i am 16 and i want more attraction from girls. i play sports, i go to the gym like everyone says to but it hasnt really affected it. i have had girlfrieds before and got with girls at parties, but its always spontaneous and i never really talk to them before or after that. i feel like it might be to do with how social i am as my friends are very talkative and always going round talking to people whereas i am the opposite. they are all messaging and talking to girls that they like regularly, but i do not have that. i was rejected by a girl not very long ago when i asked to meet her which couldve put my confidence down, and made this happen. i guess i want girls to show interest in me, for the confidence and if i want to get with them i can. i was recently rejected by a girl when i asked to meet her which couldve put my confidence down, and made this happen. maybe im just too focused on girls or something, can someone help me?
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@crabnado Hi, welcome.
Looking at your asymmetric shoulder level, my first question is have you ever gotten screened for Scoliosis?
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@TwoInchesOfShaft Thank you. I play football so i will just do the other things
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14-15 years old. thoughts?
+ i dont know how else to post 2 photos sorry
Spend some time reading Mark Rippetoe's "Starting Strength: Basic Barbell Training". If a copy's not available at your local library or your wallet's light these days, look for it in digital formats on free download ebook sites like libgen or whatever bittorrent sites you frequent.
Mark Rippetoe is an American strength training coach and author. He has published a number of books and peer-reviewed articles. He has a BSc in geology with a minor in anthropology, but no degree in exercise science. He has several decades of experience as a strength coach, around a decade of experience as a competitive power-lifter, and is currently a gym owner. His book is likely going to provide you a vastly better foundation of weightlifting information moving forward in your training than you'll get from anyone here.
Read Morei am 16 and i want more attraction from girls. i play sports, i go to the gym like everyone says to but it hasnt really affected it. i have had girlfrieds before and got with girls at parties, but its always spontaneous and i never really talk to them before or after that. i feel like it might be to do with how social i am as my friends are very talkative and always going round talking to people whereas i am the opposite. they are all messaging and talking to girls that they like regularly, but i do not have that. i was rejected by a girl not very long ago when i asked to meet her which couldve put my confidence down, and made this happen. i guess i want girls to show interest in me, for the confidence and if i want to get with them i can. i was recently rejected by a girl when i asked to meet her which couldve put my confidence down, and made this happen. maybe im just too focused on girls or something, can someone help me?
Which is it? You're either 14, 15, or 16. Next time keep the age you claim consistent in your posts. If it'll help you in any way add it to your profile, maybe that'll help you keep it straight in future. Another user asked something similar a few weeks ago. While his complexion is darker, much of what I told your generational peer some weeks back is just as applicable to your situation as it is to his. Assuming that you're 16 years old with two years of high school left. From what you say as far as physical activity goes, you're doing well, keep it up and read this if you haven't.
Unfortunately, the problem is that in two years your relationship with society will change solely because you had a birthday and graduated high school, so I'm going to give you even more advice and recommended reading to keep you focused, so as to prevent you from putting the chicken before the egg or becoming one of those loser nice guys so many on TRP were, or secretly ashamed that they still are.
Start planning for what you're going to do when you're done with high school. To that end I recommend that you consider getting your hands on both Aaron Clarey's "Worthless: The Indispensable Guide to Choosing the Right Major" and Aaron Clarey's other book "The Black Man's Guide Out of Poverty: For Black Men Who Demand Better" The books are dirt cheap compared to any textbook you'll be getting and will provide you with more value in return. I would suggest you review his blog and youtube account to get a feel for his views on money, dating, relationships, education, and work to see if they're aligned with what you aspire for yourself. However, this comes with a few warnings in advance. The books are both around a decade old, so while they're likely available on websites like libgen and other ebook sites for free download, portions of the information will be outdated. In particular, the suggestion of the military and college. I'd aim for a trade school, welding, vehicle repair, and consider learning a martial art.
As for the ladies, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
If you're currently employed part-time, save your money, buy a reliable used car with lots of backseat space and keep condoms in the glove box. Beyond that, don't rush into adulthood. Enjoy these last few responsibility free years you've got left. Learn what motivates you and above all else, good luck.
Read More@carnold03 Okay i will use your advice thank you. Is it worth going to work with my grandad as he is a builder and learning the trade?
Okay i will use your advice thank you. Is it worth going to work with my grandad as he is a builder and learning the trade?
Anything that you're grand father wishes to teach you, make yourself available to learn. When the time comes for him to leave this world, you will miss him and regret any past refusals to receive his wisdom. Construction is a skill you can take pretty much anywhere you might go in the world even in your own home. If you find it's not for you, there are other trades and vocations to choose from. If you've got your own tools, construction is also a stable summer job option you can tap into to keep those skills sharp, if whatever else you do economically slows down.