Girlfriend Criteria

When I was broken hearted, divorced, angry, confused, and otherwise befuddled with the dating world back in the day, I set out into the ether to find answers. I was lucky to be born in a time when reddit, in particular, was the old real reddit. And I stumbled upon some of you fine gentlemen.

What I could never quite sort out was some sort of method for making LT dating decisions.

First, my judgement was clouded by love, lust, oneitis, etc.

And second, I was never quite clear about my expectations. There were just too many things to consider. However, once I got past the attraction stuff, and stopped thinking about “wife material” things became clearer. I was able to see a woman for who she truly is.

I cannot say I am a world class expert at this, but I am close. At my age, I can sense a bad woman early these days. And that is in part because of the spreadsheet below. I just typed this up for your enjoyment and entertainment, but it is loosely in my head.

When I meet a new woman, I tend to lean on these things as early indicators of fit - because without them, my brain seems to not work so well.

Keep in mind the following:

• These criteria say nothing about her mental stability when stressed or angry
• I have written about intimacy a time or two here (Sexual chemistry + Trust + Respect) without this, the relationship cannot be taken seriously
• One could add a few more criteria, so do that if you wish. These are mine.
• To find a woman under 20 these days is very unlikely. So one could weight each of these differently. I may do that in the future.

If you understand Excel at a basic level, you can easily replicate this on your own.

I hope this helps at least one person here. If it does, then my job is done.

Cheers mates!