@useddetective

I have a LTR of 6 years and every thing has been great so far. I followed the advice from TRP and have been constantly lifting for the past 6 years, working on myself and my career etc. Now I'm very muscular, hold a license as an MMA assistant coach, my career is going very well and I'm surrounded by good friends. However, I fell into depression and can't think clearly at the moment.

2 months ago my gf moved to another country because we live in a very bad place and I'll move out in a couple of months as well. Though it's not clear that we'll be in the same country because I have some options that appear to be better for my career.

Anyways, a couple of weeks after she left, I started to have feelings for a mutual friend of ours. She's an extremely pretty girl and I always thought that ever since I first saw her. We hung out alone a couple of times already, getting high at her place and chatting for hours. She knows I'm depressed and tries to console me by holding my hand, giving me hugs and kisses on the cheek. It didn't go further from there, and she's seeing someone else at the moment, even though she says she does not want to pursue a relationship.

So as you see, I'm in a very tight spot at the moment. It feels like everything can go downhill very quickly if I act on my feelings for this girl. It's also worth mentioning that my friend group includes both my gf and the other girl, so it's a very slippery slope. But the attraction I feel is too much to ignore. What would you do in this situation?

If I was in your situation I never would've kept a lover for 6 years, I'd have cut her loose at 18 months. Whatever was going on in the relationship, she's failed to win you over to the idea of marrying her and you both had six years to work with. The end outcome is that your lover moved from the unsafe country you both lived in to another country, without you. On some level, I think she knows you've no desire to allow the relationship to progress beyond where it is currently, because you didn't make the move together.

Specific to your current situation, long distance relationships generally don't work and I never encourage men to even attempt to maintain one. You'll both be passing up chances to get together with people at your current locations for a person who is, for whatever reason, absent and unavailable to maintain the relationship they're in with you. Break things off with your lover so you're both free to move on without that string attached or potential resentment.

In future, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.

I have a LTR of 6 years and every thing has been great so far. I followed the advice from TRP and have been constantly lifting for the past 6 years, working on myself and my career etc. Now I'm very muscular, hold a license as an MMA assistant coach, my career is going very well and I'm surrounded by good friends. However, I fell into depression and can't think clearly at the moment.

2 months ago my gf moved to another country because we live in a very bad place and I'll move out in a couple of months as well. Though it's not clear that we'll be in the same country because I have some options that appear to be better for my career.

Anyways, a couple of weeks after she left, I started to have feelings for a mutual friend of ours. She's an extremely pretty girl and I always thought that ever since I first saw her. We hung out alone a couple of times already, getting high at her place and chatting for hours. She knows I'm depressed and tries to console me by holding my hand, giving me hugs and kisses on the cheek. It didn't go further from there, and she's seeing someone else at the moment, even though she says she does not want to pursue a relationship.

So as you see, I'm in a very tight spot at the moment. It feels like everything can go downhill very quickly if I act on my feelings for this girl. It's also worth mentioning that my friend group includes both my gf and the other girl, so it's a very slippery slope. But the attraction I feel is too much to ignore. What would you do in this situation?