@hotsht

How come that be, if at that age the best girls will be in relationships with dudes that "get it", your clubbing days are past you, and you're not anymore in vibrant social environments like college, with lots of freetime, lots of parties and lots of single girls who want to "experiment"?

1) you don't have to stick to women your same age. I'm 44 and have caught women ranging from teenagers through 50+ checking me out. I'm married, but the opportunities are there.

2) there'll be opportunities with women who are between relationships, and for many of them, their relationship doesn't mean shit.

3) I never had any "clubbing days" (unless baby seals count); I've always hated that scene. You can meet women anywhere. I've been approached at Walmart and other stores, and reciprocated back when I was available. Don't limit yourself to conventional pickup venues like bars or clubs or parties. If you're just about anywhere and an attractive woman makes eye contact and smiles at you, chat her up. Even if you don't fuck every single one (and you won't; frequent rejection is just a fact of life no matter how attractive you are), it's good practice.

@hotsht

Hello everyone,

I've recently embraced the red pill and am eager to connect with others on this path. At 26, I've spent much of my life as a die-hard romantic, always treating women with respect and kindness, looking for that perfect symmetrical relationship of care and support. Despite these efforts, I've been through a rollercoaster of relationships with attractive partners. Last year, a painful breakup with my girlfriend—who left me for an older man due to my clingy behavior—was a serious wake-up call. I managed to win her back using strategies from Corey Wayne, only to realize she was a 304 and end things for good.

This breakup catalyzed my dive into personal growth in masculinity and dating dynamics, leading to a phase of casual relationships. However, I eventually fell for someone special, my oneitis, who initially reciprocated but grew distant as I reverted to old habits. I wanted to make her my girlfriend (wrong mindset ik). After two months of dating she read into my intentions and said she wasn't looking for a relationship. I ended up things only to text her again after 3 weeks. We got back to it again but this time I had already read some redpill content and was trying a different approach, practising detachment, treating her like just one more girl and keeping emotional distance. This had a dramatic effect on her interest, she started to go crazy for me and after couple weeks she told me that she needed things to go back to something more "stable" and "linear" (basically: having me back to my beta, clingy ways for her to regain full power). I was blunt and clumsy due to my overwhelming emotional investment: I refused to comply so she dumped me. She was a party girl, unnatural hair colour, openly feminist and bisexual and didn't respect her dad, also bad relationship with her family, so she wasn't long term material. Anyhow, I realized that I lost a great prospect for FWB-sex playmates (also threesome potential) because I wouldn't admit to myself that I wanted sex and fun, I'm still ashamed of my sexuality and my sexual desire and this leads to me being overly respectful and not assertive in sexual encounters.

Now, three months post-breakup, I'm grappling with intense suffering, longing and guilt. I feel like she's the most attractive girl in the world and I could never attract anyone as hot and fun as she was. But, I'm committed to learning from this. I'm focusing on casual dating to better manage my feelings and desires without overcommitting emotionally. I've taken up new hobbies like Brazilian jiu-jitsu, learning how to be a better masculine man, upgraded my wardrobe, looking for a brotherhood and I'm pursuing my ideal job. Next time I'll do things right from the get go. I just wasn't expecting to receive the interest of such an attractive girl. It was the first time in my life that I had dated the "best I can do" girl.

I'm here to share experiences and gain perspectives from those who have navigated similar paths or are curious about this journey. If this community is active, I hope we can support each other and grow together.

Looking forward to meaningful discussions and shared growth.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Hello everyone,

I've recently embraced the red pill and am eager to connect with others on this path. At 26, I've spent much of my life as a die-hard romantic, always treating women with respect and kindness, looking for that perfect symmetrical relationship of care and support. Despite these efforts, I've been through a rollercoaster of relationships with attractive partners. Last year, a painful breakup with my girlfriend—who left me for an older man due to my clingy behavior—was a serious wake-up call. I managed to win her back using strategies from Corey Wayne, only to realize she was a 304 and end things for good.

This breakup catalyzed my dive into personal growth in masculinity and dating dynamics, leading to a phase of casual relationships. However, I eventually fell for someone special, my oneitis, who initially reciprocated but grew distant as I reverted to old habits. I wanted to make her my girlfriend (wrong mindset ik). After two months of dating she read into my intentions and said she wasn't looking for a relationship. I ended up things only to text her again after 3 weeks. We got back to it again but this time I had already read some redpill content and was trying a different approach, practising detachment, treating her like just one more girl and keeping emotional distance. This had a dramatic effect on her interest, she started to go crazy for me and after couple weeks she told me that she needed things to go back to something more "stable" and "linear" (basically: having me back to my beta, clingy ways for her to regain full power). I was blunt and clumsy due to my overwhelming emotional investment: I refused to comply so she dumped me. She was a party girl, unnatural hair colour, openly feminist and bisexual and didn't respect her dad, also bad relationship with her family, so she wasn't long term material. Anyhow, I realized that I lost a great prospect for FWB-sex playmates (also threesome potential) because I wouldn't admit to myself that I wanted sex and fun, I'm still ashamed of my sexuality and my sexual desire and this leads to me being overly respectful and not assertive in sexual encounters.

