@carnold03 I apologize for reaching out again. How do I deal with the regret and shame associated with wasting time. I feel like these negative emotions are preventing me from taking action. I was more decisive back in high school and was a high achiever in general. In college, I feel that I wasted the opportunities given to me and the fact that college is probably the best time to reinvent yourself as a person. What can I do to cope with this? I only have one semester left next year and I am busy grinding for job/school now. Unfortunately, the guilt/shame is causing me to get behind in all aspects of life. Once again, I apologize for the wall of text. I just need a way to get out of the hole because in many ways I feel that I wasted so much especially in comparison to my peers.
I feel like I wasted my college experience. I am a rising senior at college and I am heavily focused on securing a job(CS) for the upcoming year. Throughout the past few years, I have had some close friends, have been hitting the gym regularly, and mainly I have been focused on school. But now I am coming to the realization that I wasted my college experience. I wasn't too involved in many clubs. I don't have a big social circle. No hookups/gf and most of all no cool "stories" that everyone has of their college days. I don't know what to do at this point. I'm taking a hard course load and have to deal with finding a job after I graduate. Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups. I'm just wondering what I should do and what practical steps I can take.
You're about to graduate college for computer science. You're in a vastly better position to secure employment than those who've only gone through bootcamps and gotten certifications. Unless you're paying for the tuition with a credit card, I think you're smart enough to figure out how to get yourself out of this rut. Don't quit now when the goal is so close to your fingers.
For now, get a pen or pencil, a sheet of paper, and write out a list of all the things you've wanted to do that you've been putting off for whatever reasons. Don't worry about the list being too long, or too short, or filled with anything silly, and just write it out. When you've finished, use another sheet of paper re-write that list in order of what you think will be the easiest to accomplish down to the most difficult. When you've finished writing that second list, make yourself available to do them as time and energy permits.
As for women, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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I feel like I wasted my college experience. I am a rising senior at college and I am heavily focused on securing a job(CS) for the upcoming year. Throughout the past few years, I have had some close friends, have been hitting the gym regularly, and mainly I have been focused on school. But now I am coming to the realization that I wasted my college experience. I wasn't too involved in many clubs. I don't have a big social circle. No hookups/gf and most of all no cool "stories" that everyone has of their college days. I don't know what to do at this point. I'm taking a hard course load and have to deal with finding a job after I graduate. Additionally, making friends and finding social circles feels straight up impossible since I am a senior and everyone has established friend groups. I'm just wondering what I should do and what practical steps I can take.
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