@deeplydisturbed

But why are they so consistently like this? When the divorce rates are so highly skewed towards female initiation? This is paradoxical. If women are afraid of things ending, and use this as a justification for having a career and needing financial “protection”, then why is it that they are so much more likely to end things?

Ok. She's terrified of abandonment, that's just an innate hardwired female thing.

Women do not want their husbands to divorce them because that would FEEL BAD. And if he initiates it, then it's because he's found a better deal and has a better plan. Ego crushing for her. Instinctively terrifiying.

Women ending marriage is separate. She finds a better deal, finds another man to monkeybranch to, talks to a lawyer, realises she has the husband's income regardless of the marriage, and the next time he forgets to take the garbage out at 7.00pm prompt she snaps and pulls the trigger.

No abandonment - she initiated it, she has full financial support, and she has already scoped out the replacement.

So they plan their entire lives as they take their vows in that very church while looking into your eyes, she knows.

Women go into marriage knowing every outcome is secured in her favour. It is not a risk for her. She may hope for the Disney "happily ever after", but she also knows she has an income for life regardless.

@MobusBobus Don't fucking do it.

we just happen to work in the same building/space

You said "in my office".

You literally have women from another company in your office?

Look, don't do it. Even if you really are just sharing an office, it's going to be very awkward when it ends. And you always have to plan for when it ends.

Even if you don't value your job - the fact that you share an office and she has to regularly see you motivates her to run revenge on you after the relationship ends, in order to get rid of you, because of the awkwardness.

This is how women operate. When the relationship ends, if you are still around there is a 90% chance she will try to get rid of you or destroy you, because at that point you are an emotional threat to her.

She is more likely to make false claims against you if she has a reason or benefit from doing so.