Now, three months post-breakup, I'm grappling with intense suffering, longing and guilt. I feel like she's the most attractive girl in the world and I could never attract anyone as hot and fun as she was. But, I'm committed to learning from this. I'm focusing on casual dating to better manage my feelings and desires without overcommitting emotionally. I've taken up new hobbies like Brazilian jiu-jitsu, learning how to be a better masculine man, upgraded my wardrobe, looking for a brotherhood and I'm pursuing my ideal job. Next time I'll do things right from the get go. I just wasn't expecting to receive the interest of such an attractive girl. It was the first time in my life that I had dated the "best I can do" girl.

I'm here to share experiences and gain perspectives from those who have navigated similar paths or are curious about this journey. If this community is active, I hope we can support each other and grow together.

Looking forward to meaningful discussions and shared growth.

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Hi there, just had my redpill breakthrough, I wanted to find a community to share experiences and start my hardcore redpill journey.

I'm 26 y.o. Hopeless romantic most of my life. Respect women, be nice and caring, all that shit, although for some reason I've had several relationships with reasonably hot girls. Last year my gf of 1 year dumped me because she "wasn't feeling it" (I had become a super weak needy beta) and she was infatuated with a much older man. It almost killed me. I got her back applying some of Corey Wayne's tools, but then realised she was a 304 and dumped her. I started getting into personal development, masculinity development, dating and increasingly attracting hot women, enjoying myself being heartless. Then, 6 months ago, I met my oneitis-unicorn. She was super attracted to me in the beginning. Thanks to my new skills and persona, we dated for 2 months, and I slowly fell back to my old beta ways. I created covert contracts, giving her care and love gestures to get her to be my girlfriend. She was hot and cold, keeping me at a distance, I could tell she was kind of avoidant. She was kind of an alpha widow, cause she became obsessed with a guy one year back when she went abroad for a year and he didn't reciprocate (they had a threesome with another girl she was dating). She's a hot girl (to my current delusional self she's the hottest in the planet) and clearly in her party years, she sings in a small music band and she feels like a celebrity. I bought into that, became full on obsessed and hyperfocused on her, developing all kind of strategies to make her ask to be my girlfriend. I could've just enjoyed the sex with a hot fun girl, but casual sex without attachments and using a girl for sex is wrong and it's important to be caring and work on the emotional bond right? (now i know i was wrong).

Two months in, after one of my big gestures, she said she wasn't looking for a traditional relationship right now. Me, from my beta mindset, decided to end things. A month later I contacted her, she had missed me like crazy and was up for dating again. Then I tried to be different, Alpha fucks kind of guy, showing no attachment and being more in the asshole personality, more detached. She became obsessed for a short period of time, until she acted out one night getting crazy drunk and making a scene. After that we met up for "talking things" because clearly there was something wrong. She said she couldn't deal with my hot and cold behavior, that she had noticed a change and she needed more stability (basically, she wanted me to go back to my caring, beta self and regain full power). I refused to comply and she dumped me. I could've folded and nuance my strategy, but I was too into my emotions and it was difficult to maneuver, by that point I was already deep into oneitis, super obsessed with her and nothing in my life was giving me pleasure, only getting her more hooked. So I lost her. Then I tried to get her back by "opening up", "being authentic and vulnerable" and to everyone's surprise it didn't work. She had already discarded me, she wants nothing to do with me, probably she spotted my behaviour change as manipulation.

Right now, three months after the whole thing, I'm in enormous pain and guilt. But now I know da way. The problem was getting too attached, not having any other girls, and being too inexperienced and noobie in my self development journey. My emotions quickly got me back to my social programming, focusing on relationship stuff, locking her down, feeling ashamed of my raw sexual desire. I am commited to change. Now I know I wasted a great opportunity to be fwb/sex playmates and have a lot of fun because of my weak emotions. I will get back in game, find a way to meet new women and have casual relationships to learn to master my emotions even if I really like the girl. I'm reading and learning a lot, and hopefully this experience will be a turning point. It has to be, because right now the pain is extreme, I get hopeless and suicidal sometimes. I'm hitting the gym regularly, joined brazilian jiu-jitsu, renewed my clothes and working on getting the job I want. Trying to find hope, faith that this work will pay off, that I can still get back on the horse and do things differently. Finding hot girls to have fun with without becoming attached and needy is my goal in the dating department now. Having options, spinning plates, all that jazz. I'm basically starting over so it seems quite unattainable and like a difficult, long term goal. We'll see.

To anyone who is going (or went) through a similar experience, would be great to talk and share outlooks and insights. Also welcome if you want to share your own experience, your redpill calling. I don't know if this forum is dead but hopefully we can build something out of this.

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