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9mo ago Ask TRP

also I am 99% positive that her best friend has a crush on me, she's always looking at me and can't get a word out when I am talking to her (the best friend).

niocs

@Initial-Glove so just ignore him and being cold/indifferent when interacting with him should be the go here in your opinion? We will be going to the christmas market as a group today. I thought about a little comment when greeting him (in fashion of "a the guy who tries to hit on women") and then ignoring him.

niocs

2y ago TheRedPill

@Initial-Glove she left earlier than the others and was texting me all the time when this happened

carnold03

2y ago TheRedPill

@niocs

How should I treat a guy that hit on my girlfriend (when I wasn't there) when I meet him again? He's a friend of one of my gf' female friends

If you weren't there to see it yourself, why should you believe it happened at all? The best suggestion I can make is that you don't treat him in any particular fashion until it happens in front of you.

For now, just have her introduce you to her friends. Listen for her introduction, and pay keen attention to whether she refers to you as her boyfriend or something else. Give all the guys firm hand shakes, fist bumps, or whatever. If there are females in the group, halfheartedly flirt with them until the girlfriend love taps you or something. If all goes well, make plans to introduce your girlfriend to your friends a few weeks later to maintain some symmetry. When you get to mentioning that she's your girlfriend, try to be mock forget that part, "She's my uhm... what do you they call it again, babe?," so you can gauge how she refers to herself for your friends.

Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.

MentORPHEUS

2y ago TheRedPill

Senior Endorsed

@niocs Good luck, you are at an advantage socially but can screw that up being either too light or harsh.

Holding him publicly accountable to the reputational consequences is your play.

I'm picturing in a stage conversation voice toward one but to all at random points in a gathering where he's present.

NAME here will try to ask your GF out... to a guy with GF

No doesn't mean NO to Name, here... to a single girl in group

That kind of thing. Spamming the social search engine with negative associations to his name.

There are strong amused mastery and whiny betaish ways this can come off so proceed with a plan in.mind.

niocs

2y ago TheRedPill

@MentORPHEUS they were in a group setting and he asked her like 5 times if she has a boyfriend and that he doesn't believe her (when she said yes). Thank you for your answer, gonna apply it

MentORPHEUS

2y ago TheRedPill

Senior Endorsed

@niocs What was the context, including did he know you were dating her when he asked?

The most powerful and non butthurt response is to call him out on it in public. Make it known that you know, and make other people in your group see not only his nature but also your frame. A light "I saw your ass in action" with an implied "and might KICK it next time, 'brother.'" makes a good display before everyone.

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