Like many men when they first encountered the red pill, I was hooked.

Suddenly my previous questions about gender dynamics, doubts about masculinity, and confusion about why things “are the way they are” were answered by the teachings and observations of men far wiser than myself.

Just like porn, they were all answered by a few clicks of my keyboard, instantly, and at any time, be it on the bus, right before bed, or after a random rejection.

And as much as it busts my balls today to admit, I wasn’t just hooked, obsessed, or even addicted.

I was in love.

Falling in love is one of man’s greatest risks

Love is both man’s greatest motivator and greatest downfall.

Love will make you do amazing and dumb things.

And love is something you need to guard because being completely emotionally vulnerable is like taking a swipe to your jugular and your balls—at the same time, over and over.

You already know to be weary of completely emotionally loving a woman. You already know TRP doesn’t subscribe to blindly worshipping women with blue-tinted glasses like chumps of yore. And you already know the pickings are slim for “quality women” worthy of any—small or large—amount of our emotionally investment.

Why? Well you already know: You have less options and your perspective is ultimately limited by that pussy you’re attached to. That’s why you need to be incredibly careful where and how you seek emotionally fulfillment—that women shouldn’t be the source of it.

And I’m here to say the same protective mindset can and should be applied to your relationship with the red pill.

It’s impossible to make yourself your mental point of origin if you love something more than yourself

Sure, that love will provide you energy to digest any and every last bit of written red literature and temporarily fuel you with the motivation to continue growing a pair and eventually fuck better women without the blue baggage you painfully carried in the past...

But that obsession over that single love will eventually stunt your masculine availability to continue changing and learning not to “finally achieve” TRP ideals—but for yourself.

Because intensely loving any concept, be it TRP or that idealistic future you see with that “cool” 6.5, is never going to allow you to have the intellectual opportunities, emotional availability, or independent perspective to continue growing as unplugged man.

And it’s impossible to truly live your own mission if you’re reliant on a concept to rule your life

That for as many men who engage with TRP by adopting, challenging, and building upon the wisdom here, there are many who blindly and unknowingly invest the majority of their energy into trying to “be the top-top alpha” or “unravel every last dirty truth about women.”

Both types of men do practice a TRP mindset but the second man can never grow past this stage because he’s too preoccupied with following a mentality that works for others instead of building upon it and creating one for himself.

Indeed, the second man has fully invested long term in a direction not set by himself, which slowly erodes one of the key traits of masculinity: genuinely independence.

All men eventually love but only the foolish will perish from it

I know what you’re thinking.

You’re probably thinking it's pretty hypocritical to be recommending letting go of your loving embrace of TRP but at the same time writing this all in a post to be carefully read and reflected upon in TRP.

I’m not saying to stop reading or learning TRP.

I’m just saying there’s a fine line between using TRP as one of your many personal lens or masculine tools and using the TRP as dogma and your one and only end goal in life.

There may not be more than fucking hot bitches or writing cool red philosophy anymore. The new set of books creates a daunting landscape for men.

But it will only be more daunting and difficult for you to own your life if you’re only living by what you read, instead of living by what you do.

TRP was always about observing and acting upon those observations.

I think for many of us our observation time is up.

We must act.

Tip Bancroft for their post.