@joyboy I once felt like this. I was a bit spergish, socially atypical, so I missed a lot of subtle social signs and cues that "normal" people take so much for granted that they are invisible. It took a LOT of work and study, from paper books because the internet was still a gleam in Al Gore's eye; but I finally hit a social stride.

If I had just one success it would set me straight. If I had just one success it would set me straight.

Careful with this. It subconsciously sets you up to fail, largely by investing so much hope into every next potential relationship that all vestiges of healthy DGAF and abundance mentality go out the window. People can totally sense this, and it's rightfully off-putting.

Venting is good in the right measure; it can help you let go of anger and sexual/social frustration. After the venting, though, you do really need to get back in the game and grind your way toward the successes you imagine for yourself. It feels contrived at first, but becomes natural and second nature as you internalize feeling worthy of sexual and social success.

@joyboy

Missed opportunity?

Cute customer came in to my store today. While I was ringing her up she was kinda giggling and staring into my soul, talking about random shit. Didn’t think much of it but after she left I told my female coworker I thought she was cute and she said she probably thought you were cute too. (I guess girls have a better eye for this stuff which seems obvious).

The customer came back in a while later to buy another item she said she didn’t want. Then she started talking about how there was a guy following her and how she wanted somebody to walk her to her car, like mall security but she said she couldn’t find any (which seemed sus since they’re always walking around and highly visible).

I told her I would’ve offered to walk her myself but I’m on the clock right now (my poor attempt at flirting) and she was like ohhh ok, maybe I’ll just wander around until the mall closes until I see a security guard, thank you tho.

What do you guys think?

Pretty much. Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Missed opportunity?

Cute customer came in to my store today. While I was ringing her up she was kinda giggling and staring into my soul, talking about random shit. Didn’t think much of it but after she left I told my female coworker I thought she was cute and she said she probably thought you were cute too. (I guess girls have a better eye for this stuff which seems obvious).

The customer came back in a while later to buy another item she said she didn’t want. Then she started talking about how there was a guy following her and how she wanted somebody to walk her to her car, like mall security but she said she couldn’t find any (which seemed sus since they’re always walking around and highly visible).

I told her I would’ve offered to walk her myself but I’m on the clock right now (my poor attempt at flirting) and she was like ohhh ok, maybe I’ll just wander around until the mall closes until I see a security guard, thank you tho.

What do you guys think?