the way out is to stop even labaling it as "pathetic" because it is probably here to stay.
Personally i have intrusive suicidal thoughts, like whenever i am near a knife or a passing car, train or near a ledge, i very consistently get a thought at the back of my mind "I could just kill myself here" and obviously i never acted on it.
I don't know how common this is but either way, its just a fucked up working of my brain that produces a thought but thats all it is, it doesn't torment me, i've just accepted it and i just live not killing myself lol, you can keep living as a dominant man who gets femdom intrusive thoughts rarely but never acted and will never act on them and be fine with it.
Or you can try it and i bet you, you won't actually like it or you will but will be afterwards disgusted and not want to do it again. Something like that but i am sure its a fetish and you can get over it one way or another, eventually.
Read Morei really don't like the taste of alcohol, spending money on something i actively dislike seems retarded, i don't particularly enjoy being under its influence, even if its just a buzz, i aim to get into a similar enjoyable self amused state while sober, i don't want its aid to get there either, and the health benefit of not doing it at all is also something that gives me more satisfaction.
I own it and i don't care about missed opportunities that came from that, i don't talk about it or explain all of this IRL ever, i say i don't drink with fervor and i don't let anyone IRL bait me into this discussion.
this ain't an universal truth, i find myself doing intermittent fasting without even trying or particularly aiming to do it, i can last a good bit without eating without it affecting my productivity.
I don't tend to be very hungry first few to several hours after waking up.
And i even find myself with a clearer mind and stronger drive on an empty stomach (granted i ate well the previous day)
but i think thats the key - eating really well in the window when i do eat the previous day and then my body just feels satisfied for a long time and end up doing intermittent fasting just naturally.
I've built a big eating capacity so i eat A LOT in the window when i do eat and then i just don't eat later in the evening and it stretches all the way to sometimes even past most people's lunch time, sometimes even longer.
Basically yeah, i am a subscriber to intermittent fasting but i am not sure its for everyone, i think its for people who one way or another just naturally have habituated themselves into it, and yeah, i don't do it everyday, i don't plan it, if i feel like having breakfast, ill have it.
Read More@AndrewTatesPancreas How often do you remind yourself about people who objectively have it worse than you due to physical reasons and whatever else you can think of that is more than just a problem of self created mind limitations as yours?
Stop analyzing every little thing and start appreciating the opportunity to not have to fight with major handicaps. You might need something scary to happen to you to wake you the fuck up.
I've seen you do this so many times, you like to go to the definition of things and nerd out about how errrrrr akshually technically this doesn't fit the definition that came from google. Who cares.
Are you trying to eventually find your proper diagnosis or what?
I don't believe in things that take power away from me. - Andrew Tate
Start living and enjoying life, fuck some bitches and then see where you can go from there, Plato.
Read More@AndrewTatesPancreas i think you are spending too much time on here, you should try to be more positive and explore this contrarian trait of yours and if you really wanna keep it. Do read the whole sidebar and overall regain focus and start fixing what you are unhappy with.
I remember some time ago, i'd reply to random comments on youtube or wherever i encountered someone/something i disagreed with and at some point realized that nobody cares and its also just tremendous waste of my own time.
I still catch myself starting to write comments but most of the time i just remember i don't do that anymore, unless i think i can actually help someone or i have some information that could be useful to someone.
@Assad2024 from my "research" over the years in my interest in health and nutrition, to me it seems that everything points to the same thing - if something is unnatural/processed, it probably has some negative effects or its mostly placebo or its just an alternative to some natural wholefood / herb that can give you the same benefit with no side effects in its raw / natural form.
Personally i think you should man up and just drink your tea/coffe with no sweeteners :P
@Assad2024 but i guess that does break your fast so "oh well", if your goal is to make it taste better without breaking a fast then idk, i also think fasting/intermittent fasting has a lot of health benefits but i am not sure you need to do it EVERY day, but when you do fast, you probably want to get to at like 17-18 hours fast
@Assad2024 i drink a green tea every time i wake up with no sweeteners and i don't mind it at all that way. Sometimes i add some cinnamon because cinnamon is a good antioxidant/anti-inflammatory but it doesn't make it taste better.
I think the best thing you can do is use honey if you want to make it sweet and still healthy and natural BUT heating up the honey probably makes the honey itself lose a lot of its beneficial properties, so in this case you would just be using it for making your tea taste better.
Personally i eat a big spoon of raw honey every day but completely separate from the tea/coffee because i use it again for health benefits when its not processed/heated up
1y ago TheRedPill
@Taurimpo very much agree, i don't and don't want to talk about it too, but was saying i am indefferent to it either way, and sometimes you learn about it anyways