@charlemagne111

I (M24) broke up with my ex (F26) two months ago. We were in a long-term relationship that lasted around four years.

About two years into the relationship, I cheated on her. After that, I realized I didn’t have strong feelings for her for a while, but we stayed together.

Later, I had to move to a different city for work, and we started doing long distance. About a month into it, she asked me to break up. I was too naive back then and decided to trust her instead, especially because when we did long distance previously, things had gone well — she would cry herself to sleep, and when we reunited, we were very intimate, having sex daily.

However, after some time, I found out she had been cheating on me for about six months while I was away. Once I discovered it, I immediately ended things.

Even though I know she betrayed me — and despite my own mistakes in the past — I’m still stuck in her memories and struggling to move on. I don't fully discern why I feel this way, knowing that I had also been the bad guy at one point.

Not much to say as time tends to heals all wounds. You had this woman in your life for four years. While I think you should've ended things two years in, you'd have to have no soul to feel nothing after parting ways.

In the meantime, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

I (M24) broke up with my ex (F26) two months ago. We were in a long-term relationship that lasted around four years.

About two years into the relationship, I cheated on her. After that, I realized I didn’t have strong feelings for her for a while, but we stayed together.

Later, I had to move to a different city for work, and we started doing long distance. About a month into it, she asked me to break up. I was too naive back then and decided to trust her instead, especially because when we did long distance previously, things had gone well — she would cry herself to sleep, and when we reunited, we were very intimate, having sex daily.

However, after some time, I found out she had been cheating on me for about six months while I was away. Once I discovered it, I immediately ended things.

Even though I know she betrayed me — and despite my own mistakes in the past — I’m still stuck in her memories and struggling to move on. I don't fully discern why I feel this way, knowing that I had also been the bad guy at one point.

I (M24) broke up with my ex (F26) two months ago. We were in a long-term relationship that lasted around four years.

About two years into the relationship, I cheated on her. After that, I realized I didn’t have strong feelings for her for a while, but we stayed together.

Later, I had to move to a different city for work, and we started doing long distance. About a month into it, she asked me to break up. I was too naive back then and decided to trust her instead, especially because when we did long distance previously, things had gone well — she would cry herself to sleep, and when we reunited, we were very intimate, having sex daily.

However, after some time, I found out she had been cheating on me for about six months while I was away. Once I discovered it, I immediately ended things.

Even though I know she betrayed me — and despite my own mistakes in the past — I’m still stuck in her memories and struggling to move on. I don't fully discern why I feel this way, knowing that I had also been the bad guy at one point.